How can I be more aggressive without making myself seem socially weird?

I have been having this problem, it's probably my biggest problem: I'm not aggressive enough. Most girls think I am attractive but I never know how to truly be aggressive unless they are taking all the steps for me, basically flinging themselves at me.

i think my fear is being socially awkward because a lot of times, my options are girls from my own social group. With that being said, i take more fear into being denied.

Has anyone every broken through anything like this? I know i need to be more aggressive, i just don't know how

I had a similar sticking point as you. The good news is that you know that your not aggressive enough. I suspect that you also know how to fix your problems, but want confirmation. In my humble opinion, you need to force yourself to escalate kino and to implement PUA tactics throughout your interaction( Ex: disqualifications, DHV stories, push and pull, disqualifications, you get the picture). The most important advice I have for you is to always assume she wants you and that everything is an IOI. This will help you maintain a frame cohesive to being more aggressive. Im pretty new at this, and I hope this helped. Good luck


Also stop worrying that you have gone to far. In fact, only in going to far, will you realize the perfect medium. You need to fail before you succeed.

Not 100% sure what you mean by "aggression". You don't need to be aggressive, you simply need to be NOT afraid of getting shot down and escalate.

Escalate incrementally until she moves away or becomes uncomfortable. If/when she does, step, back, give her a breather, assess the situation, then decide whether to escalate again or not. If she's still there (girls will usually run like heck when not interested) then escalate again.

Thanks a ton man, this helped

Change your language!

Can't you see that the way you speak to yourself determines the quality of the life you live?
I hate this word; 'seem'. How can you not seem socially weird? To whom? Can you control the way other people think about you? No. So why bother yourself worrying about it?

Next; aggressive?
What does that mean? Are you preparing for battle or something? Seduction is a dance - it's light, and fun! If you aren't having fun, you arent doing this right.

Now, that being said, do you have trouble going for what you want? That's a better question to ask. I mean, if you find that girl attractive, why are you asking where the nearest starbucks is? If you feel an overwhelming urge to kiss her, why are your eyes darting around nervously? If you want her in your bed, right now, why are you walking home alone while she is laughing on the arm of another man?

The first and foremost question to ask is: What do I want?
Vague goals breed vague results. Clarity always precedes mastery. Find out exactly what it is you want - for yourself, for women, for your life! This is fun! This is exciting! Life becomes like your magazine. The next thing is to go for it, fearlessly and relentlessly. And you can never live that way without relinquishing control.

You need to let go of trying to control other people's perceptions of you. Let go of controlling how she will react to you. Better still; let go of controlling yourself. Let your desire burn through you and consume you until you have no idea how you got there but you are already in front of her, making her laugh nervously while looking deep into her eyes.

Gentlemen: Women wish to be desired. Not conquered, desired.

With love and respect
Mack

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I second this advice.

And I want to throw a quote on the end of if that anyone who reads this can use to begin seeking improvements in the way they think and behave. Our thoughts become our words our words become our actions, our actions become our habits, our habits become our character, and our character becomes our destiny.

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wow! amazing dude, it seems like a very good idea

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I think you mean Assertive not aggressive, Assertive is going for what you want and it displays masculine energy. In this case you need to calibrate, for example if you go for a kiss and the girl does some kind of reaction that looks like a "No", you should go back, keep talking, it's not an awkward situation, and then go for a kiss later.
I hope this helps!

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