Decided to give a field report today since I made some improvements in myself although I fcked up and failed to bag a lay.

After drinking with some friends, i decided to head to the bar alone. I wasnt in the zone yet so i opened some guys and started talking (they had some girl friends but they left). I have always been shy so just talking to strangers is a pretty big improvement for me. I hope to be able to just open a group of girls smoothly in the future but small steps.

I just happened to run into an old friend and we decided to go clubbing. The club was small but filled with a great ratio of guys to girls and the talent was quite good. Since my friend left, i practiced opening groups of people. I would introduce myself to the guys first and then speak to the girls if they were present. I opened a pretty attractive 7-8 and just conversed with small talk. She left to the bathroom and said she would be back so I opened others. I run into the girl again on another floor, get her a drink, and take her to th dance floor.

There were quite a few hints of attraction from her. She kept her body close to me when we talked and after i bought her some water, she grabbed my hand to take me to the dance floor. She kept my hand on her stomach and grinded me. I unfortunately have never grinded and I escalted too quickly, going in for the kiss. We did kiss but she wanted to leave after and I knew I blew it.

I did open another attractive girl and we hit it off really well. She was really interested in my work and really liked what I had to say. I probably made two big mistakes with her. 1) i introduced her to another guy i was talking to who was hanging around. I did the introductions to try to maintain social control but lost it when they just started talking and I became the third wheel. Her friends also came (guy and girl) so I started a conversation to get them familiar with me and to trust me so they would not cockblock me. This resulted in me unintentionally winging the other guy. They talked quite a bit so I left and ran into them later.

The second mistake was i tried to start another conversation when another guy interrupted my set. He was good, had the calm i dont give a fuck attitude and when i tried to politely tell him to back off, he acted like he did not understand me at all. His style is not one i want to emulate but that no fucks attitude is something i want to emulate in the future. I never got the conversation since she seemed pretty pissed and left. She talked quite a bit with the guy i introduced her to up until the point where her friends thought she should go with him.

Compared to my past self, i can see definite improvements. I can now open groups much more easily and know I can hold conversations that make girls and guys interested in me. I also make my intentions clear so i clearly tell the girl im trying to pick up that I like her. Im genuine, honest, and interesting so can keep a conversation going.

My main problems are now physical escalation and group dynamics. I need to be more comfortable touching people when conversing and know how long to escalate. The grinding was a stupid jump the gun and a lesson learned. With group dynamics, i begin opening the guy and her friends before finally talking to her. Or if her friends come, i talk to them which has resulted in me giving much less to no attention to her when talking. I dont have a wingman and dont want to rely on one when i go out all the time so want to work on managing this. Any suggestions? Thanks for reading

I wouldn't beat myself up about it. Same thing may have happened no matter how long you held off going in for a kiss for.

You did great after a month or two you will be very natural. Learn from your mistake. Main thing is here that keep going on.

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