Style life challenge. Edmonton. Me.. Them.. a mountain of bullshit that I have to single handedly shovel. And It came out of my ass. Insecurity. That word stings my brain everytime I say it in my head. A ten, A nine, another ten. three sevens. Open, close, attract, repel. A1 C1 S1....A1500 supreme...C2000 deluxo..... My head hurts.(bought that damn book and its obsolete!!!)

THE CHALLENGE.......
Day 1:
Mission....Operation Small Talk...(Make small talk with 5 strangers, even for only 5 seconds.)
West Edmonton Mall

Me:Hi, hows it going!?
Two girls:..........
Me:....right, it's such a party over here, I just can't take it, excuse me.(leave...)(shit....)

Me:Hey, you've been working hard, take five!
Her:lol thanks, I'll get right on it.
Me: Damn straight, don't want my workers to burn out on me! You know that looks real fun and totally not repetitve....
Her:lol..yeah, but I got to get out of debt somehow, right?
Me:I just moved out of my house and into a basement, and my death trap of a car needs $500 in repairs, I know exactly what you mean. Say gotta run, nice talking to you!
Her:Yeah see you!
Me:(ooohhh yeahh!!!) (leave)

Me:blah blah blah blah, blah blah!!!!
Them:Blah
Me:Right then(leave)

Me:....(shit)........(leave)

Me:(cant remember)
Them:(cant remember)
Me:something something, blah blah blah.
Them:blah blah blah
Me:lol.. Blah blah, gotta go, blah blah(leave)

Me:(Shit, its past 10:00pm, all the shops are closed, and there is noone to talk to, First day out, and I'm going to fail my mission.)(leave mall)
So I drove to a A+W, went to a drive throu, ordered stale fries, and tried to chat up the sales clerk
Me:Hey, dude, bet your looking forward to going home eh?
Him:yeah(leaves)
Me:WTF?...nmnd...
Him: here you go.......have a good night......
Me:You too, take it easy!
Him:.....yeah.......(leaves)..
Me:....asshole...(leave)

Day 2:
Mission...Look Into Their Eyes(five more strangers, but must look them straight in the eye.)

Me:Hey,you know Those milk commercials, were they say to never stop growing??? They meant for you to take it in stride.
Tall girl(blue eyes):.........okay(weird look)......
Me:Take er easy.
Tall girl:sure.
Me:(leaves)....lol....

Me(bookstore):You two are totally in my way!!
girl(Brown eyes): Ugg uhh!!, you in mine!!
Me: Is that so..
Her:(smirk)yeah so watch it!!
Me:Your scary, I'm going home to my mom.
Her:lol
Her friend:(giggles)
Me:(leave)
Them:(laughes)
Me:(smirk)

Me:Whoa!!! I didn't even see you there!!(I did)
Her(blue eyes)(sitting on bench in shoe store):oh sorry!
Me:nah no problem!
Her:(looks back down at her phone)
Me:.......(leaves)...

Me(HMV):Can you guys recommend a movie for me?
Her(looks up, looks away): Ohh, I'm no expert, you should ask my boyfriend(steps aside)
Him(green eyes): So, what kind of movie are you looking for?
Me:Ahh, just one to fiil time..
Him:Well do you like comedies, action, horror?
Me:Lets go with action!!
Him:Here, True Romance, It's a Quentin Tarantino movie, quite good!
Me:Thanks dude!
Him: No problem
Me:(leaves, buys movie)

Me:So, how long youve been waiting for her?
Him(brown eyes):Yeah, tell me about it, she got a closing shift, so of course I gotta come get her, and wait for 40 mintutes!
Me:Yeah price you pay I guess
Him:lol yeah, no way out, oh well....
Me:......have a good one(he dosent know)..
Him: yeah you too dude.
Me:(leaves for home, watches movie)

Day 3:
mission..Mr Moviefone(call 3 random strangers and try to get them to suggest a movie re-direct conversation)

Me:Hi, is katie there?
Her:no, sorry, you have the wrong phone number.
Me:Ohh, well maybe you can help me instead, because I'm....(going to the movies, can you make a reccomendation?)
Her: sorry, I cant bye!!(click)
Me:@#%# whatever..

Me:same
Him:Is this a joke?
Me:uhh, no
Him: Sorry dude, cant help you.(click)

Me:same
Her:blah blah blah
Me:okay, thaks anyway.(click)

Same

Same

Done.(play Halo 3 online)


Day 4:
mission...Ask An Expert...(Ask 3 women of the datable variety, for a good fashion store)

Me:Hey, you look fashionable enough, you think you can tell me were a good fashion store is?
Her:A fashion store?
Me:Yeah, one that sells menswear.
Her:Your not from around here are you?
Me: Uhh, no.(I live 10 km away)
Her:huh.(smirk)Oh, sure, you could go to H+M blah blah blah
Me:Sweet, your soo helpful, your hired!(turn to leave I know, Should have stayed to talk)
Her:lol thanks, see you!
Me:yea, later(leave)
Her:Bye!!
Me:(smile over my shoulder)

Me:You two can help me out can't you?
Mom and teenage daughter:Uhh okay?
Me:can you two can tell me were a good fashion store is?
Them:sure, blah blah blah H+M blah blah..
Me:Nice, thank you both.

Me:Hey, you guys know a fashion store where they don't yank the money out the backside?
Two girls:sure blah blah Latitude blah blah..
Me:Nice thanks
Them:Okay..

Day 5:
mission....Make A Change....(buy nice new clothes at the store recommended by girls)
Bought stuff, went home
done......palyed halo 3 online

Day 6:
mission....If You Can't Say Anything Nice.....(give four random women spontanious compliments, then leave)

Me:nice cowboy boots, they suit your style
Her:.......
So I walked over to the cashier, but shes busy(and hot) so I talk to another store employee
Me:You have a nice vibe,I gotta ask you something.
Her:Thanks,okay.
Me:Do you know were I can find a hat that looks like a upside down flower pot?
Her:lol no, ill ask her.. Hey this guy wants a flower pot shaped hat!!
HB8:really..lol.. why would you want that?
Me:Because I just don't care!!Well, if you must know, I was watching a red hot chilli pepers interview and the lead singer was wearing a weird looking flower pot shaped hat
HB8: You know I went to a RHCP concert, it was crazy, I had such a good time.
Other girl: I haven't gone to any concerts, I know it's embarassing!!(walks away with akward smile and funny walk)
Me:Yeah I'm going to the foo fighters concert in march, that is going to blow my mind!! anyway, so do you know where I can find a hat like that?
Her:no, but you can try galaxyland, they got stuff like that in there.
Me: sure thing, ill try that(leaves)
Her:see yeah.(I gotta stay one of these times I swear!!!)

10 min later, I was in a line up for a cinnaemon roll and a turkey sandwich at a fast food counter in the food court. When these two girls, one a grungy half punk, half emo girl, one super quiet, barge into line right in front of me.
Me:Ohh no you don't
Grunge:Haven't you heard of ladies first?
Two options popped into my mind #1 "Well normally yes, but this time(look her over) I'll make an exception! I went with #2 (while cutting infront, looking over my shoulder with sarcastic look) "Your no lady!"
smooth, real smooth.
Her:......You f#@&ing piece of $@#. #$@ sucking Fa#$#$, It's not like your a......old man!!!!!
Me:damn, she has a point, I'm not a old man right..
Them:(leaves)
Me:(turns to cashier)You seem way nicer than her(not spontanious, I know) Yeah, theres alot of friendly people around here!!!
Her:(Looks at me akwardly)
Me:Ill have a cinnaomen roll and a turkey sandwich.

cashier at zellers, bought milk chocolate easter bunnies. she's with a friend
Her:So me and julie are blah blah blah
Friend:ugh, you have a coustomer..
Her:ohh, right..is that everything?
Me:yep
Her:so anyways blah blah blah..
Friend:Maybe you should finish with your coustomer first
Me: Thats okay, Its good to be social!!!(should have complimented the girl who wasen't a social retard for pointing out the obvious, my bad...)
Friend:ohh, sorry.
Her: do you want your reciet?
Me:nope(leave)

Going back to my car I cross paths with grunge and superquiet girls. Their talking with some dude
Grunge:Do you have any mushrooms, or jib?
Dude:no, not today
Me:makes sense


Day 7(yesterday):
mission.....Prepare 3 openers...Test your openers..

#1 Ask about flower pot hat, tell about video to explain
#2 Ask for opinion about grunge girl situation
#3 Ask what would get me famous quicker, leaning the drums, or learning street dance?(I want to do both, but are super expensive)

Im in a store and approach mixed two set:
Me:do you guys know where I can get a flower pot hat?
Boy(looks away,and down)
Girl:Uhh, no why?(takes step back)
Me:explains...
Girl:Sorry, can't help you.
Me:Okay(leaves)

I butchered that set by the way. I came in too close, and made them feel uncomfortable... doom. ohh well.

H+M store, in line infront of mixed two set:
Me:Hey, do you guys know were I can find a hat that looks like a flower pot upside down?
Guy:......looks right through me like I'm invisible
Girl:Huh?
Me:Well I was watching a interview with the red hot.....
cashier:next please!!!!
Me:shit nevermind.....(walk over to cashier)
people in store:lol snicker snicker.....heh heeh..heh..
Me:I hate this opener, it can burn!!

Completly destroyed that set as well, because not only was I too close, but also tried to do it before i was called up(dumb move) Completly destroyed my social value. Thats my second scuff mark on my armour this week.
doom

I knew I was pushing my self for time, because I went out with my friend today(or rather yesterday) and went laser tagging with his friend, and girlfriend, leaving little time before the stores closed(and people left)

So I went around looking for a new set, the place was deserted. Found one lone woman on bench.
Me:So wheres the husband?(imprompto opener, sue me, I wanted to go home)
Her:oh, just over there in the food court.
Me:cool, as long as you not alone i guess, see yah(I don't care I'm going home!!!)
Her:So were are you going?
Me: Oh, I'm just on my way out.(sure felt that way, too tired, must sleep)
Her:Okay bye!!
Went home.....
What can I say, really, I'm a noob, for sure, but I have good body language, and I am fairly confident. I can create attraction, but I'm alittle like the bull in the china shop. But hey, I was sheltered by my parents (I couldn't watch Bettle juice, or the simpsons, it wasen't wholesome) I hate that word. I was forbidden to hang around a few friends that were girls because they were a "boob fest" My family moved out onto a acreage, I asked them why, They said" their is drugs and unwholesome behaviour in stony plain so we moved out here to protect you guys" when I was little, I was told to play in the back yard, but i didnt want to. my parents told me that I would be kidnapped by strangers if i didn't. a couple of monthes ago, I told my parents that i didn't want to go to church anymore, They said this, its a classic: "well we can't tell you what to think, and its you choice if you want to go to church or not, but as long as you are in this household, you go to church as part of this household. ie. if im living in the house, i go to church, if im not going to church, im not in the household(I coulden't afford living on my own yet). So here I am. taking on the world one set at a time. Im taking today(sunday off) day 8 is monday. I'm going to bed. later folks!!!!!

Surge pop Edmonton.

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Don't go out looking for the perfect situation, just take it, then make it what you will. Don't be so picky.

I love posts like this! Let us know what happens next =)

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"Anyone who sees us is gonna see us with girls."

In regards to the last part of your post, I know exactly what you're talking about. Went to private school because the kids in the public schools didn't "share OUR values." And if you know anything about Catholic schools they really aren't that much better, more booze less drugs.

My mom didn't care for my choice of reading material, I favored science fiction/ fantasy and military/spy fiction ie Tom Clancy. She would literally throw a copy of Jack London's Call of the Wild at me whenever she saw me reading. To this day I still haven't read it.

My advice to you is this, tough out the short term. You've only got a couple years left in your parents' house. Use the time to examine yourself and figure out who you are and what your long term goals in life are going to be.

And as much as they may aggravate and piss you off to no end, let it go. Trust me when I say this, that anger and contempt is not something you want to carrying around inside throughout college and the beginning of your professional life.

Second, don't be two different people. For the longest time, there was the person I was socially and the "censored" version when I was around my parents. Don't do it. If they can't accept you for who you are, that's their problem. If their expectations are in conflict with who you are and what you want to do with your life, it's their responsibility as adults to deal with it, not yours.

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No regrets, no failures, only lessons learned.

Actually, I have already moved out of the house, and have let go of most of the things my parents put on me, because looking at it through this frame I can see that they are more AFC than Ive been in years!!
And, I don't really censor myself around anyone, I don't usually swear, unless im pissed, or if im really actually laughing at it. And I have shed unbelievable amounts of anger since High school(worst years of my life)
Nowadays I find it harder and harder to care what others think of me, because usually they are motivated by insecurity, and need to bring you down to get that "hit of self esteem" that lasts 10 min.
And I appreciate your comments, but I am toughing it out, and will complete the challenge, and I will Win. And I'm going to reclaim the captain's chair, and finally go where I want to go. RRROOOOOAAARRR!!!

[quoteI love posts like this! Let us know what happens next =)[/quote]

Tell you what, next week I'll put out Part 2, even if noone reads it!!lol
well, I think its safe to say many people are going through the same runs that I'm doing, I just need more practice to seemlessly open, and transition, so I can tell stories, and use my C&F that Ive learned, and practice the almighty micro calibration!! important!!!!

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Don't go out looking for the perfect situation, just take it, then make it what you will. Don't be so picky.

Hrm so I suppose we are going to give advice or critique you now?

Ok

Pro: you are actually approaching people and sets. This is a great thing it shows confidence and women like confidence one of the biggest problems with PUA nooblets is that they can't approach to save their lives....

Con: You aren't stacking. AND you are leaving just as the set is starting to open up. Basically you need to take that same confidence you have when you approach and apply it to your willingness and desire to stay and finish the conversation. Set time limits for yourself. (IE: I must stay here for 15 minutes (or until blown off) talking to this girl) STACK STACK AND STACK SOME MORE. Use memorized canned openers if you are having trouble with original witty material this forum is PACKED with openers you can use. You NEED to stay and finish what you started try setting the goal for yourself of CLOSING a set at some point or another not just opening and bolting.

Uh if you weren't asking for advice on this then I dunno what to say but it looks as though you are having a spot of trouble with your sets and the above is my advice

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know what, you absolutely right, I hereby declare that next sucessful set, I shall stay until blown out, or she's giving off the "SOS" look to someone nearby, or lets say I'll start with 10 minutes. there. next week I'll stay for 20.

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Don't go out looking for the perfect situation, just take it, then make it what you will. Don't be so picky.

great read mat....gotta tell we are in the same boat with the parents.

Me, personally am pretty darn confident around known people but is pretty crap around strangers. Look at my post at PUA lounge section man. Need serious help for the Saturday pickup...come on guys.

LOL peace then ...

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