Hey guys, I have a slight concern.

My girlfriend had a lot of guy friends before I came along. I knew this and understood before entering into a relationship with her. Anyways, we didn't seem to have any problems until today. Originally, she had told me she was going to go to the movies with a couple of her male friends. I said ok that's cool. One of her friends (who I am beginning to know on my own terms as we are all in the same program at school) ended up inviting me. I asked her if that was cool or if she wanted space. She said some space would be nice but if I wanted to come she understood. I let her go on with her buds and I did my thing. Anyways, I texted her to find out how it was, it turns out they also went to the water park. Do I have a right to be a little off-put by this? Her bud did invite me as well. She originally wanted space to talk to her best friend about how I am a good guy (her friend wasn't so into me at first for some reason). Anyways, she obviously had time to talk, could she not have had least invited me to the water park after she had found out they were going there afterwards? For some reason, her frolicking about in a bikini with two guys isn't my favourite thing. She also said that they didn't even get wet, which may be, but the water park costs $25 each? why would she pay that much coin just to for them all to go sit and stare. Many thanks for your help brothers!!

I personally wouldn't be bothered to much. You let her go to have fun. She does what she wants (within limits). Which she didn't break.

Now what does bother you here ? Is it the fact that she is having fun with guys ? Or is it that she needs her space ? Regardless what it is tell her. "you frolicking about in a bikini with two guys isn't my favourite thing". That's it

Oh man...

If I was you, I'd do two things :

1. Next.
2. Doing the same with female friends of mine.

Run. And fast.

Her needing space is fine. It's more the fact that it was originally for a movie which turned into them going to the waterpark. But I guess I have gone to the waterpark with my dad before, it's not necessarily a sexual thing?

People going to the water park isn't a sexual thing. You sound needy.

You did the right thing by letting her do her thing with her friends, don't undo thay by getting uptight about the 2ater park.

If her friends are orbiters, that's all they do...they have no chance of getting with her. On top of that the one friend clearly is comfortable with his friends status considering you guys are getting tight and he invited you along...good job again declining, shows tons of confidence.

You were unclear If the other friend was a guy, kinda sounds like that's the case. of anything he's prob the friend zoned orbiter, but who cares....you're with her. It's the confidence you showed that will show her what a great catch you are and what a douche her orbiter is.

Don't listen to the dude above that said to next her. Plato ic friends are a fact of life and the older you get the more it will happen. The sooner you learn to make peace with it the better. If you're girl ever wanted to cheat, having guy friends wont change a thing. Also, once a dude is the "friend" they will seldom become anything else.

I think since you chose at the time to be okay with it, you have to decide that you were okay with it. To blow up later makes your decisions not so concrete.

The fact that she went to the water park might upset you, so just let her know that upset you. And be satisfied that you expressed how you felt. That's the real success there, expressing how you really felt and learning from it.

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Normally when I read the title and it says, "Should I be worried about this" the answer is always yes. In this case though I wouldn't worry at all. Her plans changed and instead of a movie they went to a park. So what. You let her go out on her own(which is the right call) even though she said you could come, which would indicate she wasn't planning on cheating or interested in the other guys. Let it go and enjoy your relationship.

Cool thanks all! I think you guys are right who are saying it isn't a big deal. If I'm out with female friends and they want to go water sliding, I don't want to have to be all like "hold up let me check with the girlfriend if it's cool." haha thanks all.

DO NOT tell her the water park upset you. You'll go from cool confident BF to insecure vagina in am instant

I guess my main question for you is would you rather be dating a chick who would have wanted you to go with her and really been excited about it. Because a top notch girlfriend would do that. I personally would next a girl who pulled this but I have super high standards. Also depends on how serious your relationship with her is, how long you've been dating, that stuff. A no-fucks-given attitude was the best move on your part, you played it well. But I just wouldn't waste time with a girl who needed to hang out with dudes like this and then go to a waterpark with them, and who shot you down *after* the other dude invited you. I don't think the other guys are threats, but I do think one guy will come along who *is* a threat and if she's already setting the precedent of her needing space and hanging out with guys then you're probably asking for it down the line.

If I were you I'd have a backup chick and I'd also be "hanging out" with female friends.

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That's why you're single. Too controlling, and you're insecure as fug.

She's hanging with friends, assuming one of them have any interest in her or at least aren't hitting on her? Who cares. What's the issue?

It's trust. If you trust her in what she says it'd be a non issue.

Do what some of the guys on here say and hang with women, you think that'll solve your jealousy issues? Nah, it'll make them worse. Games. No wonder so many guys on here struggle to attract women.

You are absolutely good. Yes, you should be worried that your girlfriend will grow tired of your possessiveness and paranoia, and then leave you.

If you expect your girlfriend to ask your permission before having fun with her friends, I think you're going to be single a lot. Best of luck.

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I'm not single you idiot. I like girls who actually want me around and don't "need space" to go to the movies with two other guys and end up at a waterpark. It's not even the cheat-risk that annoys me. It's the fact she'd rather hang out with two other guys than OP, even when one of those guys invites OP. What does that say about her as a person? Selfish.

Not everyone has to settle for the bottom of the barrel, n2. You think it's an issue of insecurity because you think it's "alpha" to allow a girl you're dating to do whatever the fuck she wants while pretending you don't care. Why not pick a girl who'd actually want you to come hang out with her and her friends? My gf would.

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