Hey! I am new to this forum, but read a lot on here a couple a years ago. I look forward to dwell in here though

So... My GF of 3 years just broke up with me, couple of weeks ago. So I am ready to get out there again! (Slowly, hehe ) I got this insane hot neighbor, she is 33 I think (I am 29), with a kid... My kid is playing outside with her kid sometimes too... So, I Wonder what the best way to approach/open is... Should I just add her on fb? Ask to get her number cause of the kids?

I am a bit rusty (and a little shook up because of the breakup). So help would be greatly appreciated! (Also If anyone have some tip on how to get over my ex faster)

Thanks, Stathamr

Tell her you'll pop for a sitter so the grownups can have a 'play date'!

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I have no kids but it seems to me that in your situation they are the ideal channel to create a connection with the girl... Man it sounds like those love stories in movies !
So forget about Facebook for now... you got a much better card in your hand!

Go talk directly to her about the kids...
Again I have no experience with kids, but in those movies (which I hate and never really watch but lol), would not the single dad organize a 4.20 for the kids and offer the tea to the single mum when she comes to pick up her kid?

whatever you do... dont add her on facebook - that is uber creepy

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I nearly spilt my coffee reading this lol

Yea don't add her on FaceBook when you haven't developed any real attraction or rapport with her. Approach her situationally, break some rapport, qualify her and find out what she likes to do for fun and plan something around that or just go for drinks. Best way to get over your ex is to just start gaming more girls.

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Yeah i think facebook would be the weirdest way to go about this seeing as how she's right next door. Well i think you have a little time on your hands. Plus you have the connection with kids so there's that.

What i would do is one day offer to take both kids to the park and invite her to come.
If she comes you can watch the kids and talk and get to know each other. From there if everything goes well then you shoud offer to go half on a baby sitter so you guys can go out and do adult stuff. You'll have it from there.
If she doesnt go when the kids come back try to talk to her and ask her if she's busy and all that and offer to take her out to relax one day or something.

But DONT FREIND HER ON FACEBOOK!! Then youll be that creepy guy next door

Pebble: yeah, my son is 6 years old... Psycho!

Kids is great for connecting, as long as they go along! (Had a couple of bad experiences! haha).

Got some solid advice, thanks! Will definitely go over there and ask "The kids" out, maybe next weekend Yeah, the Facebook thing its a crappy option, I agree!

Btw, any comments on this:
I got friends as old as me who NEVER had a girlfriend, and gets new girls every weekend...
Each time I am single, Im like YEAH, MY TIME! But each time I always end up meeting "Someone special" rather too fvcking quickly, and then I am on the same crappy ride again! I really enjoy being single too, and usually no problem getting women, so I don't think its fear of being alone either? Been single for maybe 6 months for the last 14 years combined! (WTF is wrong I'm thinking!? Anyone else have the same issue? Any special trick to not get to emotionally involved?) Weird question, I know... hehe

There's no trick, it's just knowing what you want. There is a fear that if you have a girl that is really into you that she won't be in to you if you tell her that you're not in to a monogamous relationship right now, but you enjoy spending time with her and want to keep hanging out. There was a point in time in my life where I would never have the balls to tell a girl I like that because I'd be too scared she would end it. That by in large hasn't been the case. There are a few girls that go on to meet another guy and get serious with that guy, but that's just part of the game.

I've found that the more upfront I am about it at the very beginning the easier it is to stay out of a serious relationship until I'm the one that's ready to call it official.

No facebook. NO NO NO.

That said, your situation is ideal. You already have an opener. If you're kids are hanging out then just be there when she goes to talk to her kid.

If you get the chance to open, just don't be pushy. Given the situation, if you come off too strong, you're screwed. If you're neighbors, and your kids are friends, you can actually build this up slowly. This is counter-intuitive to what I would normally say but play this one slower. This isn't a girl you're trying to spend 3 hours with before taking home from the club. You have reason to see her all the time. DO NOT start creepy or hard. Build up

great question - try an open relationship

i love open relationships and girls love them too. and in fact some girls will only be with you and don't mind if you see other women. this is called a mono/poly amorous relationship and its the kind i like to favor.

after you sleep with her (not directly after) and she brings up relationship status bring up that you are just looking for fun because you are young (no matter how old you are) and ask her if she has ever been in an open relationship. dont ask her to be in a mono/poly amorous relationship... it kind of just falls into that if you keep her satisfied.

hope this helps.

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Agreed with Heywood as usual. Do what he says after you establish some rapport with her by talking to her about WHATEVER. The two of you have a shit ton in common - you're neighbors, your kids hang out together, etc. etc. etc. Shoot the shit with her and if the two of you are vibing, schedule the play date already.

Yeah, Iam thinking that might be it! Fear of pushing them away if Im honest... Makes a lot of sense though, getting to know each other better before getting too serious is nothing but positive I guess. I think my problem is that I somehow sends out the wrong message. As I said, I have been in relationships (3) since I was 14 years old or something, but Ive cheated A LOT (Not in the last relationship). And 95% of the time, the girls get the idea that I wanted relationships with them, a lot of drama ofc! So, it is probably better to be straight up as you say.

I guess I never imagined most girls would be up for that....

I also think it would be best to play it slow, and I have started! (Had a few "small talks") (I also got 2 other girls going SPAM, but that is just ego boosters tbh... I really don't want girls that I don't find highly attractive)

Anyway, my ex have come to visit (fuck) two times now... I know I shouldn't, because I feel right back to start healing wise, resulting in ruining my confidence! But, I am not sure on how to tell her to stop contacting me, without sounding like a childish moron! (I really would like to have another try with her, when we both are at another places in our lives). So what do I tell her?

Thanks again for great advice!

Dont add her on facebook.

Let her invest in you. So be creative and so something. There is lack of confidence so dont look for excuse to talk to her. Go directly and talk to her.

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