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You've got a lot of opinions in here that you present as fact. That is the problem.
You have clearly missed my point there. I will explain so you can understand me better.
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Men and women see sex an relationships differently. In addition, social norms are (unfortunately) more slanted for men's promiscuity being ok while women's promiscuity is seen as taboo.
That's not so valid. Except from myself I know other women too that see sex the same way that men see it. It is true that social norms encourage a double standard but only on the surface. Women were always hiding the fact that they can be as sexually promiscuous as men. Upbringing can have lots of influence too.
Monogamy is a choice we make. It is the same kind of choice as celibacy, choosing to go to university instead of work, wearing shoes etc. It is not compulsory and I wasn't focusing on that.
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This is true for some, but not for others.
Also true however, on the average scale a person who has lived their lives young and done the things they wanted to do they want to move forward and experience new things. Older people tend to prefer their telly, their couch and a good set of friends. That's why they don't go out much on clubs.
Friday & Saturday nights are full of 20 years old people. It's like 70% of 20 years old 20% of 30 years old and only a 10% of anyone older. (percentages are more or less). It just loses its appeal.
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The problem is that one sex considers this mutually exclusive while the other considers them as a package (IN GENERAL)
The fact that I value my companionship with you doesn't necessarily mean that I can't value sexual pleasure with other people. That's the thinking for most men while for most women the two MUST be combined.
that's true. We are reaching now my point, if a man WANTS to have the wife, the white house with the garden and the dog... and he approaches a woman who is on the same page with him and he says:" I can't give you monogamy".. he will put her off. So he will lose his chance.
That was exactly my point.
And I used myself as an example because I recently experienced that. The reason why I didn't stay with a guy like that was that I don't feel appealing being open to search for sexual partners. So it would had been unfair if he was sleeping around and I wasn't.
I am not condemning someone wanting to have their options open. Everyone is entitled to chose the lifestyle they want. BUT if you want a woman who is on the same mindset like I am and is looking long term you will make her feel scared to be with you.
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