So yeah, I've just been cheated on. Well actually, i got cheated on about 2/3 weeks ago but just this second found.

It's a strange one. I wont really go into it too much but at the time the relationship wasn't all sunshine and rainbows. We was on and off from time to time and i kept wanting to pulling away. Then she went on holiday, fucked some other guy after a few days of being there and now two weeks later i've been informed.

Now as stupid as this sounds i understand why she did it. But in no way do i condone it and obviously i've fucked her off.

I'd also like to thank this community so much. There is no way i'd be able to take it in the chin like i have right now. As i person i've grown drastically over the years purely because of this forum, whether it to be with girls or other aspects of my life.

Anyway, the main reason for the thread is what do you look for when spotting a cheat? How do u know she will cheat on u before u get into the relationship? I mean, my ex had daddy problems so i'll be definitely be staying away from them. I wont be looking to get into another relationship anytime soon neither. But in the future i want to be just as confident and have 0 insecurities like i had before when i was with her.

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Majority of girls will cheat. This is something you cannot control. What is within your control though is to make yourself a very skillful lover who can give girls:

1. Intense emotional rollercoaster rides.
2. Superior bedroom skills.
3. Deep emotional connections.
4. The fear of losing you.

A lot of girls that I thought wouldn't cheat cheated with me. Daddy issues or not, I have yet to meet a girl who will not cheat mentally, emotionally or sexually.

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And in most situations I have found that a girl will only cheat if she believes that there is a chance (even if its 1%) that you will take her back if she does it. And/or she believes that you don't have the level of awareness to notice the natural behavioral changes a girl goes through after cheating.

A girl will not do anything that she feels like there is 100% Emphatically not a chance in hell that you will ever speak to her again if she crosses a certain line. She'll also cross the boundaries that she feel she can semi get away with.

Now on the other hand, there are other alpha males out there. And women naturally by nature must submit to the will of masculine force that knows its power. This is part of the reason ancient civilizations would have their women cover up. And/or keep them in the home.

A girl goes out on partying. getting drunk(living in the moment), an attractive confident alpha male approaches and what do you think is going to happen?

I also pay attention to how much effort I had to put in to sleep with a girl. Its not about "time" for me.. Its about the energy and effort. I've had one night stands with girls that made me work harder/invest in them emotionally than girls it took me a week to sleep with. If a girl sleeps with me without no investment, whats stopping her from repeating the behavior. I like to think it took a high level of skill on my part. That lets me know what someone else would have the go through. And the majority of men aren't at my skill level.

But either way, I'd walk away without saying a word and she would neever have an opportunity to look me in the eyes again if it happened. So i don't worry. And she respects how much I respect the boundaries in the relationship.

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They cheat if they think they can get away with it, either by not really wanting to be with you anymore or by thinking you'll take it and accept it due to lack of self-respect.

cheating is a kind of a area that different people will have a different opinion on. some guys will say its no big deal if you aint married, some guys will say if your sleeping with other girls then its no different, some guys will say just dump her and its your own choice.if you have said your in an exclusive relationship then that cheating. personally i have been cheated on and i dumped her. but i had a suspicious feeling she was cheating and called her out on it.

there are several signs
- she seems to be texting more then usual,
- she makes excuses not to meet up
- she may overcompensate, (she may want sex more then usual, or suggest things different then usual)
- she may undercompensate,(less or no sex)
- she may turn up out of the blue
- she may have sudden mood swings or place blame towards you (generally out of guilt)

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Two reasons. She was bored, and she met someone sexy and got swept up in the moment.
Most women are not very well grounded emotionally. I believe at least %90 of women are susceptible to cheating, simply because she can put off the prospect of anything "really" happening for the first %95 of the time she's with the dude, and by the time that last %5 is there and sex is clearly going to happen, she no longer has a logical thought in her head.

Ultimately, the best way to keep her from being able to be swept up like this, is to keep her bar very high in both of these areas. If she's sexually satisfied with you, and in an overall good emotional state, she likely won't be able to be swept up like this. If she is lacking in either of those areas, it's always possible.

I don't agree with the theory of her thinking she can "get away with it". This may be true for a slow moving fling that takes days/weeks to unfold. But if this is what I consider to be the normal situation, it all goes down in a few hours.

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Because we're not naturally monogamous beings.

We're programmed to be attracted to multiple potential mates. And we are. Beyond that it's all a matter of proportion. Aka how happy she's with you vs how much potential she sees in the new guy.

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Most people get into relationships with the first decent looking thing that comes along. Which is why you always see the Facebook single/in a relationship every week due to the lack of a foundation.

If you take the time with process and you will be meeting girls that have huge red flags before you even decide to think that she is gf material.

When I get into a relationship I'm pretty much confident I could make every single one of them last for eternity. But like RC says, people are not designed to be monogamous which is why I ended my relationship(s). I will never get into a LTR unless I see babies and marriage otherwise its a waste of time and heart ache.

Some red flags for me:
• party girls.
• drugs.
• needy.
• doesn't let me do my thing with mates.

Some green flags:
• if she has been cheated on in the past (so she is all about loyalty)

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I have a hard time believing there is a girl who won't cheat. Girls will somehow cheat emotionally or physically but you can't dread on this idea. I am gaming a girl who has been posting about a MCM on her Facebook and making it known that she likes him and he is glad he is in her life. However, in messages she's receptive to me talking about taking a shower with her, getting her number, calling her and I even arranged a date for this Friday. Either she flakes or we meet up, but she knows I'm not friend material.


i don't think you can really spot a cheat. Just be on your a game all the time and be willing to walk away. This makes things easier and you don't get swept up emotionally.

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I honestly think people dreading the idea of being cheated on are lazy. Sure it may suck to have it happen, but then again that's the beauty of life. Nothing is certain.

If I could sign a "fidelity contract" and magically erase the possibility of her ever cheating on me, I wouldn't do it.

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Yeah, but that's because you're coming from a mindset of confidence. You know that you're good enough for high quality women, and if one doesn't work out, you can find another.
Most people dread it, because they're afraid they'll spiral down into depression and may never get someone that good again.
It's also probably aided by the fact that you don't idealize a woman and understand there are thousands of other women in the places you go, that will be her equal and you'll get along just as well.

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Women cheat for all different reason, but it boils down to not being happy in the relationship, other than the ok meaningless fuck (unlikely if they are happy)...

now a girl can be happy and still cheat(unlikely) but is usually meaningless and they regret it. This usually happens due to boredom, traveling, alcohol...

But my point is instead of being paranoid and trying to figure out how to spot a cheat, become an attractive guy and date women that are medium self esteem and submissive...

But there is not a real WAY TO PREVENT CHEATING, it is out of your control. Plus is not worth devoting your energy into that...

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