*shrug*

I get the feeling that you were making fun of the guy no one likes, even though he was giving you a ride.

As for violence...I'll avoid the fight, not start one. Plus, he slapped you it's not like you thought you were in danger of being attacked by the guy. There's no reason to escalate it even further, just preserve your value and move on. Hell, try being nice to him.

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First off, he punked you in front of your friends and pretty much established himself as the Alpha male when you did nothing but sit there like a douche bag.

I would let this fat ass know that if he EVER touches you again, that you will be beating his ass. In fact, don't even mention what you are going to do, just do it. Just make sure he knows to NEVER touch you like that again. Playing or not.

You got it all wrong Yillian....

The only reason to get into a street fight is if you are trying to protect yourself or someone else from serious physical harm.

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Which you can't reveal to the years of youth
Except to say it isn't worth a dime

In the moment, there's no way in hell I don't punch the guy in the mouth..


IMO, starting a fight with someone is bigtime DLV. But so is not -ending- a fight. You're a man. Stand up for yourself.

Yillan is right, calm down all your eager beavers. You're all going to get killed while me and yillan will sit down and talk it over and just act like it didnt bother us.

The less you react the more alpha you look, it dosent matter to you because nobody else can make you look weak. When you fight back you are acknowledging what just took place.

By saying that, im not saying that you should just take all the shit you're given. But you have to understand that its not the end of the world if some guy slaps you, move past it make peace.

ps. Theres no way that the fat guy just walked up to the guy and slapped him in the face unprovoked. That dosent happen.

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What a title!

You should have laughed in his face and said something to make him look like a tool.

The best thing to do would be to keep your cool. However, make sure to let him know if it happens again, there will be a reaction. This is especially true if there are girls around. No woman wants a man that fly off the handle. If you would have started a fight, it just shows her that if she makes you mad someday, you may flip out and hit her.

I'm not saying you let the world shovel shit on you, just pick your moments to show your anger. Make sure it is actually worth your time to get angry. Find the middle ground between the guy that takes too much and the guy that doesn't take enough.

I was raised that if someone slaps, kicks, hits, etc, you fight back. At that point it's not about picking up those women, it's about having some respect for yourself and not letting some fat bastard slap you like a bitch. There will be more women the next time you go out anyway, and i would much rather look back and see me standing up for myself rather than getting slapped and maybe scoring a number or two. End of story.

Fuck that, here's what you do.. Go to the doctors, say you had trouble performing, and you dont know why. They will do all sorts of tests and what not.... But at the end of the session, they will give you a SAMPLE of viagra..
Take that sample, and slip it in your friends drink while he's working or doing something where he can't just hide it, or make it go away, so no, lose baggy clothing. Go swimming or something. You HAVE to get back at him
"your dead" is an empty threat, you know it, he knows it. Its a nice little prank....
You sound young, so don't worry about this instance too much.. Keep building on your confidence, make sure you have a game plan the next time someone really pisses you off. (normally guys just punch people, its not that big of a deal really) In australia, fighting is like a coming of age thing. Its just what they do. It's a lot of fun.
Ya, dont give him the courtesy of warning him about anything next time he does something like that again. ALPHA's don't tell people what they are about to do, they just do it. Think of it like kissing a girl, or escalating for the first time taking off her cloths, or moving to third base or something. Seriously, dont ask permission, just DO IT.
Tips of fighting this guy; He's a fat guy, so once he goes down, start kicking him on the ground. He has a lot of weight, so if you lean in to punch him in the face, he's going to grab your arm, throw you around, and roll on top of you and pin you.. It's a bad place to be. The #1 best advice I can give for fighting, is just to know what you're going to do before your do it. To be precise, don't just think about landing a punch on his face. (which is what I used to do, and what 85% of people normally do) Be precise, AIM, know where you are going to land, and it will happen. Like aim for the nose, or throat (this is a just OUCH, you could seriously hurt someone) or the lips (this is a nice bleed spot), nose (fight ender).

That's about as AFC as you can get. In fact, not defending yourself is a huge DLV in front of other chicks. If some chick watched you get bitch slapped and not do anything about it, she's going to assume you have no balls and can't stand up for yourself. Once the guy hits you first, you now have HER sympathy and she's going to be rooting for you. This isn't a situation where he's starting the fight, he's defending himself.

Trust me on this, you will look like a punk in front of women and guys if you don't slap the guy back or defend yourself in this situation.

punk = HUGE DLV

I think that the natural reaction is eye for an eye. But it can be really impressive if you can just let shit like this roll off of your back. If its in a public setting like a resturaunt or something like that, then cooler heads shall prevail. Slapping really takes a mans dignity away. Thats why if you can just give him a cocky smile and and a wink like you know something he doesn't, you can actually flip the situation on him. If things really need to escalate, do not hesitate to make it happen.

"Woa there boy! You're coming on a bit fast, you know I don't do kinky on a first date."

Smile while you say it, spread you're arms out like you would when you're trying to calm somebody down but keep your palms facing the floor. make sure you're arms go quite wide so open yourself up and maybe give him a wink.

Then go straight back into your conversation with the set.

Learn a jiu-jitsu takedown where you throw him off balance and bring your knee across his face so he can't move his head (ideally, he'll be looking across the floor as your leg keeps contact across his ear).

It's a great way to show dominance without inflicting physical pain. Also, it's waaaaaaay manlier than slapping. Do it right, and it looks like a finely orchestrated LE takedown. It's a good demonstration of dominance if you want to train anything from a pitbull or some jackass AMOG poseur like this. And fuck it, walking is good excercise, especially when you get your endorphins up like this.

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One thing women exclusively have the ability to do to a man is directly insult him in a demasculating manner without provoking a physical confrontation. One can utilize a woman in this kind of situation to force The Douche to end up the asshole and therefor, he shows DLV while giving you DHV. Just keep your cool, and ask the girls "this guys a class act huh?" I actually like the response given by Giovanni Cassonova, "Did that make you feel big?" Tell the girls "I bet he's single ladies!," while leaning over and holding your open hand vertical next to your mouth (like you are telling a secret) They will laugh at the advertisement even if they dont get that its a joke. Use it to gravitate towards the women. You know, the phychological retaliation will hurt him more than most ass beatings you could have given him. If he fucks with you any more, hes asking for a stompin and the girls will agree and then you got two birds with one stone. You preserved your value to the women and your pride.

lol omg... i think some of u guys went a little nuts with the takedowns and shit...it's all good thanks for the advice ...it;s all been great...we were in a restaurant and the girl that i was with i was not trying to game. By the end of the meal i was able to make that fat piece of shit look like an idiot several times and make it seem like he thought he was going out with the girl that was there. My other buddy brought iut up in class the next day and most people heard and laughed so it;s no biggie, people hate that kid anywyas.

But when it comes to standing up for myself, i definitely think that i should have done something. A stare, and a witty comment would have been perfect