I have know this girl for a while, she worked for one of my accounts, we always had a good rapport, fun flirty conversations, we lost contact for a while, I found out she was let go by her company, we hired her at our company.(I could not care less about dating co-workers.)

Around the holidays I asked her out she said yes, sure! Maybe I was a little to strong, I told her I always thought she was cute etc. etc. Next week, It seems like she got cold feet and said she was worried about dating someone at work. (She is being sued by her old boss, so I understand.) She seems to give all the signs of attraction, her current boyfriend she calls her “ex”. She isn’t really happy, with her “ex” she says its off and on etc.

We talk a lot funny flirty conversations at work, eat lunch together etc.

I really need to move this to the next level, I have a lot of friends in the office, one of the girls is a good friend of mine, I know she talks me up at every chance she gets. I recently started dating another girl, Valentines day she sent me flowers, the girl I am pursuing was very interested in the new girl I am seeing, so this looks good for me! She knows I’m not waiting around for her.

How can I escalate things to the next level, some co-workers are planning group dates etc. we will all go out for drinks etc? She is somewhat shy, she might be more comfortable, with a group date? Some of you guys don’t recommend this. I think I need to get her out of the office, in social setting etc.

I have found that some girls need to be asked out a few times before they give in, I haven’t brought up the topic since Xmas, she maybe its time for another go at it?

Any advice?

Thx

P

> I have found that some girls need to be asked out a few times before they give in

Well I don't agree with that. You'll come across as being needy more than anything else.

This other girl you're gaming is actually a good thing; in regards to the WORK girl you're chasing. Like you said, she knows you're not going to hang around. (DHV)

I think the group date thing might be a good idea - if she is of a nervous disposition. It's like a false time constraint, she won't feel so worried. But it still allows you to flip those attraction switches. If you go on a date make sure you isolate her at some point and Kinoescalate.

There is an art to asking girls on dates. The trick is to get the girl to sell it to you. Make out like it will be such an amazing evening it would be a shame if she wasn't part of that. Then at the very end when you are about to turn and leave, throw in (rather nonchalantly), "So do you wanna come with?"

That's how I might do the 'group date' thing.

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