girls always say to me in clubs: 'I'm not going to have sex with you'
after they say this I carry on talking to them but they deny my advances so i go and talk to other girls
But then after this they try everything to get my attention again?


In the most recent situation I spoke to a girl that said exactly this to me.
'I'm not going to go back and have sex with you, im just warning you'
She initially got my attention by caressing me as I walked past which I turned and opened without fail as always.

some of the things that really confused me:
she would do a little pushing force on my belly when i was standing close facing her
she was always smiling
she randomly walked away from me a few times to be with her friend and her friend would look at me now and again and smile/giggle.

One time she rejected my advances when I tried to get more intimate so I turned away and danced with my friends to which she immediately grabbed my hand to get me back to her
Another time she rejected my advances so I went to dance with another girl to which she again tried to grab my hand to get my attention but I wasn't having it
She wasn't being as fun as the girl I was dancing with and seemed to just want attention.

I've got all the basics down I can open very well and easily i can maintain conversation I can make them laugh I can kino I can kiss I can open groups successfully I can get girls to give me their phone number dont even have to ask but they always seem to say completely unprovoked:
'im not going to go back and have sex with you'
but at the same time they want all my attention in the club?
......while assuming all i want is sex???????
lol hmmmmm

any thoughts similar experiences?
thanks

LOL When women say :

'I am not going to have sex with you'

Translates to:

'I want to have sex with you'

Do not listen to women literally. Read between the lines, don't make this mistake again. When I ever I hear a girl say that to me, I form a secret smile and then I am like, 'Sure, let's just hang out instead' and proceed to take her home. Women don't to be perceived as 'sluts' so they have to say stuff like this so that they can justify to their friends, 'well i went back for the intention of a DVD and it just kinda 'happened''

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I'm afraid I don't know what a sound verbal justification of them coming back with me would look like
(without them appearing like 'a slut')

i usually find that, when i justify them coming back with me, they fire back more remarks to try and undermine it

next time im just going to lead them out, throw in justifications and really push the boundaries just so i know where i'm at with them at that point because getting this far consistently is new to me.

huh?

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I've said this on another post, and my response is.. Putting my finger over their mouth and say "Shhh.. Yes you are".

It's not about what you say though, its all about "how" you say it.

If you are shaken inside by a woman saying this, she wins. When you learn to stand strong and be unmoved emotionally by this statement; it won't matter what she says, because you'll be ready for it.

And you learn that emotional control through trail and error. Try different things, try my statement, next time try something else. You'll overcome it with experience.

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