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I had a relationship with my ex for few months, and she is a Church girl(virgin 100%). By mistake, on the 2nd dating we were sleeping together and I touched her possy( didnt have sex). On the next two days, she broke up with me by this message "Remember the time you lied to me before and told me you will never do that again? I let that go thinking I could trust you again. I asked you last week if I had my own room. You told me yes. I believed you. Yet you still stayed. I was really angry. You betrayed my trust. You then told me you wouldn't do anything. The next night. I fell asleep after the movie because I was feeling very tired. I woke up seeing you touching me. I didn't know what to do. You told me you will not do anything to me as I sleep. You betrayed me once again and another time (invading my privacy). You took advantage of me while I was asleep. Right now I do not want to talk to you. I am very upset and very disappointed. I'm pretty sure now about my gut feeling I told you before was right. You continuously told me lies. I should have listened to God. I am breaking up with you. You may feel I should have came to you about it, but I was with you! Away from home. What if you had done something far worse than what you did those nights? I am done. I am breaking up with you". I explained and she did forgive me but did not want the relationship back "I rejected god once, and never do it again". I dont know if I still have any chance to take her back(Im the first one who did those things even sleep with her). Right now, Im using no contact rule and it has been a week without contacting!

well, I've got to make alot of assumptions here...but..
Avoiding physical sexual things is both of your jobs, not just yours. You blew it, but it sounds like so did she. Im not sure what the exact scenario here was, it sounds like she expected separate sleeping quarters or something? Well if thats the case, and she saw their wasn't, thats time for her to decide to leave. Not just go ahead with it and count on your promise. Thats not being in a relationship and dealing with these things together. There is no way shes going to get into a dating and engagement relationship that does not lead to sex if she expects the man to just hold back while she sleeps next to him. Thats not a strategy.