Dont work on the conscious but the subconscious.
Cut much of the conscious game by asking her what she likes and if she wants to come with you anywhere..
Be more leading.. Say, lets go to some book shop, i need help with buying a book
She uses stereotypes, so asking her to go to a pub or bar, generates more anxiety..but just going to a shop or simply walking to unimportant place should be okay. Try to 'bounce' from one location to another..establish comfort.
With touching..it is kino, you have to do at least some of it. touch lightly her hands or the areas behind the arms.. it is not sexual.. and not being so felt. Touch releases extocin. Extocin is a hormone that is released in women after orgasm.. it leads to bonding. What would hormone would your body release if she touched your knee repeatitively? You get the idea?
Look for Mystery method.
I am going through a tougher phase..I didnt time bridge (like Mystery said)..and I try to meet that person in again (I met her on the street and build some comfort levels). Now it is a facebook game..and I might lose today and thats it.