So its been two weeks since I joined the community and started teaching myself how to be better. I have finished 'the game' which has been a good way for me to learn some of the basics and I've been reading through the forum to get some more knowledge.

Over the last two weeks I have pushed myself to go out 4 times, which is a big increase on the usual 0, and have been trying to take opportunities to talk to strangers to improve my confidence. It is night 4 which is the most interesting, so i'll just glaze over the first three. The first two times I went out, I managed to get talking to a group of girls and did so for a long time. I was amazed at myself, and afterwards even felt a little proud. I had told myself that I didn't need to worry about number closing, or kissing a girl, just so I could take it one step at a time and not freak out. After the second night out though, I realised afterwards that I had done well enough to get a number, so the third night I increased the bar a little and if the opportunity arose, I would try. This night wasn't great and I only managed to dance a little with some girls. Dammit, I though I was on a roll.

Now for night 4. I started the night with a drink to help get in the mood, even though I don't usually drink. I wanted to open a set just to build some confidence, a warm up. I got close to a group of four girls and asked them what they though of my jacket- it was said in a way to be like 'hey give me some fashion advice'. Amazingly they started unbuttoning my jacket then and there, if I was smoother I would have been able to make so much more of this, but I just couldn't believe what was happening so I laughed mainly. I didn't try to make any more conversation as I wanted to move on, and my confidence was boosted enough, I could have got talking to them though, again if I wasn't so caught off guard.

In the club I was dancing and two girls came over to dance nearby, we started engaging after I was told to 'look happier'. Don't tell me how happy I should be! No, this was good, I suck at starting convo when dancing. I even get awkward when gils dance near me.
One girl was older, and one was hot, so lets call them fossil and sun. Fossil started dancing with me in a sexy but jokey way, and i was thinking ' I wish this was your friend. Anyway we danced for a while and made some small talk and jokes. They went and sat down for a breather so after a few minutes I stood next to fossil as she wanted to tell me something. The something went a little like this: "My friend sun likes you, you should go and chat her up" "how old are you, do you have a girlfriend?" (I imagine this was all stuff she was finding out to tell her friend in a minute)
OK, so this is some playground stuff and I was so put on the spot. I am such a newbie and this kind of thing has not happened to me before, my brain was melting.

I decide to sit in between the two of them and make some general chatter, focusing on Sun. After talking for ten minutes I got them to dance again, where eventually it was left with me and Sun talking on the dance floor, with some dancing to fill in the silences when my brain went blank. Turns out she's 7 years older than me. She would destroy me.

Then came this: "So do you have a girlfriend or what?"
"No. Why do you?"
The sexual tension was killing me
We hugged
(Ok this could be it Sapphire, be cool, and spit your gum out)
It was it, we started making out on the dance floor. Cool, well done me, I'm making progress.

We went out to the smoking area to talk, it was just chit chat though- I have no skills at escalating sexual tension. We went back inside and I decided that I would try only for her number and another kiss.

When it came to getting her number, I asked "Am I going to see you again?" At this point she said that she could take my number. I know there are rules about this so I asked for hers instead and got it (yay, my first number close). I also got another kiss. (Doubling my tally of my entire life)

So that is that. How did I do? I would really appreciate any advice from this even though it is not super detailed.

On the side I would like your thoughts on a few questions:

1. If an older chick asks for my age, should I lie to be closer to their age, or tell the truth and risk that they think the age gap is too big? (At the time I imagined that her knowing our age difference would mean she would be more inclined to have a fling, whereas if we were a similar age, she would see relationship potential?)

2. I feel like I am too slow to escalate, and I take steps backwards. Once you guys get a girl interested, do you tend to escalate quite quickly?

3. When should I call her, and what kind of date should I suggest? I can only see this being a fling, I feel like a bit of a toy boy.

Thanks for reading.

Dont lie about your age, she needs to prove her worth to you, not the other way around. And ask yourself this. You're talking about relationship potential. Do you think lying about your age would do that any good? If you dont want to risk it, avoid the question by telling her something cool that once happened.
You got some IOI's you could have capitalized on sooner yes, but taking your time is still better than nothing obviously. You're a bit of a rookie you say and closing isnt easy at start, because we tend to miss signals when we are new at things. The IOI's here: They went dancing with you; they thought you were funny; she asked your age for her friend which she even said likes you. Also, close on the dancefloor the next time, with the number and saying bye for now. It is more in sight of others and gives a huge boost to social value in the club. As for the chit-chat in the smokers lounge, it didnt seem to be needed to get the number close.
About the escalation parts. What you could do is reward the IOI's by giving kino, if she accepts that try to touch some more sensual parts, such as her neck or waist. Also eye contact is very important here. You need to be challenging, but not throw all your cards out there right away.
I dont really conform to the "when" part normally. Someone else might have something to say about that. If you go on a date with her do something with high energy and a lot of different sceneries. You met dancing, try and get her back in that flirty active state on your dates. If you want a fling, that might work. Get your priorities straight in that matter. If you want a fling, which seems well possible here, you need to set up a date. She has shown you enough interest to be sure she likes you. Dont overthink it, just take her some place fun. I could recommend indoor surfing or wall climbing, but I'm sure you could think of something good.


Good effort anyway, keep it up! Even the pro's started somewhere.

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