She didn't outright lie to you man. Did you not read Eddie's post? It's not like she consciously tried to manipulate you or whatever. Women simply place a lot more value on emotion than we do. It affects their decision making in ways we simply cannot relate to. And emotions fluctuate. And so do they.

You did good for not answering the calls / texts. And be ready, because it will get worse before it gets better. Stay strong and before you do something on stupid I strongly suggest you consult with us first.

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And let me just add...

Its EASY to ignore phone calls when they're coming in. Because you know she's thinking about you and she cares. The hard part is.. When them calls STOP. Thats the real test. Thats when you sink emotionally and really have to fight the urge to contact.

So this is the easy part OP. That feeling in your gut will multiply tenfold once those emotions that are "UP" come "down" just like everything else in nature. Thats when your mind will give you the most intelligent and logical reasons to make contact. And thats when you must ignore the mind and trust the advice.

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Ok guys, I wanna come down to the bottom of this because I 've also seen posts about no contact so that you make the girl miss you and she forget the bad moments. Then at some point you can come back and face the situation and rework it with less emotions if you would like to get back together.

Nonetheless for this particular case you are saying to cut all contact even after the phone calls stop; not mainly to have control of the situation as part of a "strategy move in the game" but rather to come into peace and move on because a girl that broke up with you already for her selfish reasons is not the one that you should cherish and keep her for lifetime. This is how I perceive it. Is this what you are also saying to wideface?

I think if you read the thread thoroughly you can answer your own question.

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Good job dude. I know it hurts and you have every right to be upset at this point. But keep in mind now that when a girl says these things it's totally different than when a guy says them. Girls are very much guided by emotions and think very much in the moment. Their feelings and views can change wildly in a matter of hours much less weeks. Once you start to think of them as being wired differently than men, it gets much easier to deal with shit like this. Still sucks, but it's not completely unimaginable the way it is when you're assuming you and her are on the exact same page and suddenly she's pulling a 180.

Stay strong. She was totally a jerk to put you through that shit. Don't reward her with your time or attention.

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This is a great post. Exactly this.

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Yes. We are saying break up with her and don't talk to her again. When a girl says she doesn't want to be in a relationship but then says "I still want you in my life and will maybe date you in a year," it's one of the most disrespectful things she can do. It's her saying she wants to be free to fuck other guys but at the same time keep you around, so that once she's had her fill or if she doesn't find someone better she has a safety net. The only reason a girl breaks up with a guy is to be free to find another guy. Generally there are other guys on her radar, so it's her way of emotionally detaching herself so that she can be in a guilt-free fling with somebody.

When she does this, you leave immediately and never speak to her again. Particularly if you've been dating her for years like OP has. If she's willing to throw it all away right now, when things are easy, imagine when they have been married for 15 years and have 3 kids? No chance.

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Hi Guys, thanks for all the great info really helps.

Just thought I would thank you all for your support, I am truly grateful for all your support. You don't know me and you have taken the time to help a brother out in an hour of need. your pm's your replies are all amazing.

Staying strong and trying to focus on work and myself.
Just having a hard time motivating myself to go to the gym, but I have started playing 5 a side football again and I'm sure I can get my ass to the gym soon as it is essential for lifting my mood.

again thanks guys

Doing the right thing when least motivated is the biggest challenge. Just do it. You'll thank yourself later.

Stay strong.

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