Dear pua-community,

first of all excuse me for my englisch, I'm actually german but I don't like the german forums.
A few weeks ago I tried online-dating, just for fun. I(18) got 3 numbers and than I deleted my account.
There is one HB9 (on pictures)(17) that I like more than the others.
On the dating platform I approached her with a simple "hi how are you?" She texted back 1 or 2 days later.
1 Week later I was about to delete my account so I gave her a massage: "Oops, give me youre number this wouldnt happen on SPAM " She instantly gave me her number and we exchanged 3-4 massages each.
Than i sended her a voive massage, she replied with a text, I replied with a voice massage, and she again wit a text. At this point I stopped doing voice massages because she didnt invested enough. This is also the reason why i canceled the text-conversation after 2 more massages. A few days later I texted her again, after her reply i started doing voice massages again (I know youll say that its better to call her but girls in this age usually only text with guys so i feel like they get uncomfortable if i directly call [also the last conversation wasnt the best] so I decided to build up comfort with voice massages first [Its special enough because most of the guys in my age doesnt do that, they only write texts]. This time she also started recording voice massages and we "talked a little bit". She always answered instantly so I did the same to keep the conversation flowing. After a while I stopped answering for 3 hours (I had other things to do).

Then I thought whether its better to not answer and call her a few days later or try to get a phone call now.
I did a mistake: I recorded a textmassage saying: If youre still home (she had plans, too) I have 15 minutes time to talk on the phone than I have to go". She didnt replied to that one, maybe she was mad because i didnt answered before (she can see that I red the text) and decided to "take revange".

Well that was 1 week ago and now I'm not sure how to start a new conversation, but I think in this case its better to text or record a voice massage (or do you think I should call? the problem is if she doesnt pick up I have to leave the ball in her corner and there are 100 of guys that text her every day so she wont contact me. Im sure she will reply to a text/voice massage)

I thought about 2 options:

1: something like: "oooh you dont have to be shy its fun to talk to me" or "oh i see you dont like phone calls"
2: the classic method: act like nothing happened open a new theme and try to set up a date.

I appreciate if you give me some examples how I can approach her again.

Thanks.

Elcnit

This is one of those instances where you're just being weird, dude. And you need some tough love --

You're not reading social queues correctly (even though this is on text/voice) and you need to be told what's up, cause you're not getting it.

Normal people do not behave like you're behaving... They don't send voice messages instead of texts (Call her for Christ's sake)... They can tell when someone doesn't want to talk to them and doesn't want to date them.

And so when you ask why she hasn't replied and you start wondering what's wrong - you need to take into account that sending voice messages is just plain weird. Nobody does that... And when she replies by text to those voice messages, and you think "I'm going to punish her for not replying with a voice message" - that's weird as well...

Further - Let's think about this... What do you legitimately think is the reason why she's not replying to you? I mean seriously? Because it's pretty obvious.

She's not replying to you because she doesn't want anything to do with you, and you're not "getting it". Sending another creepy voice message isn't going to fix that... no matter what the contents of it are.

Sending a random text isn't either... and neither is calling her.

Move on... And stop with the voice messages. They're creepy.

The fact you even created this thread about a girl you never even met or slept with shows you're way too invested in just this one girl and you need a lot more experience talking to people in general to get used to reading social queues.