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Background
So the long story short, I have met a HB7 at a university class. During a couple of weeks things progressed pretty well: lots of IOIs from her, she texted a lot, multiple times hinted that she is interested in me as a BF material, - in short she was all over me. Plus I learned from mutual friends that she told everybody about what a cool guy she met and how she digs him (i.e. me). I slowly escalated, we kissed. During these 2 weeks we went out three times to grab some food and coffee after the class.
Failed LMR
One day I invited her to a friend's party. We drank, danced, made out, etc. and then I ended up seeing her to her dorm and staying there for the night (sleeping in the lobby). Late at night I got up went to her room, started to make out with her again and I got her really fired up. Fingered her pretty darn good and she jerked me off a little. Finally, I ended up in her bed with my dick (in condom) just mm from her pussy - but when I pushed to go in, she resisted, said no and pushed me away. I thought: "Stop! Freeze Out Time", but .... then (horrors!) my dick went limb and I could not manage to get it up no matter how hard I tried. BTW, this all happened with her roommate sleeping just about 3-4 feet away in the same room.
After about 10 min when I was desperately trying to get it up, she asked me to leave the room and then, outside, apolligized for not letting me inside her and said that she felt embarassed because her roommate likely woke up and saw everything. I was ice cool about the limp dick, didn't make a big deal about her LMR, said that she is a special girl to me and then went back to sleep in the lobby. In the morning I kissed her goodbye and went home.
Aftermath
Couple of days later, I met her at the class and she was really cold and aloof, actively tried to avoid any contact with me, rapport breaking, etc. And myself, I didn't do a good job by falling into a rapport-seeking mode. Finally managed to speak with her and it felt really awkward. She was pretty friendly, looked at me with sparkling eyes but... rapport-breaking. Strange.... Went home without me. I went after and was able to catch up with her soon afterwards. Again she was friendly, looked at me with sparkling loving eyes ... but at the same time really aloof and distant (she literally walked about 6-7 feet away). Hm... Plus, awkwardness between us was so dense, it could be sliced with a butter-knife - even though I didn't bring up the subject. Finally, I said that I am going to grab some food and invited her over - she said, she had to go and we parted ways.
In a couple of days I invited her to hang out together. She was busy. Waited for a couple of weeks (she didn't attend that class even once) and called her - she didn't answer and hasn't return the call.
So...
Obviously this is buyer's remorse. Any suggestions on how to fix it (apart from obvious "let-her-go-and-game-other-women")? I am going to wait several days and send a text calling her out - in a funny way - on her being aloof and avoidant. Any comments and critique would be appreciated too. Thanks.
I think the big, big mistake was trying to have sex with her roomate in the room. Her ASD kicked in hard after you left. She doesn't want to think of herself as a "slut" and is racked with negative feelings of her roomate being there and fear that she witnessed the whole thing. The best thing you can do is give her time and space, see if she get's over that feeling of fear and shame. Trying to engage her will only push her away even more. Get into a good "abundance" mentality and begin to meet other women!
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