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I grew up as a "nice guy", never had success with women, was an AFC, etc etc.
by age 25 I started having success and learning about methods etc. went through a few relationships, some lays here and there, and now Im 30 and in a 1 year LTR with a solid 8.5, we get along everything is great.
However, I can't help but feel resentment and disgust towards her sometimes and I think its some deep psychological thign towards that type of woman in general, not my specific girlfriend.
My gf is the typical hot girl that every guy dreams of banging in their 20s. Very flirty, responds extremely well to teases and alpha behaviour, loves sex, kind of a goldfish state of mind. At the same time shes hardworking, had a good job, good family values. You would think I would be happy that I have finally landed that girl, but its weird. Part of me is happy and part of me feels like I should just downgrade her to fuck buddy or something.
Shes the type of girl who, if I wasn't with her partying one night, would flirt with dudes and let all kinds of dudes game her BUT she wouldnt cheat. Thats just my read on her but I could be wrong.
Has anyone ever felt like this? Is it just my own past experiences of being turned down a million times by this kind of girl that makes me resent her and want to "get back" at this kind of girl?
Yeah I think it's the early rejection coupled with being misled about women from a young age. We all were. Being a nice guy got you nowhere, not being a nice guy got you a really hot girl. It's a bit disgusting to think that being friendly and kind works against you. Also the fact that hot girls have so many options seems unfair to guys I think. The guys have to employ all of these seduction strategies and beat out other competitors... the girls just sit back and choose the best one. All of this combined with her flirty nature and the notion that she could get gamed right away from you in the perfect storm is obviously going to cause some negative feelings.
It's deep in our psyches, this notion that there exists some really beautiful, noble, chaste, intelligent, sweet, loyal, devoted woman out there for each of us. A soulmate. We grew up watching tv and movies that depicted women like that, and depicted nice guys getting women like that. The reality is that that type of woman all but died out a long, long time ago.
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