Wotcha Chaps,

Whilst the whole PUA thing with regards to POF and the like is very interesting there is a world out there well beyond the casual dating scene which requires it's own style..

Lots of casual sex related sites out there, many of which are conjoined ( whitelabeldating etc) with other fairly specialist ones. It tends to be the case that everyone ends up in the same pile which can be a bit freaky... Married couples wanting you to join them is the least of your worries...

So with huge variation in the type of profiles you see, some with lots of explicit content and others with next to nothing at all, how do you go about picking up the chicks?

Several advantages of course in these sites, you know exactly why the lass is on there for a start. More importantly for me however is the idea that I really am not looking for a date. Too much alcohol and boredom with lasses who expect you to pay a high price for their favours. Usually in the form of putting up with their shit or pretending to like some inane hobby they have though the whole get me drunk and you can shag me thing is a waste of time, why have sweaty drunken sex where your senses are numbed when you can arrange a daytime meet with a clean and eager lass who is only looking for one thing?

Biggest advantage though is that opposites attract in the bedroom. No I wouldn't want to be seen stepping out in town with a multi-tatooed and pierced vegan, I'd happily give one a rumble though. Especially when no-one else will know about it. Don't underestimate this, when the equation is purely sexual rather than them wondering whether you will be a good father and provider you can and should broaden your horizons to the max... I'm not talking about ending up in a married sandwich here ( not my thing) or giving a married lass and outlet ( ditto), just saying don't judge it till you've poked it.

Some of the HB girls on these sites with glamour puss photos will literally rack up hundreds of messages a day. You want one? Better off going to whichever swinging club they frequent ( which they tend to) and trying in person. Chances are you won't be alone even if you do tickle her fancy.

Opposite end of the scale are the shy creatures that don't even have a profile pic, and sometimes no profile text. Spot them as the come online, pop a message into their inbox and you could be popping one into their inbox the same day...

Word of warning though, just blow off those who want to endlessly talk about sex or what you are going to do to them. Yes they are there for sex, but often with themselves. Almost always a waste of time.

For the middle of the road types, with nice and generally non explicit photos the usual rules apply. Read their profile and reference something about them in your message. Women are very literary creatures so innocent references to long, length, fill, wet, come, eating out, in, full and the like really work if you weave them skillfully into the conversation. Whatever you do though don't claim to be up for anything at any time, you can always change it in convo, day off work etc, make the times you are available specific and make them work around your schedule. Also try to make them come to yours ( opposite of shagging lasses on a night out) as it adds to the spirit of adventure... Spur of the moment is the key, "You want me to come to your place NOW?!?" being a text message I've received 6 times in the last 2 weeks... They do.

Don't get me wrong, you need to put some effort into setting up your profile and laying the groundwork with different lasses but the results after a few weeks can leave you wondering why your favourite body part has been reduced to a blurry bit of pink mist and even the local fishmonger would only touch your bedding with a bargepole....