Hi,

To make it shortly, we were talking about some stupid things throught the phone and we start talking about our feelings. She told me that she is asking why after 1 year she doesnt feel in love with me, she doesnt feel the flame. On the other hand she want me so much, she want to stay with me, she want to plan a trip for Dec 2015.

What should i do? take a break to make her miss me and realize or not if she loves me, or maybe break up? Or also stay with her, have a good time and live the day after day, enjoying the present.

Maybe i was to available and alwaysshowing her a lot of interest and hugs kiss, and because of that she is so confortable that she cant feel the interest. Maybe this is the opportunity to counter strike and take the upper hand, but i dont know how.

Thanks!

Sounds like an open relationship could be on the cards

Sounds like you want a girlfriend though so I wouldn't say there is anything you can to changer her mind. You should please bare in mind that she will meet a guy that she does feel that way for and then send you packing so it is in your interest to not be monagamous with this girl in my opinion

I'm kinda through something similar at the moment but the opposite and she wants to a relationship with me

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Sounds like a warning.

This one was more direct than they usually are. Girls are always dropping them "I'm unsure of this" about a month before they end it as a way to get the guy to shape up and revert back to the guy she liked originally. As men we don't pay attention to hints, because we're direct. Women communicate to each other in hints, its the language so they naturally think that we speak it to. But we don't. At least not most of us.

How do you feel about her man?

And just be aware that a woman can ONLY leave a man if she knows in her gut that the guy will be emotionally devastated if she does. If there is even the slightest hint that he will be crushed by her exit, this is all she that needs to spring forth emotionally. She's needs that emotional investment. She needs something to use as an emotional platform to push her to the next level. The guy thats like "Meh.. I love her, but if she goes she goes. I'll be straight" never gets left. Ever. The woman is without the emotional platform to spring her forward. She would be worst of leaving that she would be staying.

This is why some women will have a guy that treats them like garbage and they will still stay with the guy. Unless he'll be damaged by her leave. she is without the platform necessary to exit the relationship. Unless she has a lot of emotional help and support from plenty of family and friends on the decision. And even then its difficult.

So where are you emotionally? That will determine a lot.

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How old are you two? If she's never been in love with someone she may just be shitting bricks at the idea...

Or the other guys here may be right

Thanks for the answers.

Well emotionally im in love with her.
She is 24, im 26. She was in love sometime when she had 18.

Im completely sure i have to change my attitude because be too available and be so expressive make her very sure about my feelings to her. We never fight, always the relationship is too perfect, so maybe its boring or doesnt generate that hate-love that its so important.

Then you know what you have to do man. Suggesting a break for you to clear you head is an act of maturity. Few can get it together while they're still consumed by it. Give yourself a week to find yourself. And no matter how tough it gets you must within stand the time you set out.

Just because you instantly feel like " I got it now!" doesn't mean you do. You need to sit with that feeling for another day or so.

I've had to do this in my own relationships. Its unfortunate. But that would be my fault for letting my emotions get out of control.

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There is nothing wrong with being expressive. In fact, I believe it is a positive if it is coming from your true character. If you drop anything that would make you personally happy and crush all plans you had arranged with friends and such to accommodate her, then yes, she thinks you are a pu**y.

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Second me, the issue may be boring and routine.
Probabily, She consideres you obvious and this kill the attraction. My advice is to become a challenge for Her. You must go out with you friends and with other Girls, in order to recapture Her.
I cross my fingers bro!
See you soon
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Be indifferent to anything she says.

Don't be indifferent to anything she says. She's a human being and her opinion fucking matters. Jesus Christ..

Don't be too available; focus on your passion, your purpose in life. Whatever it is, she comes SECOND. Ok? Guys naturally want to put their woman first, but I can promise you that this is a turn-off

Google: Corey Wayne Scribd (it'll take you to a website called Scribd, where you can read his book for free.)

Read it 10-15 times so you remember 70-100% of it, and really get this shit down. Look at his YouTube videos after AND ONLY AFTER you've read his book.

Dont play stupid little games like pretending to be indifferent to everything she says. That's how you end up single.

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Exactly! It teaches people as early as possible, that there's more to this stuff than routines, negs and pick up lines. 99% of "PUA's" that I know, couldn't hold down a relationship, which is why I always suggest Corey Wayne, along with somebody like Jason Capital or Adam Lyons to give them that rough edge

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A bit late for that seeing as he's invested.

That's like saying "go play baseball and pretend your arm isn't broken and in a cast".