First things first bro.

A woman can only leave you if she THINKS you will be devastated if she does. Her power is only in your fear of what she might do.

So at this current moment you are being a completely loser man. Spending 4 hours giving her attention, entertaining her and providing her with company while she does what?! Talk to someone else. You must be out of your smoked out mind.

You can turn this around, you definitely can, but not on this path.

You would have to flip the script on the girl. Start going out, start hanging out with friends. Go shopping, get some new shit. She's leaving the guy you have BECOME, which means she still loves the guy you WERE. And the guy you WERE wasn't being that guy for her, you were being that guy before you had even met her. So at this point; anything you do for HER will be looked at as the guy you have BECOME.

If you want to flip this around you have to get into the mindset in which you become doing things for yourself again. She'll take notice. Women are creatures of the moment and she is still in love with that guy. You are just no longer that guy. That guy, can still have her. He can always have her. The question is.. Are you mentally in position to be that guy.

If not you'll have to settle for option number two and just embrace that you're mentally not place to keep her. Which is fine, we all go through.

I would suggest you discontinue smoking if you can. I've found that weed intensifies my condition. So if I'm doing great, i will feel greater, but if I'm depressed I will become more depressed.

I'd slow down on that until you get your shit figured out.

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OP, the best you can do for YOURSELF is to start getting some semblance of a life that exists beyond this person.

In short, DO YOU. You've lost your grounding, and a great way to get it back is to re-invest yourself in YOU - to 'fall in love' with yourself all over again (or perhaps for the first time ever). How do you do this? As some of the previous posters alluded to, go out, get re-aquainted with an old hobby you've put off, and perhaps explore some new ones, get in shape, stop smoking, read a book, go for more walks, volunteer...ANYTHING that helps you feel more centered and isn't 1) contingent on other people, and 2) IS NOT being done out of an energy to win anyone back - the energy, rather, should be aimed toward feeling like a whole healthy person - that is, you're doing these things FOR YOU, and nobody else.

I disagree. The player type is attractive only for younger women. After a certain age and a certain maturity level women don't get attracted to this type of man.
We have a word called "manwhore". When you have the vibe of the "manwhore" you are untrustworthy hence less desirable for any woman that wants to settle down.
Young women want to enjoy sex and like freedom and challenge. The older the more they appreciate stability.
Well your gf is only 24. Give it a couple of more years, when her female friends get married to guys and have babies.. and when she wants babies too.. and you'll see a change in her attitude.What are you going to do then? Isolate her from everyone?
Unless she is one of those crazies who doesn't believe in monogamy ( and might get pregnant from someone else one day and bring it to you to raise it lol ) then expect a change. This doesn't sound as a very healthy relationship. Would you accept your gf telling you "if u don't fuck me someone else will?". You two supposed to be able to communicate and sort things out and if it doesnt work out to break up. Threatening each other is not love.
I believe in no drama and no disrespect but I don't think you are expressing it in the right way.

+1 minus the player part in general older women love it too but in this circumstance what you said applies