Hi guys,

Thoughts on my POF profile?

http://www.pof.fr/fr_viewprofile.aspx?p ... d=77612876

Is it boring? I realise it's not super quirky, or funny or whatever! But I'm sick of messing around, messaging back & forth with girls and not getting what I want! So I edited my profile, sacrificing some of the humour that WAS previously in there, in favour of just being totally honest, genuine & to the point! But is it too "serious" & "dry" ?

Any feedback would be much appreciated! Cheers guys!

... There are only 2 pics.

The first isn't a great one.

The second doesn't even have you in it.

That's the problem... not your profile.

Hi Charles,

Thanks for your help. I will work on getting some better photos!

The first date/rendevous section is off putting. Don't try to explain things to the women you *don't* want. Most decent women will be happy to meet up for a few drinks, but for them to read all this stuff about you not liking paintballing just makes you come across as very negative and bitter. There's nothing wrong with disliking those things, I don't think making such a point of it does you any favours.

The same goes for the main section, actually... I don't think all the "That's your problem / don't waste my time" stuff is necessary - as I said, you want to attract women you like. Trying to put off the women you don't want shouldn't be a priority.

Assertiveness is fine, and it's good that you demonstrate that you know what you want (nothing wrong with putting "I'm not interested in ..... kind of women"), but your profile seems to assume that the reader will already have a problem.

Everything is about what you're "NOT"

That shit is not going to work. Its too much to read anyway.

And you're going to need at least 3 photos - The second one doesn't count.

You have to keep it light and friendly, you're making a woman invest too much before she has even gotten a chance to know you.

Get creative, no paragraphs. Break up a couple lines so its easy to digest.

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Duly noted. Cheers fellas!

I've made a few changes. Do you think it's better now?

http://www.pof.fr/fr_viewprofile.aspx?p ... d=77612876

(I'll work on adding better photos later).

Without a couple more photos, the content of your profile will be of little use.

I would also advise you save the talk of your ailment for the actual conversation. This is online dating and online dating can be shallow. But once you've displayed your personality through conversation you have a greater chance at that going over well.

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I agree. The photos matter way more than the content of the profile.

I also agree on saving talk of the disability. At least until you are at the texting or calling phase. You don't want to disqualify yourself before they even get a chance to know you or find out what the disability is.

It's a dating site where girls have a lot of the power. Some perfectly fine girls will just pass by you if the other 20 guys who are blowing up her inbox don't have disabilities explicitly stated in their profiles

Hi Eddie,

Thanks for the feedback.

Yeah, you make a valid point. I've often wondered about whether to talk about my disability right off the bat, or whether to leave it for later, as you suggest. Some people might consider that if I'm NOT totally upfront about it right away, that I could be seen to be "leading women on". Certain posters on here have already pointed that out to me in the past...

My disability isn't the ONLY reason for my limited success with women, and I'm well aware that my "game" needs to improve, and I'm motivated to do that! But even though I'm SUPER confident when I go out, a LOT of the time I just get shot down right away. That's not me being cynical, it's an unfortunate fact of life for me! At the moment, at least...

Cheers again guys!

I'm not saying its going to be easy, but if you stay consistent and tough yourself through the rejections you will eventually have a break through. Smart work, and persistence will eventually lead to success. I'm not sure of you condition but I'm sure there is someone with something worse that got themselves a girlfriend.

You have to embrace whatever it is. Don't see it as a disability. Just embrace it as part of who you are. "Take me or leave me, this is it. " - That goes over well in person. Online is a bit more tricky. You're not fully able to project the depth of your character.

The wrong women will blow themselves out. Ignore them. Rejection is apart of everyones life no matter how skilled they are. Some more than others.

Keep pushing, and go for what you believe you deserve.

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Thanks Eddie (and everyone else) for the words of advice & encouragement. VERY inspirational!

Just as an aside, I AM totally comfortable with my disability. But I understand that SOME women will find it problematic. It's a fact of life!

I AM able to get the odd date, kiss, lay. But they're VERY rare, and I need to work to change that! But my outlook is always positive!

I will let you know how my future gaming exploits play out!