Ok so been with my girl for 5 years, both mid 20s. I love her, she's my best friend, great personality, great sex and takes good care of me. Some might think I'm being ridiculous to have these thoughts but I keep feeling like I need to spread my wings make the most of my 20s, I can't tell if it's a phase and whether letting her go would be a huge mistake. Not to mention we have the same friends so it could get complicated.

Is it just the grass being greener on the other side?
Anyone else had this experience?

It's a Phase sort of.

And we all know that the grass is never greener. Each side comes with its pros and cons.

When its hot, we wish it was cooler, when its cold we wish it was warmer.

When you're single you'll wish you had a bit more connection, when you got the connection you'll wish you had more freedom.

Thats part of life man. You have to learn to deal with that within yourself. You ain't missing much. Fucking a bunch of random chicks is only exciting while your horny. When you nut, you wake right up.

I'd say ride it out, or see if you girl is open to threesomes and/or letting you get a little side pussy. I've worked this out myself. You just have to be open and honest, stand your ground and have the talk with her. Hell, if you're thinking about leaving, its worth giving it a try.

But, to answer your question, the grass ain't ever greener. Even getting your girl to accept you getting side women will come with its disadvantages

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That's not really an option and I wouldn't want to do that anyway, even if she agreed it would still hurt her. It's not even so much about seeing other women though it's just about having complete freedom and experiencing being single. She herself doesn't do anything to restrict me I'm completely free to do what I want, go out when I want & focus on my career but at the same time as in any relationship you always have to consider how your actions may affect the other person. It's a tough choice but I don't want to be living with regrets in 10 years.

Not to disrespect Eddie. Most of his advice on picking up women is on mark. But....

These feelings of "angst" aren't going away anytime soon.

You dove into the relationship young, it's natural to have a feeling of anxiety, apprehension, or insecurity. You tell yourselves forever, but let me tell you, forever is a long fucking time to be unhappy.

Dig down deep in that 20 something nut sack, and make your TRUE determination of happiness.

Because, ultimately you are the one that has to live with yourself.

It's not ever her that will make you whole or complete, or happy Bro - IT'S YOU!

Call it a "Break" if you need to do that as to leave your foot in the door, but remember she can slam that door on that foot hard enough to sting for a long time.

Eddie's point is true enough, the grass typically isn't any greener on the other side.

But it mite be 4 lawns down.

It takes a Man to make his choice either way.

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I agree with you man. And if I thought the OP was saying he is "unhappy" I would of written something similar. I'm just not so sure he is saying he's unhappy. The way I read it, he's happy, but curious.

Perhaps he can can clear that up.

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I think you're underestimating her just a bit. Lol

But I hear you man.

I was with my highschool sweetheart for 3 years. And I would get waves of the same thing you're feeling now. You do regret it some years down the line. You'll regret every "Good girl" you leave. But once you get over the regret, you open your eyes and see there are other "good girls".

I believe a character in "A bronx tale" said " you get three good women in your life time" and I'm not big on letting movie quotes shape my reality, but that's something I always keep in mind. I've had more than three but I try not to be so arrogant as to think there are infinite amounts of opportunity to make due with a good hand.

You have to make this decision for yourself though. All we can do is provide perspective.

Spreadining your wings and being with lots of women will change you. It's just for you to decide whether that's for your better or worse.

Each route will come with its pros and cons. And i've been on both sides of this fence. And the thing is, you can't go back. You can get back with her, but you can't go back. Things will always be alittle different.

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I am happy, she is great. It's basically a battle between my feelings for her and my logical side saying "Your too young, make the most of your life, the feelings are just chemical reactions in your brain anyway. Don't spend your entire 20s tied down". Logically speaking it's unlikely I'd spend the rest of my life with her anyway, but I do love her a lot right now. It would be better if I could just meet her in my 30s instead lol - but what ifs are pointless!

As you say, it would never be the same again. Is it better to regret breaking up with a great girl or the potential risk of feeling regret 10-15 years down the line at spending my 20s tied down - not knowing what I could of got up to? Like you say takes a man to make the decision but it's good to get your guys perspective from a logical point of view.

She can be a diamond or a rock. Only you can know that. But understand that throwing her away implies risks regardless. You may throw away what would have been your future wife. Or you may meet your future wife the following day.

Either way, having regrets 10-15 years down the road is a real possibility regardless of what it is you choose.
Fucking a different woman every week seems fun on paper, but like Eddie said, it doesn't last long. Not saying you shouldn't live that experience. But throwing away a great thing is hardly worth it.

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Any others had experience with this and made decisions based on it? What was the outcome?

Still man? Just leave her bro.

You'll regret it temporarily. Everyone temporarily regrets all big decisions. There are too many pros and cons on both sides not to. Just accept the regret will shortly follow and deal with it. Don't go running back when it feels challenging to pick up new women at first. Just make yourself better. And in time you'll be pulling them with more success.

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