Been reading up on frame control n setting frames. Ik if I tease her its important tht it gets passively accepted tht way my frame is being set as the stronger one absorbing the weaker one. If she doesn't take the tease well by being neutral, giving back a negative response, her teasing back, etc. its not getting accepted passively. In order for her to passively accept it she'd respond back positively or with a laugh which is also a positive response.

I understand tht with any tease/ break in rapport you re-initiate comfort afterwards ( which I just call a comfort release) , but my question is do you have to set a frame tht are someone who teases n will tease her tht way whenever u do tease she doesn't see it as incongruent n reject it/ not take it very well.

Honestly whenever the hookpoint is reached n I break rapport with a tease it either gets one of 3 things.

1. She laughs n pushes back against it/ chases the validation getting the qualification process started

2. She teases back not passively accepting it in which I get caught up in a frame battle n have to plow/ignore her teasing n go Iinto the comfort release.

3. She gives me a straight face/ neutral response . Lke think of a blank serial killer face lol.

Thts it. I feel lke the reason im getting these responses is contributing to the issue of not setting the frame. Idk but would lke some help to clarify this .

Clarify. What are you really asking? You joke sometimes it lands well and sometimes not so much. Yeah... sometimes its a tough crowd.

The trick with joking and teasing is that you are saying it because it's funny to YOU.