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 Post subject: Simple observation
PostPosted: Wed May 27, 2015 11:22 pm 
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So, I never noticed this before with my girlfriend. I'm lying, I did but this thing never crossed my mind.

Every time we have a date, my girlfriend shuts "data off" so no incoming messages on facebook/viber/SPAM comes on her phone. Here is the interesting part though, this is today's example:

We meet, greet and kiss or I grab her ass or something.
Theeen... She picks her phone in matter of minute, two minutes. Shuts down the internet and we head towards the fast food restaurant(where we ate today), I pick the table, we sit and I ask her what does she want to eat, I go order and pick the food, usually it lasts around few minutes, while I'm back she's already typing on the phone. Every time, I sat next to her, she turns the internet off and acts all girlfriendly, or whatever.

This scenario happened/happens all the time.

Note: When I jokingly took her phone a while back, she doesn't complain, she told me her password of her phone, and of her facebook account. Am I being a controlling freak?

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 Post subject: Re: Simple observation
PostPosted: Wed May 27, 2015 11:52 pm 
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I sort of think she's being extremely polite and kind of awesome by shutting her phone off whenever you're there.

She's giving you her undivided attention - which is a good thing.

You think this is bad? Or weird? If you're not at the table or around her why wouldn't she fart around on her phone. I don't think she's out of bounds. Maybe I'm mis-understanding your question.


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PostPosted: Thu May 28, 2015 1:24 am 
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Hmmm....Tbh, I'd be worried.

If I'm reading this right, she shuts data off and checks her phone when you're busy doing something. I would shut my phone data off when I was cheating. Turn the data off so if your girl sees your phone she wont see any new messages from another girl pop up. Sounds like your girl is hiding stuff, because I can't think of a reason to turn data off like that. Some info is missing in this though, and there ARE some trust issues going on, from what you wrote in the other thread. Give details...But to me, this reminds me of what I would do when I had something to hide.


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 Post subject: Re: Simple observation
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Hmmm....Tbh, I'd be worried.

If I'm reading this right, she shuts data off and checks her phone when you're busy doing something. I would shut my phone data off when I was cheating. Turn the data off so if your girl sees your phone she wont see any new messages from another girl pop up. Sounds like your girl is hiding stuff, because I can't think of a reason to turn data off like that. Some info is missing in this though, and there ARE some trust issues going on, from what you wrote in the other thread. Give details...But to me, this reminds me of what I would do when I had something to hide.
A good alternative view of this...

I hadn't really considered that. Maybe I'm too trusting!


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 Post subject: Re: Simple observation
PostPosted: Thu May 28, 2015 12:23 pm 
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It's funny how people always find flaws/problems in every scenario.

If her data is on and she's getting constantly bombarded with messages guys will get insecure wondering who's talking to her and why she's getting so many texts.
If her data is off, you get insecure and wonder whether she's hiding something.


Those insecurities are what poison relationships.

I agree with Charles though, she sounds cool.

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 Post subject: Re: Simple observation
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Yea honestly the best thing is to not give a fuck about it. I'd start talking with other girls though.

If she is 8+, she is probably being blown up by 5+ other guys that want to fuck her. It's just nature.

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It's funny how people always find flaws/problems in every scenario.

If her data is on and she's getting constantly bombarded with messages guys will get insecure wondering who's talking to her and why she's getting so many texts.
If her data is off, you get insecure and wonder whether she's hiding something.


Those insecurities are what poison relationships.

I agree with Charles though, she sounds cool.
It's not insecure to see someone do an extremely suspicious thing and call it suspicious. And turning your data off to give someone your undivided time is a rather inefficient way of doing so. I don't know of anyone who does this. Turn your ringer off. Her texting on her phone when he leaves can be seen as she's doing so not hiding anything or it could mean she's sneaking a text or message to someone. Search for cheaters turn data off. Not saying she is just being honest it is a possibility. If you get insecure over a possibility when you have a lot more information and signals about your girl that's on you OP. As this stands turning the data off is weird and not even a good way to give someone your attention.


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If you are waiting, then that is perfect time to check one's phone.

She is turning it off and respecting 'date night' - I don't see any problems here.

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It's funny how people always find flaws/problems in every scenario.

If her data is on and she's getting constantly bombarded with messages guys will get insecure wondering who's talking to her and why she's getting so many texts.
If her data is off, you get insecure and wonder whether she's hiding something.


Those insecurities are what poison relationships.

I agree with Charles though, she sounds cool.
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 Post subject: Re: Simple observation
PostPosted: Fri May 29, 2015 12:14 am 
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Can anyone explain why turning data off would be a good way to get alone time? I know everyone keeps saying it's good that she's alone with him, but no one is saying why this method makes sense. Maybe I've just never come across someone who dodges all the other methods to silence their phone and goes to airplane mode. Unless maybe she's saving battery.
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5 Signs (From His Cell Phone) That Your Man is Cheating on You
#2) BF/hubby keeps his cell on airplane mode: This is not a new technique by any means, but it basically means that any untimely pics/texts won’t pop up on the screen at a time of day when they would prove most compromising. He’ll turn airplane mode off when he’s indisposed again–when you can’t or won’t be around and prompted to ask to see those pics.
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1. He puts his phone on airplane mode when he’s with you, Cheaters do this so you can’t see incoming texts when you ask to see pictures on his phone that you guys just took of each other.
Also, this is the chick who was talking to and had feelings for another guy, a while back and who you say her sex drive dipped recently.... She decides instead of silencing her phone to turn data off...Yeah. Kudos to the other guys here for being more honest in their past relationships, this just rings out to me because I've used the data off excuse and really had no reason for it because it's nonsensical to do if I just wanted to silence my phone. If my data was off I was hiding something. You turn off data so if the other person sees your phone or your phone is out, they wont see a call pop up or a text message or whatever. If you want alone time, you hit the thing EVERYONE does...SILENT/RINGER OFF. This is funny that no one sees it as a possibility; this was the excuse I would use, and my doggish friends would use, and then have to explain to chicks knowing it didnt make sense. Some would actually say that's stupid...you're hiding something. Maybe someone can say how data off is a preferred method for silencing someone's phone, over just hitting the silent button on all phones.


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 Post subject: Re: Simple observation
PostPosted: Fri May 29, 2015 6:40 am 
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Can anyone explain why turning data off would be a good way to get alone time? I know everyone keeps saying it's good that she's alone with him, but no one is saying why this method makes sense. Maybe I've just never come across someone who dodges all the other methods to silence their phone and goes to airplane mode. Unless maybe she's saving battery.
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5 Signs (From His Cell Phone) That Your Man is Cheating on You
#2) BF/hubby keeps his cell on airplane mode: This is not a new technique by any means, but it basically means that any untimely pics/texts won’t pop up on the screen at a time of day when they would prove most compromising. He’ll turn airplane mode off when he’s indisposed again–when you can’t or won’t be around and prompted to ask to see those pics.
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Is Your Man Cheating on You? Find Out Here

1. He puts his phone on airplane mode when he’s with you, Cheaters do this so you can’t see incoming texts when you ask to see pictures on his phone that you guys just took of each other.
Also, this is the chick who was talking to and had feelings for another guy, a while back and who you say her sex drive dipped recently.... She decides instead of silencing her phone to turn data off...Yeah. Kudos to the other guys here for being more honest in their past relationships, this just rings out to me because I've used the data off excuse and really had no reason for it because it's nonsensical to do if I just wanted to silence my phone. If my data was off I was hiding something. You turn off data so if the other person sees your phone or your phone is out, they wont see a call pop up or a text message or whatever. If you want alone time, you hit the thing EVERYONE does...SILENT/RINGER OFF. This is funny that no one sees it as a possibility; this was the excuse I would use, and my doggish friends would use, and then have to explain to chicks knowing it didnt make sense. Some would actually say that's stupid...you're hiding something. Maybe someone can say how data off is a preferred method for silencing someone's phone, over just hitting the silent button on all phones.
I actually turn my data off sometimes. Hitting it on silent is fine, but when you check the time or whatever and see 10 messages across 3 different texting apps you're gonna be tempted to start replying. It's just easier for me to simply shut it off and get back at people once I'm available. Doesn't mean I have anything to hide.

My girl also has her data off most of the time when with me, but she does it in general because she has some crappy subscription with very few MBs of internet. So that's another possibility.

What you're saying can be true, but when people are trying to hide something they'll be a bit more secretive. OP just said she has nothing against him holding her phone or having access to her facebook or whatever.

It's fine to be suspicious when there's something to be suspicious about. But there's a very thin line between a real reason and one that stems out of your inner insecurities. I can't see this as a real reason.

PS: Airplane mode is a bit ridiculous but nevertheless the quoted article or whatever it is seems to be pulled off Cosmopolitan or some other really bad magazine.

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 Post subject: Re: Simple observation
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I actually turn my data off sometimes. Hitting it on silent is fine, but when you check the time or whatever and see 10 messages across 3 different texting apps you're gonna be tempted to start replying. It's just easier for me to simply shut it off and get back at people once I'm available. Doesn't mean I have anything to hide.

My girl also has her data off most of the time when with me, but she does it in general because she has some crappy subscription with very few MBs of internet. So that's another possibility.

What you're saying can be true, but when people are trying to hide something they'll be a bit more secretive. OP just said she has nothing against him holding her phone or having access to her facebook or whatever.

It's fine to be suspicious when there's something to be suspicious about. But there's a very thin line between a real reason and one that stems out of your inner insecurities. I can't see this as a real reason.

PS: Airplane mode is a bit ridiculous but nevertheless the quoted article or whatever it is seems to be pulled off Cosmopolitan or some other really bad magazine.
Good point. I can see how someone with data caps may have to turn off their data. Granted, I havent met a girl with data caps since college but as OP is younger this is actually a good explanation.

PS...Isn't airplane mode the same as data off?


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 Post subject: Re: Simple observation
PostPosted: Sat May 30, 2015 12:31 am 
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Not really. Data off means having no internet access. Airplane mode means also not being able to receive calls or regular texts.

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