| I understand that the gym seems like an intimidating place for pickup; girls look mean and/or angry, the dudes are huge and scary looking, and it feels extra weird to approach someone who is clearly there on a mission. If you read my post history, you'll see that I once asked the same question. The answers weren't very helpful, but I've thought about it a lot since then. I got 2 numbers with girls in my gym this past weekend, both I expect to get day 2's with, and I have a formula that works pretty well for me, although it is quite direct so it might not be your cup of tea.
The first thing that you have to understand is that every woman in the gym is there for one purpose, sometimes two: 1) to look good for men, and 2) to look good for judges if they compete. Sometime you'll meet actual athletes, but my opener covers this possibility. When I open girls at the gym, I typically like to do it the second or third time I see her, which shouldn't be a problem if you are consistent about the time you go to the gym. If she's wearing headphones, as I'm walking up to her and make initial eye contact, I smile and point to my own ears, pretending to pull out headphones that are already out of my ears because I know I'm about to talk to her. She'll pull them out and look at you expectantly. Then, simply say; "Hey, I've seen you here a few times! Are you working out for anything specific, or to just look good and stay healthy?" If she a bodybuilder, physique competitor, or athlete, she will tell you with pride. If she's isn't any of the above, and simply wants to look good and be healthy, she will say so as well. Either way, your response is the same: "Oh really? that's cool! Well you look fit and gorgeous! I'd like to get to know you better!"
If you did everything right, she may give you a blank stare, or look a little taken back. Don't let this confuse you, you just made her week, probably her month, or even, possibly, her year! They key to this interaction is to be confident, genuine, and honest. You do this by maintaining a smile the whole time and good body language. You don't need to be intense at all, the way you would be at a club. Just be friendly and interested, and she will greatly appreciate it.
At this point, she may be staring at you blankly. If you did everything right, this stare is the equivalent of you seeing a perfect 10 for the first time and literally having your breath taken away. Sometimes she may give you a big smile and jump right into conversation. Either way, these are huge IOI's. At this point you extend your hand for a handshake and introduce yourself. At this point you've broken the touch barrier, but you should also touch her lightly on the upper arm, which is a more man to woman touch than a handshake. You've now started talking and touching, so at this point you just escalate the way you would in any other situation. Good Luck!!
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