Saturday

Wake up in the morning and run to old town to grab my vehiclez. MC bro texts me to meet up. Apparently there's a St. Patty's day parade. I waltz through and meet MC bro as well as some other meetup people at Lucky Joe's. I socialize there, talk and joke with some people. We bounce to a couple places, joke around and small talk some more, and then I peace.

I drive to Denver. Model girl (CS girl) texts me, I arrive at her place. She's getting ready in her room, we're chatting / joking around, and I'm introduced to her roommate, a cutie (BS girl). She comes into the room and starts telling me a story about her cat. I know I'm in. We leave to grab alcohol and food. In the car, BS girl reveals she has a boy toy and tells us the story in detail (I love these stories). BS girl keeps telling me how awesome I am, and how she never gets to sing out loud with a boy in a car. She asks me about my love life. CS answers for her, there's too many girls. Lol, amazing social proof when another girl does it for you. I tell them about the girl from Friday night, and about NS girl asking me out to dinner (happened on Friday, I declined). Told them about the monogamy talk with JS girl. Too many fucking girls. We get to the hotel. The other arrive. All in all, it's CS girl, SG girl (pot girl), AG girl, BS girl, AM girl (bratty girl), and AM girl's boy toy Casey.

We proceed to start drinking. I'm going hard. I take an edible (my first edible!). I start getting fucked up. I'm way louder and more obnoxious than usual. We start walking downtown to the bars. AM girl teases me about how into me BS girl is. She is, but she's got a boy toy! I reward her efforts but still play hard to get.

We get to the first bar (milk), and it's all goths inside. LOL. Our group sticks out like a sore thumb. I get another drink. I'm fucked up, and dancing and shouting and shit. The others aren't as loose cuz it isn't our scene. We peace. I give CS girl a piggy back ride cuz of her heels. She gives me a head scratch while I carry her. We uber to the next spot. We get in line. We get in for free this time cuz CS girl proclaims it's her birthday (it is). We get inside and start dancing. CS girl challenges me to dance approach a girl. I do. I challenge her to dance approach a guy. She does. She points out a girl already with a guy. I go up and get blown out lol. I point a dude with a girl out. She hovers and then backs down. lol. CS girl starts working a dude at the bar, and gets free drinks for her, BS girl, and AG girl. I walk around, dance, and lose them. SG girl finds me, we walk around together not doing a whole lot. We talk a little. I'm majorly fucked up at this point, walking crooked and not thinking clearly.

The others find us and we eventually uber back to the hotel. CS girl is getting touchy and feely cuz of drunkness. She's got a long distance bf, remember. We get to the hotel, everyone's tired. I pull on CS girl's toes for fun. We order a pizza. I pass out, then wake up for pizza. CS girl is still drunk and absolutely hilarious. She is spouting nonsense, and I start crying I'm laughing so hard. She pulls up her shirt and shows me her bra. Lol. We finish the pizza and then pass out, me in a room with 4 girls with AM girl and her boy toy in another room. Throughout the night, as CS girl got drunker and drunker, she kept calling me Norbert, the name of her long distance bf. Lol.

In the morning, the rest leave and it's just CS girl, BS girl, and me. We joke around some more. BS girl again proclaims how fun I am. She jumps on the bed to look at pics from the night. We sit close, with arms and legs incidentally touching. We peace out, drive back to their place (20 min). I pick up some Chinese for CS girl and I, we watch the Truman Show (SICK movie). I take a nap, and before I leave, BS girl invites me up to her room to check out her bike. She stands really close, but I don't make a move cuz she has a boy toy. I know she wants it. She keeps telling me to make sure I email her the pics, and that I'd be a great person to get stoned and watch a movie with. CS girl interrupts us. I give them both a hug and peace out. I head to downtown Denver for the RSD free seminar. SICK.

I walk in, chat with some people already there. Other than two pretty cool dudes that I talked with, the rest are socially awkward or dudes preoccupied with dick-measuring ego contests. Tyler arrives, gives us a MIND-BLOWING diatribe on personal improvement in health, wealth, relationships, and having a higher purpose. Inspired, I write down that I have to push harder in all of these categories, and start thinking of a plan to do so on my hour long ride back to FoCo. SICK weekend.

Exposure to really high level dudes is so fucking important. Just a 2 hour shot of Tyler juiced me up and made me want to go home and improve every thing about myself. I need to eat healthier. I need to be more productive with my time. I need to start working on my product. I need to work more on self-investment. EVERYTHING. 2015 is a gonna be a sick year, guys. 2014 was insane, an insane, insane year for my life and 2015 is gonna be even bigger.

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Monday

It's spring break!!!! Wazzzzzzzup. My plan? Work on my my flagship product for my business and get ahead in schoolwork. I don't fucking stop for spring break. I head to a coffeeshop to start. I'm still juiced from RSD Tyler's seminar, and I'm emanating dominant sub vibes all over the place. The cashier (cute cute cute) asks me about my shirt (50 mile trail race shirt). She mentions she's a runner. I tell her we should go running sometime. She enthusiastically agrees. Somehow I don't pull out my phone and hand it to her, like a fucking idiot. When I leave after doing like 2 hours of work, she's nowhere to be found. Lesson taken. Number close, you idiot. I head to running club at 6. Chat some people up, no one interesting. A weird ultra runner that loves to toot his own horn about how much he runs. Puke. He tries to talk to me for awhile. I self amuse. My eye contact is getting killer tho. I head to Spanish club after. A cute girl there. I make a grand entrance like I always do. Everyone laughs at the shit I say. We talk about Mormonism. We leave for the Rio. On the way out I talk to cute girl about her ex-Mormon mom (something I actually find interesting). She's somehow not smart enough to be attracted to me. Oh well, some girls lose out in the gene pool for smartness. We get to the Rio. Someone jokes about snagging leftover food from the table behind us. Without hesitation I turn around, grab it, and start eating it. Everyone is shocked. I tell them I'm but a poor graduate student. We chat more, and I self amuse more. I'm getting really good at saying something absurd, having everyone laugh, and me just smirk (high status). A really cute girl arrives, but she seems to be with my man FW bro, who heads the Spanish club. The chubby girl to my left is trying to flirt and talk with me the whole time, and I return some attention to her. Fatties deserve some high status love too. That's about it for Monday.

Tuesday

I hit up Alley Cat cafe for more work on my product. I hear the dude next to me using some business terms like upsell and marketing. I chat him up, he's good at internet marketing. I immediately grab his card. I sign up for a bunch more business meet up groups so I can exposure to the entrepreneurship world. I make an offhand comment to the group of 3 girls next to me. They laugh, I ignore them and keep working. HS girl is flirting with me over text. She's buying underwear. I tell her not to send me a picture or anything cuz then I wouldn't be able to stop picturing her in them. She flirts back. We dirty text a little bit. Then she sends me a pic of the underwear. I tell her she's evil, and that now I can't concentrate. I head to thrift stores to see if I can score some good shirts. I get one, it's nice. I go home, take a nap, and then head to running club. There's a ton of people, and it's good to see everyone again. At the top of a hill where everyone is stopped I yell, "I'm ALIVE!!!" Everyone laughs. It's about 5 miles and my legs are trashed. Still getting back into it. I shower and head to salsa dancing. I get there, and greet some people from last night's Spanish club, including FW bro and his cute girl. I joke around with random girls throughout the beginner lesson. One girl has incredibly sweaty hands. Yikes. I eventually dance with a girl who's a masters student in geology. Geology girl is decently cute, and a runner too! Extra points. I let her know I'm going outside to cool off, and that she should come. She does, and we chat. I just ask some basic rapport questions, not a whole lot of qualifying. I remember thinking of qualification, and asking a slightly challenging question. She's from Oregon, and wants to make maps for a living. We go back inside. Dance again. Dance with other people. I dance with some other girls and they are laughing and having a great time. Good social proof. I dance with an older lady, she's laughing her face off too. At the end, Geology girl comes to tell me she's leaving. I ask her if she has spring break plans, she doesn't. I ask her if she has a running partner, she tells me she hates running with people but would be down to grab coffee sometime. I hand her my phone, and then text her. We make plans to grab coffee at Alley Cat's on Thursday at 2. It's gonna be a little edgy, I'm gonna be calling MR girl (the girl I danced with on Friday night, the Thai Kitchen girl) sometime Wednesday night or Thursday when she gets back from camping to set up a date with her. Maybe I'll set up Thursday night with MR girl. I also gamed a couple girls on OKC, might have a date tomorrow, but I didn't run any solid qualification on that girl, so she might flake. We shall see. Killing it out here on spring break! I need to go to salsa dancing more, plenty of cute girls there. After salsa, I meet up with a bro from running club and his uber cute Argentinian gf. We meet another couple, I chat them all up and make them laugh a lot. I order food and sit on other side of gf. Gf starts engaging me. I chat her up, but don't run any more attraction game. Basically pure rapport questions, some deep rapport questions, one challenging question (You know Argentina pretty well right? If I went there, what would be the three places I had to visit?) and some KILLER eye contact. I'm glad to know I feel absolutely no anxiety and can stare down an absolute beauty while talking to her. The convo dies down. She reinitiates. After some more convo, same thing happens again. Satisfied with the practice, I leave her to her shyer bf and peace out.

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Wednesday

Work during the day, and I kind of take the afternoon easy. I watch a movie (Fury), play some piano in the deserted student lounge, and then grab some food. I'm at Thai Kitchen eating when MC bro hits me up. He arrives, and we talk with the waitress a bit about Thailand shit. We decide to hit up Mo Jeaux afterwards. We chat a bit about game, meet some other bros, one dude Truth is hilarious. He's a black dude that's got some jewelry and is unstifled. We make some hilarious snap chats dancing and rapping. I tell MC bro I'm thinking too much about M girl, the girl I danced with Friday. I can feel it, it's too much thought investment. I talk more about it with him, even though I know I shouldn't be. Damn my brain. I shouldn't be this invested, I don't even know her. Most girls I don't even care but something about this girl. Thought I was over this. I call her, since this was the day she got back from camping, no pick up, leave a message. While we're chilling at Mo Jeaux like an hour later, she returns the call. Ecstatic, I grab the phone, run outside, and talk to her excitedly. Like a chump. Lol, Unfazed, this never happens with a girl. Dang. We make plans for a Saturday day hike. I'm on fucking cloud 9. I know why, but I hate it. I'm depending on this girl too much for external validation. I know that the girl isn't even that into me, but if we meet up I can run some solid game.

We jet from Mo Jeaux to barcade. We watch some chumpy bros game the few girls there that exist (spring break and everyone's gone). We play some epic ping pong, which pumps my state. I'm in a great mood and slightly drunk. I go up to an older dude with a Cornell sweatshirt, I tell him I went there. Chat with them. Dale, a lesbian I know, talks to me about doing it with a girl I unsuccessfully gamed last summer. She's talking to me about how hilarious it is that she made that girl cum and I didn't. Cool story bro, give 0 shits.

I hit up Truth and his bro, we do a little dance. I'm being loud and obnoxious. A couple girls play the penis game, we join in. NO ONE can beat me at the penis game. I'm the loudest gangsta in the joint. A middle eastern girl comes over and starts talking to me. We bullshit. She's standing super close. It's flirty as fuck, but I don't even find her all that attractive. She flashes me a ring. Cool story bro, 0 shits.

MC bro and I peace out. We hit pita pit. There's a girl inside working there. I open the door and roar, "I REQUIRE A PITA!" The workers laugh. We joke around with the staff, MC bro gets a pita. Pita girl is into one of us. I tell MC bro he can get the number if he wants, but he's not into her. I built no rapport, all attraction, and don't have another chance to make a connection so I don't go for it either.

We go to the pizza spot next door. Another girl. I run in and self amuse. She's not amused. Lol. We get out pizza and peace out to his place. I borrow his book, Rules of the Game by Neil Strauss. If you don't know who that is please do me a favor and take your head out of your ass. Dat's a wrap.

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Thursday

I hit up Alleycat cafe for some work before A girl (geology girl from salsa dancing Tuesday) arrives for our date. She grabs a coffee, we start chatting. We start laughing and asking each other wide and deep rapport questions. She's actually fun, nerdy, and cool! Due to the fact I put 0 thought investment in her, I'm completely relaxed and in the zone. We grab ice cream, sit on a bench facing just each other, and connect even more. She likes dinosaurs. We talk about movies and books. We reveal embarrassing secrets to each other. We go meet MC bro at city park. The conversation is easy. We get there and chat with MC bro. We talk about the Land Before Time lol. We make A girl figure out some gambit games (If this is a pickle, is this a pickle?). We have a great time. We sit on the swings for awhile, talk about shooting squirrels with water guns. I then take A girl to her job. We unload her bike, and hug goodbye. I invite her to board game night on Saturday night, she gives a maybe. Overall, a great date, I would hang out with her more, and don't feel or act attached at all.

I go to running club, talk with some people, but for some reason I'm bored with the people there and thinking of M girl again so I leave. Here's our text conversation:

Me: Yo, after work tomorrow might be a bit late. How's hiking horsetooth Saturday 11ish sound?
Her: Is a little later okay? I think I have practice Saturday morning
Me: Yeah, how's 1 sound?
Her: Okay! As long as I'm not working haha
Me: Rad! No worries, if you're working we can always reschedule.
Her: Mmmkayyyyyyyy
Me: That's an excessive use of the Y key ya nerd
no response

There's a lot of lag time between her messages. The whole gist of it is, she's attracted and wants to see what happens, but she's not invested. I've landed myself squarely in the chasing role (like an ass) and am now working to reverse that. Basically, I need to make her invest. Hate how the only reason I fucked this up is cuz I actually liked this girl, unlike the last 8 million girls. Gotta remember to always maintain uncertainty, the power position (buyer), and to never be fully sold on a girl. I'm treating this like an interaction I know I fucked up, so I'm okay if it fizzles and whatever, but I'm still going to try and game her and switch the power position back so I have the power. Basically my plan is to have a great date on Saturday (if she doesn't flake), connect, laugh, have fun, qualify a bit, and then from there be more of a challenge, and be more unavailable than she is.

To console myself (this is unhealthy by the way) I call up JS girl and we grab tacos, talk about relationships, watch a movie (30 days of night), and bone on a futon. I need to get my head out of my ass and back on my path, working on my business, my health, and still gaming. Depending too much on external validation for happiness. Crazy how much one girl you think is special you don't even know can fuck you up so hard, even when you're abundant. It's okay. Lesson learned. Keep gaming, gangstas.

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Friday

I hang out with JS girl most of the day, we hike and watch a movie (the secretary) and she makes me food. I go out with MC bro and a TON of dudes. We start at coppersmiths, I get loud and self amuse, talk with all the dudes. Joke around with the waitress. We hit Lucky Joe's. I hit up the sofa, the girl says I'm not allowed to sit there (jokingly). We joke around. I sit down right next to her, legs touching, and we joke around. I start asking her personal questions. I challenge her to ask me some personal questions. We laugh and connect, but she's from Chicago. I get up and start dancing. It's BW bro's birthday, we get him fucked up. He dances with some girls lol. I dance with some girls. We head to rec room. It's dead. There's 3 girls on the dance floor. We hit it, I hand of God a girl but she shakes her head. I mime like I'm crying lol. We hit up Bondi's. Dance with a couple girls, J girl from last Friday (friends with MR girl, the half-Asian that works at Thai Kitchen) sees me, tells me I should call MR girl. I tell her I already have, and we're going hiking the next day. I stay a bit more and then peace out.

Saturday

I wake up, run, and grab food. Call MR girl around 11:40. She texts me around 12:30 "Hi! I just go home from practice, you still wanna go hiking?". I respond, "Yeah! I'm fooding right now, I can pick you up after. Horsetooth? Grey rock?"

Her: "K me too haha how far is grey rock?"
The impeccably handsome Asian: "We can decide in person. Address? I can be there around 1"
Her: "*address*, call me if you get lost though cuz it's a little confusing"
The well-scented man: "Hokay, see you soon"

I'm on cloud 9. I'm riding high. It feels like I got a morphine injection straight into my medulla. I slap myself, "DAMNIT UNFAZED concentrate, it's time to run tight game!"

I race home, clean out my car, get stuff for hiking, and pick her up. She's wearing a cute tank top and booty shorts. She's got makeup on. All good signs that she's trying to impress. The vibe is good, and me being in such a good mood puts her at ease. We hold a committee and decide on Horsetooth, and I drive us there. We start jiving. I'm asking her some rapport questions, and there's attraction material thrown in. We're both laughing, but less so than with most girls because I can sense she's still nervous. She's a shyer girl that really opens up and gets goofy once she's comfortable with someone, and I take her nervousness to mean that she's attracted to me and is worried what I think.

I ask her a fucking bombtastic rapport question that I'll share with you poopheads for free: "What was your college application essay about?" She tells me Relay for Life, and drops an emotional bomb on me: Her mom had cancer twice. I tell her about my mom having breast cancer. We don't connect super hard on it because she's still nervous and hesitant to delve deeply into emotions.

We get there, and it's still rapport questions back and forth with some attraction game thrown in. She's laughing and having a good time. We start hiking with the same verbals running. I find out how close she is with her sisters. This girl lights up and radiates beauty and youth when she talks about her sisters, so I make sure to ask her about them a lot. She's obviously very close to them. She's a serious track runner (on the team here at CSU) and used to dance too. Damn, why does she have to be both of those? That's simply not fair. That makes it so much harder to resist.

We talk about karaoke, both of our musical theater experiences, and traveling. Asian culture. Her family, my family. Her dreams, my dreams. Eventually we make it to the top. We chat with two dudes, have a good connection, and when we meet other people it feels like we're together, which is good.

We sit close and chat a bit, I tell her about Long's Peak and my holy crap experience on that mountain (It's a super dangerous mountain that tons of people die on).

At the top, we munch on gummy bears, take some photos, chat with the two dudes from earlier, and take some pictures. One of the dudes takes a couple of us. In one of them we each have an arm around each other, and it feels couple-y. Good. It feels like she's comfortable with the touch. We take two sets of jump photos, and we both laugh and have a lot of fun taking them.

We sit a bit longer, and I pull out some "would you rather" and "would you ever" questions. They lead to good, attraction building conversation. We decide that we could live on this mountain if there was a zip line to the bottom. I tell her about my sky diving and hang gliding experiences. We start heading down the mountain. I start purposely leaving silences in the conversation so that she can start investing more. She does, sometimes asking me questions and sometimes telling me stories about how her and her friends filmed a workout video on a mountain once lifting boulders. I always reward her investments with laughter, validating her story, or sharing a story of my own. There's a single grave halfway up for "John" who died on the mountain. We both give eulogies on the way up. On the way down, I greet the rock pile by his name LOUDLY. People turn and stare. MR girl giggles at my boldness. I drop a line, "You're different from other people that I meet somehow." She asks how. I tell her I'm not sure, there's just something. She says when I know to let her know. We rest at a bench and I tell her to read the informational sign for me. She complies. The sound of her voice radiates youth and beauty. I tell her to strike a bear pose. She complies, and I take a pic. We chat more on the way down, and on the car ride back there's less talking and more music listening. She initiates conversation again, I reward. I time bridge to yogurt.

We hit up TCBY. The energy has died down a little bit. She sits down across, not next to me. Not optimal. We Facebook each other. Her friend J girl calls. They have a good, playful vibe, she's more comfortable with her. Good, now I know I just need to build more comfort and basically just have more good, fun playful times with this girl to get her to open up to deeper rapport questions. This is confirmed when I ask her to reveal something embarrassing about herself that she would only tell a best friend, and she doesn't comply. I stay emotionally unaffected and just start another thread.

We start looking at her Facebook photos together, and she is starting to laugh and tell me about each one. She especially lights up when it's a photo of her and her sisters being goofy. I make some piercing eye contact, but she's shyer and doesn't return it as well. Just needs more comfort basically. She mentions some comment about her being thicker than her skinny XC friends (she has a fantastic body, but all girls are insecure). I tell her nuh-uh, don't do that. She laughs and says ok.

On the way to drop her off, I ask her about her schedule. Wednesday night I suggest grabbing some bowling. She laughs at the phrase and teases me. I just stay confident and repeat it. She agrees. I drop her off and we awkward car side hug lol. End of date.

Pros
Actually going on the date made me less obsessed with this girl because I could see she was just another shy girl. Nonetheless, I like her unlike most girls and will still keep getting her to invest. I don't think she has been chasing hard yet, and I need to get that to happen for her to become obsessed with me. I need to introduce a little uncertainty. Luckily, we are now Facebook friends, and I know her and her friends will stalk me, and there's literally billions of photos of me with beautiful girls on there.

Things to improve
Only a little bit of incidental touching in terms of physical escalation. I could've verbally escalated during our photo looking session at yogurt place by saying, "Stop laughing like that. It's really distracting / it's gonna make me start liking you" I don't think I can hardcore qualify this girl yet, she still needs more comfort.

There ya go ya crazy forum dwellers. A really in depth date. I wrote this one more in depth because I actually like this girl. Any comments / criticisms / questions welcome, especially from high level guys. Feel free to take material. PEACE

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Saturday night

AG girl had invited me to a board game night at a friend's house. I hit up the party, assume my normal loud, fun self, and greet everyone. There's a ton of girls (8 or so), a couple guys, but no girls that really stir my loins. I gather some delicious noms and sit down next to AG girl. In true gay friend style (she has a bf but we are close), I tell AG girl I HAVE to tell her about something. Her excitement is through the roof. I start telling her about MR girl and the hiking date. SG (pot girl) girl tells me I am "SO loud". Lol. Get used to it, I'm a gangsta.

I get halfway through my story before we sit down to play personally incorrect. Another girl starts talking to me, saying she knows me from some jiu jitsu friends. Ok cool. Her signals tell me she just wants to buy me a nice romantic dinner and then jump my boner. I ignore her.

We play the game, it's pretty boring compared to actually talking to people. The game ends after an eternity and then AG girl tells me to tell her the rest of the story. I oblige, in excruciating detail, and the leftovers at the party listen in. They start chiming in with their own takes on game with some awful, awful advice. Do they even know who they're talking to? AG girl and I have a good rest of the conversation. She asks how this affects me and HS girl. I tell her I don't know... I peace out, go home and go to sleep. Here's where it gets weird...

Sunday

At 2 am, I get woken up by my phone vibrating. It's a call from MR girl. Wtf? I pick up, but no one's on the line. I hear a guy and girl talking, but I can't make out the actual words. I keep asking if there's anyone there, no response. I know that MR girl had some sort of friend's birthday event that night, and probably went out. I hang up after about a minute of no response.

I go back to sleep, then wake up and go hiking with 4 other dudes and a girl that MC bro brought. A cute girl, and she was cool too. We hike, goof off, and then come back. I like MC bro and talking with the girl was fun, but most dude convos bore me. I should figure out how to self amuse better in situations where I interact with boring people. I just get bored and stop interacting.

I get back and go to a grill out JS girl invited me to. I talk with HS girl on the phone a bit, she's excited that I'm flying to see her in 2 weeks. JS girl and her roommates feed me. I head to Alleycat's Cafe to do a bit of work after an internal debate. Jason Capital's maxim... "wealth seeks movement" wins out, and I go there. I have a text interaction with MR girl:

Me: Yo did you buttdial me last night? I got a weird call from you at like 2 am
Her 40 min later: Oops haha I think I was trying to call jo, sorry!
Me 10 min later: No worries, have fun serving sushi!
Her 3 hours later: Thanks!!

I get to Alleycat's and sit down next to a cute girl I taught in a lab last semester (BSM girl). Yes, those are actually her initials. We chat a bit, she's laughing at everything I say, as I pour on some good attraction game. I tease her a bit. She start developing comfort. We talk about her studies, my studies, her family, my family, her sorority, my sister's sorority, then we Facebook each other, we talk a bit about relationships, she tells me about her photos, etc. etc. Attraction game peppered in, like always. She adds me on Snapchat, shows me how to use the app. She does a good job challenging me, saying she's expecting some good stories. Great lesson for me. I return the challenge, saying she better have good ones too. Gotta remember to challenge more from now on. Fun and challenging, the Jason Capital credo.

She eventually peaces out. I try to make sense of the MR girl situation.

Her friends and sister have all liked and commented on the pictures of us two on that hike on Facebook. It's very likely that her close friends and sisters have all asked her about me, and she will have invested a lot of thought and talk into me. Hopefully her and her friends have stalked me on Facebook, realized how pre-selected I am, and that will have increased attraction, increased uncertainty, and made her invest more thought into me.

I'm not sure what to make of that phone call. She has an iPhone, and who buttdials on an iPhone, especially this coincidentally early in the interaction? Most likely not a mistake. Especially with her response, it doesn't sound like a buttdial. It sounds like she intended to call me, and then somehow chickened out on what she wanted to say, or just wanted to hear me talk, or just wanted to see if I would pick up. All three of these scenarios is a win for me, but I'm not sure how certain this conclusion is. If it's like this, I can be a bit more aggressive and try to invite her to something before our scheduled meet up Wednesday. If I leave it till Wednesday, she will probably have invested more thought and be more attracted.

What's your take on this? Should I invite her to lunch or an evening hangout Monday or Tuesday? Examples include:

"Hey MR, I'm gonna grab lunch, let me know if you're interested in joining!"
"Hey MR, I'm planning on doing some work at Wild Boar Cafe tonight, let me know if you're interested in joining!"

I'm not sure if either of these will even help. Conversation is still not this girl's strong suit. I think I should probably wait till Wednesday, take her bowling, have a fantastic time, do a lot of attraction game, and have a lot of fun, and then bring her to karaoke, where we have more fun, start dancing again, and start getting more physically comfortable with each other. That's what I'll probably do, but I'd appreciate any input. UNFAZED OUT

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I'm still trying to figure out my qualification and rapport game. With A girl from salsa, the date went really well in my opinion, but when I invited her to study tonight at Alleycat's, she said she thanks for the invite but she was gonna study at home. Don't think that means anything, but I need to figure out how to do qualification better and still have it be congruent. I'm gonna reread Adam Lyon's stuff and rewatch some stuff to see if I can get it right.

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Ugh, even after more than a year of game and self proclamations of bad-assery, I still make mistakes. MR girl is lost. There's no hope. A dagger sank into my heart and chopped up all my insides. I know exactly what happened. I invited her out Wednesday night and she flaked.

I put a girl above me. That's the basic truth of it. It's fucked up. I put in too much thought investment, cemented myself squarely in the chasing position, and I have no value to her. LESSON LEARNED. On top of that, in my emotional distress I called HS girl and told her the whole thing, and now she's upset with me as well.

Our most determined times come from our hardest falls.

I got a new bracelet to remind me that game is always on. You always have to play tight, and you can never assume that lazy game will get you the girl. With more motivation, I am now practicing being the prize and being challenging with every girl I interact with. I'm going back to social circle game, as well. Tonight, there's a 12 person organized dinner I'm hosting instead of that date.

Time to rise back stronger. My main sticking points: qualification and escalation. I am still practicing using verbals to actively get a girl to invest, and have yet to verbally escalate on a girl (only physically). Let's get to work.

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Fitting that that was my 100th post. What an incredible year it's been. I've met more people than ever before. I've slept with more girls than ever before. I've learned more than ever before. Only one thing to do, and that's to KAIZEN

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Fuck it, man. Merely one chick out of more than three billion. How do you think you would have fared had you tried to escalate things earlier?

You know, you're probably right. I had escalated (on the dance floor, and we kissed but didn't make out) but could've pushed more, but I was looking for more investment from her. I don't like plowing through resistance, and I would much rather the girl invest and invest and invest and then all the escalation is super easy. She's a shyer girl, so it was a bit tricky. I'm already pretty much over her, and will probably send her a group hang out invitation sometime next week, but have already been concentrating on myself and pumping my own state and hanging with other girls. Thanks for the input, though.

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The constant Kaizen-ing of health, wealth, and relationships continues. Ran 8 miles yesterday, the most I have since my half marathon in October. OKC date tonight, along with a board game party at AG girl's house. Study sesh with 3 girls in an hour or so.

I've been practicing playful pushing / fun and challenging as Jason Capital calls it. Just getting my mouth and brain used to it, and the girls I've tried it on respond well (obviously). It just involves playfully voicing disinterest, disapproval, or teasing. I think the qualification part of the whole process just involves the same type of farm (I'm not sold yet). One thing I haven't been doing is rewarding investment well enough. Example:

Me: Question
Her: Answer
Me: Approval or disapproval

Just this general structure automatically assumes the qualifying frame. Another thing I want to practice is just requesting something from the girl (compliance requests): hold this while I go pee, do you give good back scratches? Ok let's see it, you only get five minutes though, and don't try to cop a feel or anything.

Challenging girls, making them qualify. That's the stuff I'm thinking about now. As for the attraction part of the game, as long as I put myself in a good mood they'll be attracted. I do this by constantly figuring out how to put myself in a "Play" state of mind. I literally wrote in my phone "PLAY!!!!" to remind myself to be playful throughout the day, and this pumps my state.

I was doing this when I approach the bagel line, and I greet the bagel maker playfully. The girl cashier when I check out is all smiley and asking me about my weekend and shit. Easy.

I've also identified another area of weakness: eye contact. My walks around campus all involve me staring oncoming girls down and making them break eye contact first. I do it with a neutral face, unless they do something to warrant a smirk from me. More updates to come.

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Friday afternoon

I arrive at the lab and the three girls arrive to study. They include AB girl, a cutie from Connecticut, KF girl, a skinny, beautiful and goofy runner, and AT girl, an OCD girl with an irrational fear of dead birds. I run a couple errands on my laptop while I answer their questions about the upcoming test. A fortunate consequence is that they have to work hard to get my attention. The mood is light and playful, and after awhile I start self amusing harder and harder.

After 2.5 hrs, we all leave the lab. KF girl has a bf, although she was initiating a lot of touch for a student of a TA. Sigh. Why do girls have to initiate so much touch? It makes it so much harder to resist. She promises to buy me a shot if she sees me out that night (she just turned 21). Why do they have to be so youthful and have that great feminine energy about them? Seriously, if they could just all be fat, ugly, and depressed that would be great so I could focus on my job.

I knew MR girl is working at Thai Kitchen that night, because her coworkers were telling me all week so I could go talk to her. I avoid it though, I need to make her wonder a bit.

I go home, shower, slip into jeans, a black collared shirt, boots, and I slip a hair tie around my left wrist. I'm meeting some drummer girl from OKC at Trailhead. I'm already in a great mood from consciously putting myself in a PLAYING frame the whole day, which pumps my state.

I strut in, go past the girl I think it is, turn around and give her a quizzical look, she smiles, I smile, and we handshake. I immediately tell her I'm getting some water, and I leave and come back. Physically, she's a lot more attractive than I was expecting. Dammit, why do they all have to be so physically attractive?! I just wanted to come out and have some fun. Let's see what this girl's got.

We start engaging. I make piercing eye contact. I break rapport. I pepper in teases and challenges throughout our small talk. She suggests grabbing beers. I accuse her of trying to get me drunk so she can take advantage of me. We grab beers. This girl loves to talk. Whenever I tell a kick ass story, her eyes start drifting. My stories get shorter and shorter. She starts telling longer and longer stories, and she starts getting animated and higher energy. Ok, cool, you can tell all the stories and win my approval. I consciously drift my eyes during her stories, and I make sure she catches it a couple times. She starts selling her stories harder.

I challenge her to ask me a personal question. She's taken aback, and thinks hard for awhile. She eventually comes up with, "What's your favorite position?" Girl! Get your head out of the gutter! I bust on her for it, and then answer. I ask her the same question she answers. I tell her we should stop there and save that conversation for a future date where there's more alcohol. I accuse her again of trying to get in my pants.

She's a drummer in a band. She's a veterinarian student. She was a wild child in high school. I ask her the coolest, craziest thing she's ever done. Check that, I didn't ask her. I CHALLENGED her to show me that she's cool and adventurous. She tells me about her study abroad experience in France. Oh, awesome, that IS pretty cool. I start throwing mini qualifications in. After a story, I tell her, sick, I like that story.

She tries to throw my frame by saying that I messaged her on OKC because she was intelligent, hot, and funny. I tell her I messaged her first? ( I did) I completely don't remember that! Are you sure you didn't message me first? *smirk* Shit test obliterated without even trying. I tell her if she thinks she's so book smart, tell me the best book you've read in the past 2 years, and it can't be Clifford the Big Red Dog or the Hungry Hungry Caterpillar lol. She mentions some shitty book and describes it. I tell her oh, that actually does sound pretty cool, it sounds like something you could learn something from, I like that. She asks me a good personal question, good, now she's gaming me. I reward her with an answer.

She tells me more stories about her "Shag Wagon" in high school and how she got sent home in a cop car once. Sounds vaguely like RSD Jeffy's van. I tell her I drive a minivan (I do) that I call the pimp mobile, but don't get any ideas, I don't have sex on the first date. She has definitely by this point passively accepted the chasing position. My whole frame is that she's trying to win me over, and possibly succeeding. Maybe. I'm not sure yet.

We get into an argument about whether Colfax is a suburb of Denver. Apparently we somehow bet the next round on it. I look it up, apparently I lost, but I play it off like I win. We have an amusing argument over it. It's time for AG girl's party, and I have to leave. I qualify her. I say, "You seem like a pretty social person, are you?" She qualifies. "What do you think about board games?" She answers. Ok, if you think you can hang, I will ALLOW you to join me at the party. The look on her face is speechless. A hot girl like this has probably never been challenged like this. She backs down, saying she has to wake up at 5 am.

We walk outside to her bike. We stand close and discuss our next move. The tension is high. I can tell she wants the kiss. I time bridge and ask her what else she does in FoCo. She mentions hiking and frisbee golf. We could meet for frisbee golf, if you want to get your ass kicked, she says. Ok, ok, challenge accepted. Her challenging me, tight game girl! We hug and she gives me a tight one. I walk back to my car. She passes by on her bike, and whistles at me (a catcall) lol. Date over. Whole thing lasted about an hour, and I'm riding on a high that comes from playing some tight game.

I head to AG girl's house. I come in and there's a bunch of people. I always make an entrance. I open the door, shout YO whattup? I really have to go to the bathroom (I did). Everyone laughs. I chat some people up. NS girl chats me up. We play this interesting telephone game. I'm on the couch and JS girl arrives. She's looking hot. She sits on the couch right up next to me. and we get a wee bit touchy touchy while we all play the game. After the game, I leave and head downtown.

Sitting down on the couch and playing board games has brought my state down a little bit, so I remind myself in the car ride there to still PLAY, and just to play.

I meet up with CY girl and R girl (both Spanish girls) at blind pig. We get drinks and I accidentally pay for all of us. Now both girls owe me a drink. We start dancing, and I start getting reasonably drunk on top of my already great mood. We start dancing, and I start dancing close with CY girl (dammit why does she have to be good looking and have an accent, that's totally not fair). I spot NG girl (Colombian girl) and HR (Road Rage girl my ex) lol. I give them eye contact but I don't go say high. We meet another group of three that I knew from a meetup event. Two decently cool bros and a cute Asian girl. We all start dancing. More drinks start getting shoved into my hand. I start getting drunk as fuck. One of the decently cool bros (ML bro) number closes me. A random bro approaches me, compliments me on my dancing, and introduces me to his whole group. Awesome.

A random big girl comes and dances with me, I let her. Lol. She wants to get real down and dirty, and I'm amused. She gives up after awhile. I dance more with CY girl and the rest of the crowd, pressure on (dancing close and physical) pressure off (dance at friend distance and for fun). I make faces at some girls sitting down. T-bone and some bros arrive, it's his last night in town (he's moving to Santa Barbara). CY girl and I are having a great time leaning really close to talk (I can feel her hair on my facE), touching each other, and dancing naughty until a parent of a kid that she teaches shows up (she teaches elementary school). Now she feels embarrassed, and is hesitant to dance dirtier. Eh, wutevs. I'm getting great social feedback from everyone on the dance floor, and a cute-ish girl is giving me mad props.

CY girl and R girl decide to go. I follow them outside, talk for a bit, then hug them goodbye. I go back in, sit down next to T-bone and bros. I immediately engage the blonde to my left. It's a 3 set with the cute-ish girl. I demand that she introduce me. She does. I flirt with the blonde, and then take it away by turning around and talking to T-bone. We get up to leave, and cute-ish girl gushes about how awesome I was on the dance floor and how I was the life of the party. I don't number close cuz I truly don't give a shit.

We go to Bondi's, it's a sausage fest. I dance a little and leave. Meet Z bro at Lucky Joe's. He buys me a slice of pizza at a hot truck. There's a fat girl serving. She mentions she calls everyone "love" or "hun". I tell her she shouldn't call me those things cuz then I would start liking her, and that would be bad. She immediately responds well. I tell her I'm in a vulnerable state, and please don't play with my emotions like that. She laughs some more. I get my pizza and nom nom it. I kneel down and talk to a drunk girl. I can see Z bro and CJ bro cheering me on in the background. This girl's drunk as fuck though, and not in a game-able state. I leave. Z bro and his gang peace out.

It's just me now. I feeling drunk and fearless so I sit down with my pizza next to a 5 set. The girl right next to me engages me. I entertain them all and have a fun conversation, but no real investment building. They catch an Uber out, and they ask me my name before they go, so we exchange names. Boom, I walk back to my car and call it a night. A good night for game!

Pros:
Practiced the "she's trying to win me over" frame a lot, which is good.
Practiced the self-disqualification frame ("Don't hit on me like that, it's gonna make me like you and then it would get messy") a lot, also good.
Practiced challenging and making her qualify with the date before the party. Ran some really tight game on that one.
Had oodles of fun
State control great ever since I just remember to PLAY

Things to improve:
Don't really care, since I had so much fun, but isolation into escalation? Never really isolated any girl except for the date one, but most dates are in isolation.

Peace playas, keep improving!

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Saturday

I hang out with JS girl during the day and went out at night. Gamed a couple girls, did a little practice, nothing of note.

Sunday

AB girl texts me and wants to study with me in the library. We meet up in the library. We joke around awhile studying. It starts getting warmer and warmer. ES girl joins. AT girl joins. They ask me questions about the upcoming test. Eventually some leave and it's just AB girl. Her roommates comes. They bring me to the dining hall and give me free dinner. AB girl shows me some of the residential area after. I know I'm in with this girl, the next step is showing interest and escalating. Probably will play up the TA / student drama (I want to kiss you right now but we can't....).

Monday

AB girl texts to "study" yet again. We do, in the afternoon, in the lab. RW girl texts to study as well. Her cute friend MM girl comes, and is showing signs of interest. She gives me her email so she can sew up a jacket that I have. Her other friend MW girl is also there. They eventually leave and it's just AB girl, but I don't really game her because I actually had to work on a lab report, and she leaves right before lab meeting. After lab meeting, I text CG girl (the drummer girl from Friday night) to hang out: "Yo purple pants, I have some free time tonight, hit me up if you want to play music or grab ice cream" She arrives within 40 min of the text lol. That's what happens when tight game is played on the first date, instead of SHITTY fucking game like with MR girl. We eat, and play frisbee. The conversation is slightly awkward because she is mostly just interested in hearing herself talk. Whatever. On the walk back to her car I put my arm around her. We stop on the walk and she faces me. I ask her how good she is at kissing. We smooch, I tell her she's not bad. We get back to the car, smooch some more. I push her up against her car. We get in, she drops me off at my car. We smooch again. I go home and pass the fuck out. I wake up Tuesday morning to a text from AB girl: "Yoooo you're not in the library right now are you?" at 11:20 pm.

Been working on my verbals a bit. Listening to Eminem lol. Watching RSD instructors- they got mad attraction game. I'm fixing a problem where when I work on comfort game, I do too much comfort game. If I'm working on attraction game, I do too much attraction. It always needs to be a swirling mix of attraction, rapport, and escalation, and too much of one or the other will spoil it.

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