| So I am a rapper and a swimmer and smoke herb. More specifically I am into underground hip-hop, don't like mainstream rap, and am a butterflier and a breaststroker.
I met this girl last year. She was working as a bartender and still works there. She is all the same things I am. She is a rapper who smokes herb and is a swimmer who does butterfly and breaststroke. Also, she is the most beautiful girl I have ever seen, HB-12, and I want her to have my babies.
When I met her and was spitting game, she mentioned she had a bf, but rolled her eyes when she said it so I could tell she didn't respect him. So I pounced. I got her to go to the back with me while the manager watched the bar for her and made out with her and fingered her and she came really fast. She gave me her number but said she couldn't hang out because she gets picked up from work by her bf, people at her work know her bf, and she lives with her bf, so she doesn't want to lose her ride to work or her place to live. She had only been with him for 8 months too and met him at her work like I did. He has kids. Me and her don't have kids. She helps him take care of his kids. He doesn't swim with her and she says he can't rap. She obviously doesn't respect him, but she does love his daughter.
After I fingered her, I wrote a rap song about her and she loved it. People say it's one of my best songs. It could have ruined everything, but the song is so pimp and the lyrics are basically me spitting game. She sent me like 6 texts in a row telling me how much she loved it and was playing it over and over.
Since I couldn't really call her or hang out with her I went back to the bar a week later. This time she said "It's your turn" and gave me a hand job in the back while her manager watched the bar.
But after that I never could get her to hang out, but she told me her plan was to get a car and we can hang out when she gets a car. So I gave up on her. But not really. I'm 35 and never met a girl I want to marry. Till now. She is the one. I got oneitis and don't care. I want to impregnate this bitch. Anyway, I gave up on her for about 6-8 months. I just went back to the bar, and when she saw me she practically jumped over the bar to hug me. I said she should come over and make a song with me, and she seemed really excited about it and pulled out her phone and put it in her calendar. But then when the day came she never hit me up. So I went back to the bar and when she saw me she said she had to work that day even though it was supposed to be her day off and lets do it next week. Next week she flakes again, doesn't answer my call. I see her again at the bar and she says she was with her bf all day and couldn't answer the phone. Then later when I was trying to finger her again she gave me a shit test saying "How would you like it if I let other guys do that to me?", and I also negged her at the bar and told her it doesn't look like she has been swimming. Then later she told me she talks to another girl I dated and thinks I'm a player, hence the shit tests.
So I sent her a text telling her she is the girl of my dreams and I'm not going to see the other girl anymore. No answer. I thought I ruined it.
But 2 days later she texts me "Hey meanie, I'm going swimming right now cause you made a fat joke". She has a perfect body too. Then she texts me after she swam and said it feels great to swim and I should join her sometime. I basically say 'ok', then she texts back and says lets do it tomorrow evening.
The she texts me the next evening and says she can't do it because she has to cover for Amy, the other bartender.
So then I text her the next morning(Sat) and basically say "Are you swimming at all this weekend?" She texts back how she is working late tonight so she is going to sleep in and she will text me at 1 or 2 tomorrow.
Flake again. No text. I didn't text or call her because I don't want to seem needy. I stop by the bar again and she sees me and seems excited and says she didn't swim on Sunday or Monday, but she is swimming today. She asked if I already swam and I said "I already swam so unfortunately I won't be swimming with you tonight." She seemed disappointed.
Now it's the next day and I texted her at 2pm "You swimming today?". Now it's 7pm. Still no answer. I;m tired of the games.
I've asked a couple girls for advice(one is a female dating coach) and they say I need to talk to her again and find out what she wants or give her an ultimatum.
At this point I think it's beyond gaming and from my experience ultimatums don't work, but in this case I'm considering it. So what I'm hoping you guys will help with, is just tell me which of these options seem best to get her.
First of all I know there is this:
option A) forget this girl and move on
option B) go for the girl
Assuming I don't care what your opinion is on that first part and choose option B on my own,
what is the best option to get the girl?
A) Go with the flow, keep flirting, send a text every once in a while until she is either swimming with me or makes it clear that she never will.
B) Give her an ultimatum. Maybe tell her that she needs to choose. She needs to break up with him or lose me. (Though I'd hate to do that knowing that she will eventually break up with him anyway if I give it time, and I still will probably be available for her unless it takes more than a year). This I'm assuming would also involve telling her that she can live with me when her bf kicks her out on the street. Her family is in another state so no staying with family. Or I would need to wait until she finds a room for rent and then dumps him. Shit's complicated. Sigh.
C) Basically a combination of A and B. Play it cool until I finally get her out and fuck her, then giver her an ultimatum. After fucking her I'd have no problem saying yeah you can stay with me. Leave that guy. I'm your new bf. This is actually the plan I've been working on now I guess.
D) Send her flowers. haha j/k.
E) Don't give her an ultimatum, but put pressure on her to dump her bf, through text message I guess since she can't answer the phone when she is with him or when she is at work.
F) Some other option I haven't thought of.
If you're a straight player who can't relate to this situation at all and think I'm a chode, please don't comment. I was like you and if it doesn't work out with this chick I will be like you again. But I want little swimming, rapping, beautiful babies with the woman of my dreams and need to make it happen. I need to rip this chick away from her boyfriend. Complete the process. I know it can be done. I'm so close. But don't know the best way to proceed at this point. I'm ready to have a serious talk with her or give her an ultimatum and move on if necessary, but don't know if that's wise, especially after all the effort I put into getting her. I definitely don't want to blow it right before I get to the finish line.
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