TL; DR: Met a girl with whom we established a strong connection and great chemistry (both physical and intellectual). For work reasons, I needed to move before we could strengthen the bond into a real relationship. I'm flexible with work and really this distance is not mandatory (i.e. this doesn't need to be a LDR long-term), but I haven't told her yet: instead, I backed-off before she would. My aim is to try to have a relationship with her, despite the current difficult logistics. Her signals show that she's very much into me, but probably scared.
Hello,
I recently met this girl with whom we hit off really quickly and intensely. Unfortunately, I've met her in a time of moving around. After we first met she went on a trip for a week, during which she would send me texts everyday about how she thought of me all the time. When she came back, I unfortunately had to relocate for work for an indefinite amount of time within ten days.
During these ten days, I established a strong frame and attraction. Examples would be such things as:
She: "This afternoon I'm not available, I will be from 8pm though. What should we do?"
Me: "Nah! I'll tell you the plan, instead… […telling her a different plan]"
She: "So you are asking to ditch everything I needed to do until 8, in short? You don't look like somebody who accepts a no easily, right?"
Me: "v_v"
She: "Just as I thought."
Me: "Then see you at 16.30. I'll leave you this hour."
She: "Alright, Sir."
Since then she often called me "sir" or "boss", and complied massively. Sex was also quite amazing: I established the same dominating frame, and made her beg and orgasm intensely. I don't tell this to brag, just to give some back story of what we've established.
After sex, she did some shit test (such as:
"Have you been with many women?") and then opened up, telling me how much she felt connected with me and that never happened.
During those ten days, I pre-emptively addressed her rational fears, by actually telling her indirect things such as:
"Long distance things have never worked for me", and direct ones such as:
"If I weren't going, I wouldn't let go of you", to which she replied:
"I would probably run away, like I always do.", and I said:
"You wouldn't be able to." and she replied with a smirk:
"You are really confident, aren't you?" and kissed me.
The confidence thing came out a lot, to be honest, as I had established it from the beginning.
At the end of the ten days, after a night of sex and a lazy morning together, I said Farewell to her, in a way that would hint at a real Farewell.
Later (5 days), during my business travel, I had to go through the same place she had gone in her above-mentioned trip. So I sent her a text, telling how the place was full of her smell.
She replied with an email, which, in short, said something like:
Quote:
I thought you didn't want to speak to me anymore, I am happy to have received this message. I hope the memory doesn't disappear as fast as a smell does.
I replied with an email the next day, of which the overall message was something like:
Quote:
Yes, I planned to to hear from you, but I Felt our connection and I had to do that, although with the awareness that we won't meet again.
(Again, I'm backing off before she does)
She replied with a longer email, saying something like this:
Quote:
I have to say that to keep in touch by emails is something that charms and comforts me. It would be unacceptable to lose the connection made with somebody like you, it would hurt me having met you and not having you in my life. I feel something of you left inside me, though convinced of the impossibility to make our so-different souls meet.
So, getting to the point: I want to try to build up a relationship with her. The unfortunate conditions of distance are subject to change at any time, and I have enough flexibility with my work to make them change fast if need be. Obviously, I cannot bring this up so quickly, as it would definitely be too strong of a commitment and it would scare her off (besides, I am not sure myself I
Would do it: I just know I
Could).
- Is she trying to friendzone me, or is she just scared? (And perhaps complying with the "we're not going to meet again" frame that I had set)
- How do I keep up enough attraction without sounding needy and get this idea of a possible relationship going through her head?
Please avoid suggesting me that I'd move on and find somebody where I am located currently. I live the lifestyle of a Digital Nomad, and move constantly, so these kind of things happen all the time. If I weren't really interested in a LTR with her, I'd definitely be banging other girls where I am located now. 
CHAT
