So I approached this HB7 yesterday at the bus stop. Told her I thought she's cute so I wanted to say hi. First time I've been so direct in my life but it went surprisingly well. Number closed her.

I texted her straight away "Omg, who's that cute guy you were talking to? :p". She took a few hours to reply but eventually replied something adding to the banter.

I texted her "I'm not much of a texter, what's a good time to call". She said "9". So I called her at 9 pm. Had a small chat about general stuff..she's a student..she's in her final year and got her last exams coming up next week tuesday and thursday...and after that she said she's going back to her hometown (London) and back next weekend.

I told her I want to see her and asked when's she's free..so she said when she gets back next weekend...so I told her I'll call her next friday.

So my question is till next friday what should I be doing? Should I keep texting her now and then or call her a few times at 9 pm to say hi just to keep her interest level? She lives near the university and there's a coffee place near there so should I say "I'm on campus tomorrow, thinking of getting a coffee..take a 30 minute break from revision and join me". Or should I just wait till next weekend?

Oh yeah she told me it's her birthday on Wednesday...should I text her happy birthday? I've only just met her so not sure.

Help guys!

Oh and we're both asian (south asian), not sure if that's relevant.

Stop texting to her that will become boring after some time. Keep your conversation short let her think about you. Be mysterious. Wish her for the exam. If she feel that you are being needy she will lose interest. So let her invest in you. Connect with her emotionally (south Asian). Let see if she going to invite you on her b'day.

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It'll get boring? Ridiculous. He just met her.

Please don't listen to this advice OP.

I swear I do not understand why this guy gives cookie-cutter advice that's isn't even situation-appropriate.

Yes text her on her birthday.

And no, just let her finish her exams. Pestering for a date while she's trying to get through school is needy and a dick move.

Thanks for the advice guys.

When I called her on friday night I thought it went quite well and she was laughing and asking me questions about myself etc...I texted her if she's on fbook later and she gave me her full name...i couldn't add her since she has some security setting on so I texted her my name...she said she'd add me but she didn't...

I called her saturday night around 9.30 pm but she didn't pick up and didn't text or anything. Haven't contacted her since...not sure if these are all IODs or just because she's busy with exams...

I thought maybe leave her alone for a few days...maybe text her on her birthday (Wednesday) and then Friday to arrange a meet...or should I try and get more rapport by texting back and forth for a while on Thursday/Friday first before suggesting a meet up for coffee or something?

Did you actually read what I wrote? Pretty sure I told you exactly what to do...

don't chase at all. Your SPAM your power that way. Imagine you are a magnet and are on neutral ground but you are trying to be pulled to her side. Let her pull you a little bit, but then go back to your neutral ground. Never let her pull you, and then follow her all the way to her side like an over eager dog. Because once she feels like she has got you, that your hers, the challenge is over for her and its game over. Women love a challenge.
You must always go back to your neutral ground. Think of yourself as the prize. Go on with your life, your hobbies, your passions as though she does not exist and that she has to make a loud bang!!!....to get your attention. Then when she has made an effort to get your attention you reward her by giving her a little bit of your time and attention. Always let her make the move, she is trying to sell herself. She is trying to work hard to get sex from you, not the other way around. Sex is your reward to give. Women love a challenge.
Never be too available because women find it unattractive, and your doing this by texting her all the time. And always infer that you have other women around so that she feels as though she has competition. Women love a challenge.

You may think its courteous and gentlemanly to call her dead on 9pm when you say you will, and it is gentlemanly. But women don't see it that way and it wont do you any favours. They see it that you have no one else, and that you need her and her validation.

Hey Cold,

For future reference, do not give exact times or dates in which you'll call. For one a chick holds you to your word, and you never know if you'll be able to follow through for one reason or another, and for two.. you want her to wonder. This is an example of adding mysterious that isn't ridiculous like the advice given by philosophy. Say things like " Alright, I'll give you a call later" or " I'll text you later". It's open for interpretation and it leaves you time to text or call whenever you get ready.

Text her for her birthday man. Why not? Be cool. Say whats up. Engage, develop the connection. You don't have to be worried about that fizzling out because you aren't seeing her. That worry is the same worry that destroys attraction. And the non worry creates attraction.

Now of course you aren't going to go over board, but some light playful banter between you two is only going to add to the seduction. This is foreplay. Foreplay doesn't just begin in the bedroom. And it doesn't start out sexual. Texting is foreplay, banter is foreplay, dating is foreplay, its all leading up to the moment in which you guys will eventually have sex.

Fear destroys attraction. If you feel "unsure" or "anxious" don't text. Wait a couple hours until your emotions settle, because anything you text from an "unsure" frame will be a strike against the attraction. But when their is certainty and there is confidence it doesn't really make a difference.

This is the easy part bro. The hard part was the courage you mustered up to approach. The first phone call.. Now you just cruise to the finish.

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So wednesday was her birthday...I texted her and tried to add a joke/hook to get her interested: "Happy birthday [her name]. I saw a cat yesterday and it reminded me of you. I hope you haven't turned into a cat."

It's been 24 hours and she hasn't replied...I know her final exam is on today (thursday) but I'm guessing she's not interested.

I'm wondering what mistake i made...the initial interaction on friday seemed to have gone well and she was shit testing me...the phone call on friday night was also pretty good i thought and i thought i was building comfort...

When she didn't pickup on saturday night i ignored her till wednesday giving her space to study for exams... so I'm thinking maybe i should have kept in contact through text saturday to wednesday??...or i might have blown it in the phone conversation somehow...

So what now guys? I'm think forget about her for a few more days and maybe try to re-engage with a funny text on Sunday...one last time? If that doesn't work...move on?

This is a lie.

Why? Out all all the identifiable things you could've said you choose to listen to some internet pua.

When you say "happy birthday" - it's not a selfless thing, you aren't looking for a reaction. It's completely selfish in ungenuine to wish someone happy birthday with the intention of trying to get something from them. And that's what you did. I would of ignored you as well.

Move on.

I wrote an article in the PUA lounge section titled " Act Like A Man, Think Like A Woman ". Check it out, it'll help.

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Exactly this. What a horrible, awful line that is... And it's been done a thousand different ways. Wonder if it's ever actually worked.

So should I just text like I would talk in real life? I was worried about being boring...yeah I realize that I should not care what she thinks ...

Interesting read Eddie...so how do you text women? Say whatever you feel like and have a take it or leave it attitude with no intention of trying to please her? Everything you do is for you own self amusement..that kind of attitude?