Hello

Long story short: There is this waitress I like, got a lot of IOIs from her (I'm friends with the whole crew at this small coffeeshop, I sit with them afterhours & during their breaks - "she's just being friendly" does not apply).

I did some kino when she sat with me two days ago, so I decided to message her on facebook (I prefered to take it slow and did not # close her at work, just to be sure she's not just being friendly.
My female wingman told me to get straight to the point, ask her out and then get her number, however, I kind of screwed up & my game was cold.

Lets call her Lily

Me: Lily! How are you? Haven't seen you around today
Lily: Yes, I had some work, I took 3 days off as a mini vacation
Me: That much? You'll let me be right for 3 days? (she once told me she is always or at least 90% right all the time and I have been teasing her about it)
Lily: Exactly, I'll let you feel better, but not for long
Me: Yeah I'll get the chance to breath. We should go out this weekend, somewhere with flowers (she actually told me to get her hand-picked flower a day before, my response was "what are you insinuating?" it cracked her up)
Lily: I'm going out, TO WORK )
Me: When will you be free then?
Lily: Dunno
Me: (my female wingman told me to stop as I sucked big time)

I feel I messed up by not suggesting a date in these 3 days that she is off. I need to get her # and a date, or the other way round (which I feel seals the deal better).

Please help me as I SUCK AT THIS!

Apart from your last comment being completely unnecessary, you didn't suck nearly as much as you seem to think.

Gonna steal Eddie's line here, but if you wanna hunt deer you don't ask other deer for advice. You ask other hunters. Meaning don't listen to women on how to get women. Most have absolutely no clue.

Your problem here was asking her out prematurely. That kind of shit can work, but only if she's very receptive to you to begin with.

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I don't know how your female friend saying you sucked really means you sucked.

What kinda confirmation is that shit?

R.C's insight was spot on as was his quote.

But I'd like to analyze a few things.

First off, why all these sad faces?

You see her? Doesn't she seem happy?

If I was her I'd think you just aren't happy enough. And 3 days isn't a big deal. You act like she's been gone a whole week or two.

I know you were just trying to make chitchat, but seriously stop that shit. You can bring that up, but don't seem so distraught over it unless you're kidding (somehow though I didn't get that feeling of joking around at all and likely neither did she if it was meant) I admit I'm glad that you are listening and paying attention to things she has said to use them to your advantage in latter conversations which is a good thing, so keep doing it.

But honestly the best text game is no game. It's where you make short and sweet meetups that way you can do techniques and methods to their full potential (face to face)

Sometimes texting here and there can be amazing, BUT it's not amazing when you don't accomplish what you need to accomplish. It's like work before play. That analogy remains true here even though it's still gaming. It's just getting specific things out of the way before going onto flirting or meaningless conversations which is where this headed.

NOTE:

The following quote is that she will see you soon so why even worry about whether you can get her number, just get it from her when you see her next. PROBLEM SOLVED. She's already back at work. This is also a huge thing to show that she is interested in hanging out with you again.

Good luck, hope this helped in someway. Just be confident, relax and not so many sad faces. You want smiley faces and winks to show that you are displaying your confident level and attraction in her.

And if you need anything shoot me a PM...no need to hesitate

Yes it does.

But its not because of her, its because of you. This is a clear "uninterested" for lack of you generating the proper amounts of attraction when you see her. She "doesn't know" when she'll be free again? Its not true. People make time for what they want to make time for. If a guy she was crushing on asked her that she would figure it out. Or say " I'm free today and tomorrow. I'm off silly "

This is a case of "friend zone ", you hang out with her often, you have her one Facebook and this is the first time you've asked her out?

You pull back for a couple weeks. Make your trips to the coffee shop less, and the lengths of the amount of time you stay shorter.. " Hey, I gotta run. Meeting up with a friend" - 10 mins into the interaction. And you'll have another shot.

This isn't normally pick up. This is a social circle girl. You have to reconfigure some interest. You have to create an desirable heir about you. It doesn't sound like thats there.

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Yeah, the other guys sorta beat me to this...

SHE'S JUST BEING FRIENDLY. It does apply. Sorry about your luck.