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So when i appraoch im always ready for a little then get into my head on the way over.
Ill think, is this girl cute? Do i want her? Does she have a nice body? Will she be a bitch? What will i say? Will it be weird? What if she laughs and kills me? Things like that. How do i stop that
Notice what you said: You said,
"I'm always ready for a little, then I get into my head"
What you're doing is
you are allowing your THOUGHTS to come between you and the girl you want to
approach.
That is your MIND talking.
I know exactly how you feel.
In the past, if I saw a girl I wanted to approach and talk to, my
first gut instinct would say,
"Go over there" but as I was on my way to her my mind would
get in the way, by saying me stuff like
"She'll reject you" and
"You'll embarrass yourself"
The trick is to learn how to get in SYNC with your mind and body, so that your mind doesn't interfere.
Here's how:
The reality is that
your mind will never be quiet. It will always have something to say
just to mess with you.
So just
accept that as a fact, and stop resisting it when it happens.
When you are walking towards the girl, and you hear your mind say those things and questioning what
you want to do, take a breathe in your stomach and say,
"Thanks for sharing".
Thanks for sharing is a very powerful sentence because when you say it, you stop arguing with the mind,
and the mind loses all of it's power.
Imagine you're having an argument with someone, and the person says,
"You're an idiot and an asshole and stupid" and you
just say,
"Thanks for sharing"
What's probably going to happen?
Is the person going to keep repeating himself, after all, you just agreed with him?
Probably he'll just quit arguing.
That's the same mechanism that you use with your mind. You acknowledge it, and by doing that, take away
all of the power that it has over you.
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Hope this helps, I wish you best.
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