Sunday

BR girl has been bugging me forever to help her build a stupid bookcase thingy. She keeps mentioning her roommates are gone this weekend. Sigh. I go, and it's basically me building the fucking thing while she watches. I ain't no carpenter. I mess up and put the back on backwards at the end (irreversible), and she gets super upset. lol. Hilarious. Last time I do a favor (that I didn't even want to do in the first place) for her. Why the fuck did I even do it? I don't want to fuck her. All she does is ask me to do things. I should be more of an asshole. Unfazed comes first.

I go to the school, grade a bunch of papers, and FaceTime with ex the one girl. Apparently she made out with George, but she still wants me to fly to visit her while she plays FWB with him. She tells me she loves me and doesn't have feelings for him. I tell her I can't come visit if she plays FWB with him (obviously). Completely emotionally unmoved. Damn I'm a gangsta. She's crying and shit, and upset, and shit (hilarious, I know), and I'm just bein' a G. The next day, she decides that she doesn't want to do anything with him because she wants to be with me. Damn right. Again, completely unsurprising and emotionally unmoved.

I end Sunday on the right note: play some basketball (haven't done that in a LONG time), swim in the pool, soak in the hot tub, flirt with some girls, then go home eat a huge dinner and pass out. Basketball was better than usual, because of game (weird I know). When you learn not to have an ego and not to let external approval be your source of happiness, you don't have to prove anything to anybody. All I was concentrating on was having fun, and therefore played a lot better and enjoyed myself a lot more. Crazy, game is everything.

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Monday

Spent the morning doing lab work with a new graduate student (lab girl) and an undergrad (Cole). Lab girl's pretty chill, and matches the playful vibe when someone else (Cole and me) take it there. Seems decently shy, and has a bf. The three of us kept up a fun vibe, another lab girl (Em) joined us, who's attractive but a bit cold. Don't matter, the only thing that really matters is my state. I grade quizzes in the afternoon, go to lab meeting with TA girls 1 and 2, joke around with them, TA girl 2 wants to go climbing sometime. Sounds good to me. I head to training, then head to trivia. Trivia is uneventful, although I do snag some food.

I'm still keeping up with the daily morning routine of verbal practice while I'm driving to the school, which is good. Trying to see every human interaction as a chance to practice my verbals and non-verbals and my self amusement.

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One thing I am proud of is the lack of wasted space and time throughout my entire day. My daily routine usually consists of going to school, doing work and going to classes, and then Jiu Jitsu training, and then possibly something social at night. Every weekday. The weekends are almost all play / jiu jitsu. A long haul from a year ago, where I'd spend a lot of time at home, doing not a whole lot other than ready pickup material and not applying it. Gotta keep up the movement, improvement in the triangle of doom: health, wealth, and relationships

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Also, a PSA:

There seems to be a popular notion that cold approach pick up is the be all, end all. Not the case. Yes, in the beginning you must do a ton of approaches and pickup shit to get your skills to a certain level. But... prepare yourself...

Getting laid a lot does not make you happy!!! No matter what you think!!

YOU make you happy. Actual meaningful relationships, where people care about each other (yes, with both guys and girls), that's something that lasts and is more significant. So please, for your own good, yes do pickup to work on game, but also MAKE FRIENDS. Do stuff with people when you're not trying to sleep with them. Do stuff for fun. Work on your health, your career, and your relationships. Most importantly, work on your state control not just when you're in the field, but constantly throughout the entire day. Jason Capital always says the state you're in the most becomes your default setting. Who wouldn't want to just be happier throughout the day?

And P.S. Do social circle game. Organize an event. Invite people to it. Tell them to bring friends. Meet hot girls and friend zone them. Use them to meet more hot girls. Repeat ad infinitum.

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Monday
Forget what the hell happened on this day other than me being a badass. School, flirting with TA girls, Jiu Jitsu, etc.

Tuesday
Rainy girl still flirting with me in classes, nothing major. Flirting with lab girls 1 and 2 more, keeping up a good vibe with them. Magic Man Bourque also keeps up a good vibe (lab guy). My state control is getting better every single day with my success rituals in the morning. At Jiu Jitsu, JJ girl keeps looking at me and smiling, and comes over at the end to shake my hand and congratulate me on my belt promotion. Going to look to keep up a better vibe with her in the future.

Wednesday
Rainy girl flirting with me in the labs. Two other cute girls stay after the second lab to study more, and we chat and have a good time. Tiki Man Sam and I decide to exchange numbers so we can work on Gracie Combatives before and after training at Jiu Jitsu. I meet up with Prodigy afterwards at Road 34. I walk in and run into Tri girl! Haven't seen her in awhile! I introduce myself to her group, and she's fun and keeps up a great vibe. I make fun of her chili (I call it bird vomit cuz it actually looked like it). Prodigy comes over and introduces himself. We bullshit, have fun for awhile, and then Prodigy and I head over to Mo Jo's. We meet Spanish girl there. On the walk over, Prodigy asked me for tips to move things along with Spanish girl. I told him to set up a date, where they did something fun. During the date, after having fun and laughing, to build an emotional connection by asking certain questions to build rapport:

What did you want to be when you were in middle school?
What's something really embarrassing about you that only a best friend would know?
What's the coolest but craziest thing you've ever done?

etc, etc

She arrives, I bust on her and tease her about her English, Prodigy sides with her (he should be busting on her too, to build attraction). I dial it back a little to give him the reins, but the energy dies down each time I do. Accent bro and other Spanish girl arrives, we all start bantering and having fun. Music starts, we start moving and grooving, and we all start shouting to talk, which amps everyone's state. A bunch more Spanish speaking guys arrive, we talk to them and up our states more. I start being ridiculous and dancing while shouting random Spanish phrases. Lab girl 2 walks by with a friend, we greet each other. Spanish girl says I love myself too much, Lol. I plead guilty. It's time to leave. Prodigy, Spanish girl and I go outside, Spanish girl snowballs me in the ear. Prodigy and I head to Barcade. We talk Tinder game, which I suck at (gonna go ahead and play the Asian card here, cuz it's super easy for me to get attraction in person but online and off pictures, it's harder, prob cuz Fort Collins is so white). But who knows, maybe I just need better pictures. Lab girl and her friend arrive, come by and greet us. She's much more animated than when I see her in lab, we bullshit for a little, then they leave. We call it a night.

It was good getting back out in the field again, forgot how much fun it was and how the night can offer up surprises as I run into different people I know. Need to do this more. Maybe I'll start sacrificing some sleep for it. Game not as tight as it could be, as I nitpick myself after every interaction about ways I could've played differently or said something different. It's all int he name of improvement, and I practice Jason Capital's Fun + Challenging state all day. I have the fun part down, working on challenging lines, challenging mindsets, and challenging other people throughout the day. Examples:

Person: some boring ass question, i.e., what do you do
Me: Oh no, we're not going to have a boring conversation. I have millions of those, other people have millions of those, and they're boring. Why don't you ask me something about something you actually want to know?

Me: You know what I hate? I hate it when people try to steer conversations towards mediocrity. Every day, every time I meet someone new, most people ask me boring questions and pretend like they care. I love it when I meet someone who transcends that, and that I can have a genuine, non-bullshitty conversation with. What's a question you want to ask me that I wouldn't expect?

Guy in elevator (actually happened today): floor 2 please
Me (loud and proud): sounds good man
Guy: *sigh* almost friday
Me: Oh, you're gonna make it man, you're gonna power through *smirk*.

Me: You know what bugs me? When people live inside their comfort zone... blah blah blah rant about comfort zones and saying yes to adventure... I'm curious, what's the most adventurous thing you've done lately?

Just some of the things I've been working on. Challenging someone communicates higher status, and girls are attracted to perceived status. BOOM

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Something more guys should take note. You're 100% correct here. Stacking up numbers of kisses/lays won't make you happy. I do do cold approaches, and several of them I've pointed out in field reports, but I also do lots of parties with friends, including totally platonic girl friends and dudes. Now I'm back to my "home base" for now, I'll be hosting my own socials, inviting people. Game for game's sake doesn't make sense - do game because you enjoy it, and form MEANINGFUL relationships with people

Thursday
Rainy girl continues to flirt with me in classes. After the school day, I head to pizza girl's house (her idea). I get lazy and don't practice game with girls I already know I have. Lazy, and I need to change it. Practice opportunities are practice opportunities. We watch Dead Snow 2 and Dawn of the Dead. Her house mate walks in on us fooling around on the couch (clothed) lol. We go to Trailhead for $1 tacos and I ask her some rapport building questions and she asks me some back:

What's something really embarrassing about you that only a best friend would know?
What's the coolest but craziest thing you've ever done?
What's the craziest place you've ever had sex?

I drive her back to her house. She moves over to the driver's side and we make out. She tells me she wishes she had a bed that she could invite me too. I invite her to my place. She comes to sleep over. I have to make sure to hide other girls' clothes and notes in my room before she comes in lol. We do the funky chicken dance, go to sleep. She wakes up earlier than I do, seduces me again and we do it again. Man girls are bad.

Friday
I do my morning rituals, hit up exercise physiology lab. I greet people YO like we're already buds. The girls are attracted. Runner girl takes a long time getting ready for an experiment (changing in the other room). I wonder out loud to the whole class "Is she having a baby in there or something?" Everyone laughs, tall skinny blonde girl tells me I'm horrible. Obviously she's attracted. At the end of the class I make an offhand comment, and ask two of the girls (including tall blondie) whether they had a study group for the test. They don't. I grab both their numbers, and tell them I'll text them to make a study group. We walk back to campus together, and joke around about guys getting competitive and uppity in intramural sports. Tall blondie tells us about how she decked a girl in basketball. I tell her she needs to stop taking steroids. I ask her if she gets infuriated if Subway makes her sandwiches wrong. We joke around some more, then I peace out down a different path.

I tease a girl in the elevator. We're standing, and I know she already pressed the button, but I ask her and check to make sure. Just from my non verbals she gets attracted. She asks me to press 3 and then says wait I meant 2. I accuse her of wasting electricity. She laughs, giggles. I make some other comment, she giggles again. She was attractive, maybe I should've transitioned into a cold read. I didn't tho.

Saw two of my students (cute girls) and greeted them as my two worst students. Lol.

My state control has been great the past few days! And it makes attraction game super easy. If I'm in a great mood and open my mouth, girls get attracted. It's that easy. Looking forward to tonight being killer.

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Friday night

Training goes bitchingly, and I shower, put on my pimp swag, and hit up old town. Prodigy and T bone recon with me at Trailhead, and we jive. My state isn't as high as usual, might be because I'm not excited about sausage fest PUA outings. We hit Tony's, talk for awhile, then hit Blind Pig, where we meet Spanish girl (CY) and other Spanish girl (R). Prodigy is diggin' on CY so I switch seats with him, and I stand up so my state doesn't die down further.

A blonde girl that I almost had a thing with (LM) waves at me, she comes over and I give her a big hug and we chat about her running. She's gorgeous, but needy and validation seeking. Her friend is there. I bust on her about her foot (she had surgery and doesn't have a toenail). She immediately turns and leaves. Lol. Both Spanish girls get up and follow me to the dance floor, we start grooving. Prodigy joins in a little bit. I start getting in a good state just by moving.

LM is dancing, moving close by, and walking through my group, all attempts at getting me to notice her and shit. Weak sauce.

Dancing is fun, we head to Bondi's after. We start dancing there, and I get opened by a girl I don't recognize (Artsy girl, also gorgeous). She asks me if I remember her, she was in a class I TA'd. I do, after a bit, because of the light and her makeup she looked way different. She keeps talking real close to me, and her boy she was there hovering and doesn't introduce himself. Super needy. We keep dancing, and art girl and I dance with our backs to each other, with lots of contact. Fun!

There's a small stage, Art girl goes up. Her puppy dog man follows her. She reaches her hand out towards me and pulls me up. We start dancing. I put my hand around her waist. Her boy looks so sad hahahahah she is playing him like a violin. Spanish girls and Prodigy get up on stage and dance too. I see a dude that was a friend of a girl I dated (blonde from the fall). We chat a bit. I see Dale, a lesbian. She gets on stage and calls me hot. Thanks, you're making me blush, is my response.

We eventually peace and I call it a night while the others go to Lucky's.

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Saturday

I run, then go to the academy for training, and meet pizza girl at Lamar's donuts. We chat a bit, I drink a metric butt ton of orange juice, and she helps me put new windshield wipers on my car. We sit down and she tells me we should talk about sex. Okay, hahahahaha. She tells me she's isn't doing monogamy right now and getting tested this week, and will let me know the results. I really appreciate this. I let her know I respect how she brought up something that's tough to bring up, and thanks for telling me! Girls with some chutzpah get my respect.

I go home, take a nap, and start getting ready for the potluck I'm hosting. I start cooking, and people start arriving. Asian runner nutritionist bro (DY) brings a badass quinoa dish (literally the best I've ever tasted). Blonde runner girl (NS) brings cookies and assumes her normal annoying ass self. Pot girl arrives, I give her a hug, apparently she's not mad at me anymore and we just don't mention last weekend.

Everyone is mingling and I'm feeling great with all these friends around. Spanish girls arrive, we laugh and joke around. CY girl tells me in Spanish I use my ass too much. Whatever the hell that means, it's hilarious. I chat with IJ bro about music. Chat with DY bro about nutrition, diets, and his career goals. Flirt with the girls. Ask model girl (CC) about her move to Denver. She invites me and 4 other of our close girl friends to Denver to club and sleep over. Hell yes.

I'm filling up on food and alcohol, and we move to another room to chat. I'm chatting with CC girl, NS girl, and bratty girl (AM). We start talking about dildos of all things, and how expensive they are. AM and NS girls mention they have dildos. Lol. I ask CY girl how to say dildo in Spanish. Concholera, so something along those lines. AG girl (Taylor Swift girl) and I chat about relationships, long distance, and how high school relationships are doomed once you enter college.

CC girl and pizza girl (JS) chat about sex and putting moves on people, and CC's experience with her bf. CY flirts with me in kitchen, she keeps touching me and we take some pictures together. The end of the night rolls around, and people peace out. JS girl comes back after 5 minutes. Smooches me. Helps me clean up, bless her soul. Then leaves when I don't invite her to sleep over. She texts me after apologizing if it was too strong a move. I say it's fine, I'm just tired and not in the mood. Truth is, I like her but I actually wasn't in the mood. Call it a night! Awesome party!

In other news, I bought a ticket for April 4th to visit ex the one girl (HS). Daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaang it's gonna be tight. She lets me know that I should get tested so we can raw dog and she can suck my man tool. Will do, girl, will do.

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Sunday

I wake up and text TS girl, Indian comic (RI bro), and CY Spanish girl about the Holi fest. I head to Mugs coffee shop, eat, ask the cute cashier about her necklace, and then meet up with the lot. We go to the Holi festival, throw colors at each other, and dance to Indian music and watch all the brown people go nuts. We congo line. I take pictures. CY girl gets up on my shoulders and we run around and chicken fight with others who have done the same.

Afterwards we head back to RI bro's place and get cleaned up. CY Spanish girl suggests eating, ella tiene hambre. The others have eaten, so CY girl and I walk downtown to Bann Thai for noms. She teaches me Spanish, I teach her English, and in some bizarre halfway mix we communicate. She tells me about her sisters and parents. I tell her about my sister and my parents. She tells me about her exes. I tell her about mine. She describes her travel adventures. I share some stories from my cross country bike trips.

We walk back, get ice cream, and peace out. I head to training with some jiu jitsu buddies. Training goes well, I then shower and head to Alley Cat Cafe for a study group with 2 cute girls from my exercise physiology lab (AZ girl and CH girl) that I exchanged contact information with on Friday.

I see a good student of mine from last semester when I sit down, we chat a bit, he's a good bro. CH girl arrives first, looking a little bit dressed up (to impress me). We chat a bit, I bust on her about her food, she asks me what I got on the last lab. CH girl is beautiful, tall, skinny, and blonde. She's got some flirting skills to back it up, too. I'm mildly impressed.

AZ girl arrives, she's fun as well. She is along further on the lab and the abstract due this week than either of us are, and I tease CH about being more stressed. AZ girl is a brunette, skinny, with a pretty face. She's funny too. Again, I'm mildly impressed.

We chat about the class and the work. Then we work a bit. Laugh and make fun of the people around us a bit. We chat about travel. AZ girl talks about the east coast. CH girl talks about her Europe backpacking trip. We do some more work. I announce another small talk break and ask them what they were like in high school. The mood is light and playful. AZ girl did theater, soccer, and IB classes. CH girl did lacrosse, basketball, softball, and volleyball and graduated in the top 5. Again, I'm mildly impressed. I challenge CH girl to basketball sometime. AZ girl jokes that she'll ref (she actually works as a ref). I mention that she'll need to keep her roid rage under control. Lol. I ask them both their last names and Facebook them. Then I demand they accept my request hahahaha. I stalk them both in front of them and ask them about some of the pictures. They ask me some back (You dressed up as a Mormon for halloween?!). We do a lot more work. I get a cinnamon bun and we split it three ways, joke around some more. One of my jiu jitsu friends makes an appearance, he sits down next to us and we chat. He says one of his best friends in Peru had his ex gf come over to his house with a gun and threaten to kill herself. Holy shit. Bitches be cray. Eventually, we get far enough, CH girl gets up to go. I compliment her on her jacket (I did actually like it). AZ girl leaves after another 20 min. Then I get up and leave. Boom.

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Read a bunch of material on escalation, will be posting my outer game techniques here for you guys to check out and going to practice them once I am in isolation with a girl. I am practicing emotional connection / rapport stuff a lot, it's good stuff and is pretty necessary at my level before going for the kiss.

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It's Wednesday.

Monday

I quit Jiu Jitsu, because I started reading about information marketing, sales, and building wealth. I need to funnel all my money towards starting this business I'm planning on. Unfortunately, this week I'm super busy. Next week is spring break. HS girl calls me and sort of shits on my plan. For some bizarre reason it affects me. Maybe I'm too invested in her (bought a plane ticket). She apologizes afterwards, we talk, and I feel better. DAMN YOU EXTERNAL VALIDATION I WILL PRACTICE UNTIL I KILL YOU AND DON'T NEED YOU ANYMORE. A rare sign that I need to work on my state control again. I'm good at keeping it high but I need a go to technique for the sledgehammers in life.

Tuesday

Go to class all day. Do lab work with EM girl. Do some good teasing, and rapport building. I tease her, call her captain Mensch. I ask her questions about her family and who's she close to. She tells me. I ask her questions about her future plans. We talk about peace corp. It goes well, and she's a lot more receptive, open, and fun then before. This is a girl that is shyer and needs more rapport before too much teasing and attraction game, I think. She tells me she will show me her fake after I tease her about seeing her at the bars the week before. Overall, boom. A new level of comfort reached. I'm getting good at the rapport / emotional connection building. Which is good, because attraction was always there, now all that's needed is the escalation. I think my rapport / emotional connection game was a little lacking before, I'll list my techniques out at the bottom of this post. Tuesday at exercise phys class at the end, there is a question where people talk to each other to figure out. I wave AZ girl over. She comes over with a big smile (compliance) and we chat and laugh. At the end of the class CH girl stays and comes to talk to me. She tells me she'll be in the library studying from here on out. Cool, I let her know I'll join in.

I text both AZ and CH letting them know I'm printing out the review questions, and that I can print them out extra copies. CH texts back, "Please! If you can, if not it's cool!" I take this to mean she's attracted (she doesn't want to bother me for it, and doesn't want to lose my approval). I hit her up in the library. We sit side by side instead of across the table (my strategic move). Start off a little bit flirty, but mostly business (studying). We take a break to quiz each other (it's light and playful). We study more. We take a study break, and I ask her some questions about her family. She answers. We study more (an excessively long time). She starts getting a headache and in a foul mood. I order food, I get her some sugar. Her roommate brings advil, she starts feeling better. I remain emotionally unaffected and joke around with her roommate. I still empathize with her, though, instead of busting on her for it (wrong time for that). For example, I reply, "I hate headaches, I use to get less sleep and get them every day around the same time... they were totally incapacitating and made me feel like shit". She feels understood and immediately feels better. Damn I'm a ninja. I'm like a jedi when it comes to emotions.

She starts feeling better, and I tell her we're taking a break. I show her Asianlookalikes.com as well as sporcle, and we spend a bunch of time on that, laughing, teasing each other, and bonding. With this one, the attraction is built but the comfort / rapport / emotional connection is still lacking. Will work on that when possible. We finally quiz each other some more about the material and pack up to leave. We walk by the front, and she mentions her ride is over there (doesn't mention whether it's a bf or not). I salute her goodbye and peace out.

Wednesday

I hit up the two labs that I teach, and feel good in both, joking and chatting with the students, and the cute girls trying to tell me stories about themselves. In the morning I almost forget my morning verbal practice in my car, and it's the first day that I am practicing my escalation material:

Me: Don't look at me like that.
Her: Like what?
Me: All cutesy like that. It's very distracting.
Her: *giggle* why?
Me: Because, you're making me like you. (notice the framing, SHE's making ME like her)
Her: Oh am I? No I'm not!
*A frame battle ensues in which I obviously win through non-reactivity, humor, and state control*
Me: It wouldn't matter anyway, cute girls are always awful / mediocre kissers...
*Another frame battle ensues, I win*
Me: I'm curious, how would you rate yourself as a kisser on a scale of 1 to 10?
Her: some number
Me: please, all girls say that.
*frame battle*
Me: Okay, you know what? Prove it. You only get one, though, I don't want you getting addicted or anything...
*kissy kissy*
Me: *pull back first* You know? Not bad. I give you like, a 7.
*more kissy kissy* etc. etc.

In the second lab, the two cute girls that always stay after (AH girl and AB girl) again stay after and laugh at everything I say, try to impress me with stories, etc. etc. AH girl and I bond over Mormonism, of all things (her dad used to be one). In between labs, HS girl calls me, upset over bullshit with her roommates. I empathize and listen and she stops crying and feels better. I make a joke, she cracks up. She tells me she doesn't know how, but that I am just so unbelievably good at making her feel better when she's down. Later, she texts me, "How is it possible that you make me feel so much better?" Cuz I'm a jedi, girl. Spanish CY girl texts me, wants to hang out tonight. I might be able to, but I'm studying again with CH girl at the library. We'll see how much we get done.

These are notes in my phone that I always go over when I'm taking a shit or in a boring lecture, etc. etc. The attraction folder is way too big, I'll just share my rapport / emotional connection stuff. So basically the format I go through with most girls is: Attraction, cold read, build wide rapport over a wide range of subjects, then build deep rapport. Attraction game is still peppered in throughout rapport. With just attraction, you're just another attractive guy. When you really build a connection with a girl through rapport, they feel like you know them, you have a special connection with them, and they'll really begin to think themselves obsessed with you. Without further ado, here's some of my game (obviously only use these after attraction is built, unless you like living in something called the friend zone) P.S. (the friend zone doesn't exist, it's a made up place for dudes who don't have all their non-verbals down)

Cold reads for wide rapport:
You seem like ...
I feel like you ...
^ these two cold reads are so great, they can be used for attraction: ... you seem like a person that doesn't wipe. I feel like you watch the notebook every night before bed.
or for rapport: You seem like a Colorado girl --> begin vibing on Colorado, and what she's like. You seem like a sporty girl --> transition to talking about what she does for fun. I feel like you were nerdy when you were in middle school --> transition to talking about what she was like in middle / high school, share stories about yourself.

Here are some of the subjects you want to transition into to build deep rapport, and my specific question I ask (I'm also constantly upgrading these, so let me know if you have any good ones)

Hopes / Dreams / Goals / Passions
-I'm curious. Where is *playful nickname for her* going to be in 5 years? What is she going to be doing, and what will it feel like for her?
-I'm curious. What did you want to be when you were in middle school? What experience or event made you want to be that? Why did you stop chasing that?
-If you won the jackpot, what would you do with the money? How would that experience feel? What would it be like?
-What was your BEST travel experience? Why? What was your favorite part of it?

Fears
-What's something that you're absolutely terrified *emphasis* of? Why? Was there an experience that was made you this way?

Secrets
-What's something really embarrassing about you that only a best friend would know?
^absolute gold, stole this from Jason Capital (the man)

Family / Friends
-If your puppy suddenly died / If you won the jackpot, who would you call first? You must really be close with him / her. What was an experience that really bonded you two together?
^also gold, I came up with this one, been using it a lot

Things that build rapport:
shared enemies, goals / missions, experience, and strong emotions

I like to talk about favorite things: favorite books, favorite movies, favorite travel experiences, favorite blah blah blah. I also like to ask, what did you enjoy the most about that?

What's the craziest but coolest thing that's ever happened to you?
What's the most adventurous thing you've ever done?
What kind of relationships do you like? What's it feel like? How do you know when it's starting to happen?
What's something that you're really scared of... but you really wanted it... so you just went for it? --> done with strong eye contact and nonverbals, will build some great tension

For transitioning to talk about sex:
What's the craziest place you've ever had sex? What was that like?
What's the best sex you've ever had? What made it so good?
What's your favorite position? Why do you like it so much?
^ She answers, describes it, and turns herself on. lol

For most of these obviously when she answers, you want to relate to her and tell her your own little story, you don't want to just sit there like a dumbass and say, "Cool, that's awesome."

Dassit, yo! Obviously these are SHIT if you don't have your nonverbals (body language, vocal tonality, eye contact) and your inner game shit (indifference, direction, state control) down, so work on that first if you're a beginner. I'll share with you guys some of my attraction game secrets later. Take it sleezy, yo

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Just posted this on another thread, but I thought it'd be helpful for those who RUN OUT OF THINGS TO SAY:

Your sticking point: running out of things to say.

I used to have this problem. It's a cliche, but you can literally talk about anything. It's not about what you say (it is a little) but about HOW you say it. You can make a girl laugh just by saying hello the right way. You should never be running out things to say because your mind is constantly making thoughts, and those thoughts (trust me) are good enough to throw out there. ANYTHING is good enough to say. You can talk about the wall, you can talk about your grandma, about Finding Nemo, about anything. All that happens when you can't think of anything to say is, the other person detects this, thinks that you must think what you have to say isn't good enough (aka you don't think YOU're good enough) aka not confident. The best conversationalists don't think about what to say, they just say what comes to their mind confidently and with the right non-verbals. That being said, here's what you need to do to overcome this sticking point:

Practice by yourself. Watch great speakers and analyze how they do it (Louis CK is great. He will just riff on something and make up shit and it's funny as hell. If he can do it, you can)

In the beginning, practice word associations. Start with one word, then go to another word, and another, and another. Example: Book, Library, Harry Potter, wands, magic, magic the gathering, pokemon, video games, smash brothers, wishing I had a brother, my sister, family, Chinese food, etc. etc. etc.
You can start with ANY word. Look around you, find something, and just start. You can practice this anywhere.

After you get good at that, move on to actually talking about each of those. Word associate with the hook words in each sentence you give yourself, and move on to newer and newer topics. ANY topic will do. NOTHING is bad enough to not talk about. A good practice is to ask yourself if you LOVE it or if you HATE it, and why. Example: starting word: snail
I HATE snails. Snails are freaking slimy as shit. Did you know snails love beer? I was doing a summer research position where we caught them by filling trays with beer. They eat those in some cultures. I think in Chinese cultures they do. Pretty unfortunate. My aunt and uncle brought me out to a restaurant in China once, where they cooked and ate insect cocoons right in front me. I was 14 at the time, so I wasn't adventurous enough to try it. It's too bad they all live in China, etc. etc. etc. I just move on and on and vibe on each new word association.

Notice I'm adding value to the "conversation" (basically a soliloquoy). I'm not asking questions, I'm just sharing stories, opinions, and statements. I'm telling you this because I know you're a badass that actually takes action. So PRACTICE this!

Once you get good at that, practice conversation with normal people. In each sentence, they give you a hook. Or, you give yourself a hook to start word associating: Example (I'm purposely making the other person as bland as possible to show you I can converse with anyone and amuse myself- you should be able to as well)

Me: Hi
Her: Hi
Me: You seem rather miserable today *smirk*
Her: Oh.
Me: It seems like lightning struck your dog or something. You okay? I mean, I'd be upset if that happened to my dog too.
Her: *giggle* Yeah, that would suck.
Me: I have a yellow lab named Kiki.
Her: Cool.
Me: She's named after that Miyazaki movie, Kiki's Delivery Service. Have you seen it?
Her: No.
Me: *could start talking about that movie but instead decide that this girl is boring as shit and promptly leaves without telling her why*

Other example (can you identify all the hook words that you can word associate off of?)
Her: How are you?
Me: I'm fantastic, I had bacon this morning.
Her: Oh my god, I love bacon!
Me: I know, right, Canadians got something right.
Her: Except Bryan Adams
Me: FUCK Bryan Adams. My mom loves Bryan Adams, god save her soul.
Her: Your mom sounds like an amazing person.
Me: She cooks the most amazing dumplings.
blah blah blah, word associations to infinity that eventually ends in her getting obsessed with me and me breaking her heart because she didn't measure up to my standards

Another thing to practice: Anytime you catch yourself stopping and not saying something instead of saying it, ask yourself: If I said this, what would happen? (the correct answer: nothing. No matter how bad what you said is. I've said I love penis before. NOTHING ACTUALLY HAPPENS. People are like oh shit! for five minutes then go back to thinking about their own boring selves.) Next time, will I say it? (the correct answer: YES) You'll find that people will actually respect and admire you for speaking your mind, instead of looking down on you. Hope this helps!

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Wednesday night

I commence more studying for the exam Thursday with CH girl and her roommate. It's less flirty this time, she seems more stand-offish. There's more signs that there's a bf. No worries, I just study and do my thing. CY girl texts me to hang out, but I can't since I'm studying.

Thursday

BOOM. Exam pwned. I get an exam back in another class. Highest score in the class, like a baller. Flirt with all the girls in the class, including Rainy girl (RW). Thursday night, I go out and get margaritas with RI bro and AG girl, joke around, I tell them an epic story about HR (Road rage girl) that happened while I was dating her. I'm trying to work on my story telling skills, so telling more stories is good practice.

Friday

Do my morning verbal practices, as always. Except this time, I work on challenging and qualifying girls instead of just deep rapport questions. It basically goes like: I like girls / people that blah blah blah (setting up what I like and don't like) ...then... I'm curious, *challenging question that asks her to basically qualify herself and to work for me*. I'll give you greedy bastards examples later, but that's the basic format I've been practicing.

Lab was fun, I was already in a good state, so I was joking around and teasing with the entire class, and people were laughing at everything I was saying. During a lull, AZ girl, who was sitting next to me, asked me about my spring break and what I have planned out of the blue. I take it as an IOI. We chit chat a bit about small talk, and then I joke around and self amuse a bit, she laughs. I mention I'm heading out in Denver. The girl behind me shrieks, "You've never been out in Denver?!?! You need to go to Moab!" Completely misunderstanding me. Lol. I take that as an IOI too. I take everything as an IOI. I turn back to AZ girl to continue. I ask her if she's going to bake a lot, I knew she liked that. We chat about baking and I get a little bit deeper (What is it about baking that you love so much?) After I go deep I pull back and tease again (You should call your bakery Zugshwertzs' Pastries *she laughs*). The conversation lulls, I look elsewhere, she starts the convo back up again (Are your friends around?) I reward her with a big smile and more conversation. One thing I didn't do was challenge or qualify her, which I should've done. I could've been like, "You should bring in some cookies sometime. Since you're such a professional, I'm expecting them to be amazing..." (a challenge). Or, "A lot of times I find people tend to pick hobbies for the wrong reasons. I'm curious... What is it about baking you love so much?" (basically setting her up to qualify herself and to work for my approval) I wish everyone a happy spring break and peace.

I head to office hours, and make a mental note that I haven't been sharing my energy with the world enough. If I just be more social and open my mouth throughout the day more, I not only share my good energy with people, but it pumps my own state. I make a vow to get better at that, and to focus on sharing my energy better. I think the reason I haven't been recently is because I get bored with people too quickly. People just all seem the same to me, making the same boring conversation, so I don't even try to push the boundaries. Bad thinking. I should be the one pushing the boundaries.

At office hours, AB girl comes in along with another girl who's annoying as fuck. IS girl (other TA) and AH (other TA) girl are there for a little bit. AB girl is so nervous around me, we chat a bit about spring break. She's giggling at everything I say. I challenger her at the end, saying that I'm expecting some epic stories from her ski trip when she gets back. She giggles and nervously says that she's got stories already but she doesn't think they'd be appropriate to share with her TA. Lol

I go play some basketball, then JS girl (pizza girl) picks me up. We go dumpster diving. Lol. Pick up a ton of good fruit and vegetables from a Wal-Mart dumpster. Fool around in the kitchen a bit before I kick her out. Prodigy (JK bro) texts me to meet up. Word. Time to rock the Friday night. I'm ready to try some cold approach again. Going to go out and share my energy with EVERYBODY. Going to open guys, girls, everybody to pump my own state, and then if any fish bite I'll work into qualification and rapport. BOOM, let's rock.

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Saturday night (epic)

I shower and meet Prodigy (JK bro) at big Al's burger. I warm up in the car by singing loudly to the radio, and say hi to people in the street. I know it's gonna be a good night. I can feel it. We meet up and chat about his crazy depletion diet and how he wants to gain muscle mass. Bro lost 180 lbs. Respect. A bunch of people I know from running club walk in, we greet them and chat about their ski trip. MC bro (Army bro from laser tag) meets us at the burger joint. This bro has a great vibe, fun, chill, and very socially savvy. More evidence that it's going to be a good night. We meet a couple of his friends at Trailhead. There's a blonde, and another blonde with a husband. I find out they're both marriage and relationship therapists. I'm fascinated, and ask them a million questions. Apparently MC bro is going into the same field! Fascinating! JK bro talks to the unmarried one, MC bro and I chat about masculinity, the evolution of sexual behavior in humans and monkeys, and game. Bro is educated, about game too! I'm psyched to meet a bro that is chill and has game. There will be more hanging out with this bro.

We down our beers and head to the next venue, Lucky Joe's. We get shots. Chat up two more bros, Zee and CJ. Now we got a big entourage. We head to the dance floor. MC bro and I hit it hard, start dancing. I make eye contact with a very attractive blonde girl. We dance, and then get closer and dance with each other. After the dance we start chatting. She's from Denver (an hour away). I ask her for good clubbing spots. She's barely 21 so she doesn't know. Her fat friend starts talking to me. I decide I'll practice game on her. We chat, flirt a bit, and then I practice qualification and challenging. I'm drunk right now so I don't remember shit about what I actually said. I eventually eject after we chat about her family a bit. We down another shot and decide to move on.

Our whole entourage moves to rec room. MC bro and I hit the empty dance floor, dance up a storm, and people take our cue and fill in. MC bro dances with a hot blonde, and they dance close. He's got dance floor game for sure! We all dance for awhile, but I don't open any groups. I make comments to people around me, and later on MC bro shares his tip for opening dance floor girls. It's simply hand of god. WORD. Some more dancing and short cold approach from JK bro later, we bounce to blind pig.

We all take another shot at blind pig. I open an adjacent mixed group. We chat. I'm thoroughly drunk and spouting self amusing nonsense now. We bounce to Bondi.

We waltz to the dance floor. I make eye contact and dance while walking to a girl. She tells me she likes me. I tell her I like her. I point to the dance floor, indicating that she should follow. Then I head to the dance floor. We start grooving. MC bro opens a girl, gets cockblocked. I'm dancing, see some Spanish bros I recognize. I waltz over and say hi. I'm dancing and then I see none other than the cute half-Asian girl that works at Thai Kitchen that I wanted to ask out for the longest time! WORD! I wave her over, hand of God, twirl her, and bring her in to dance. We dance platonically, grind, and then I release and dance a bit away for a couple seconds. We make lots of eye contact, and have fun dancing. Then we get close and dance dirty (grinding) for some more. We're both having tons of fun. My bros come over, give me some social value. The girl and I start holding hands, dancing close, and pressing our bodies together while we dance. We dance for a long time, just us two, with a cycle of fun dancing, grinding, getting up real close, putting our hands all over each other, and then releasing and fun dancing. The bros peace out. I ask her who she's here with, she points out 2 friends. A black bro that opened me earlier and I bond over a dumb joke. Girl and I keep dancing. I tell her I'll be right back and go to get some water. Black bro buys me and the girl a shot. I bring it over, she doesn't want to drink it because she needs to drive. I down both shots. We commence more fun dancing. I let her know I want to take her out. She puts her number in my phone as Marina. We dance more. I lift her up and she wraps her legs around me. I put her down and kiss her. It's not a sloppy make out session, just a kiss that lasts a couple seconds. She eventually needs to leave (with her friends). She leaves. I hit the bathroom, then leave as well. I grab water, and take a picture for a group. She runs over and says bye. As I'm walking back to my car, I send her a text, "Was great dancing with you tonight! -Unfazed". I run into her and her friends. She mentions she can give me a ride home if I'm too drunk. I accept. I joke around with her and her friends. A dude opens me and starts talking about Asians in prison lol. I can't stop giggling and self amusing, and the girls are laughing at things I say. The dude eventually gets offended and leaves. Her two friends leave, and she brings me to her car. We make chit chat. We get in her car and she drives me home. I ask her her spring break plans. She's going camping until Wednesday. We make plans to hike on Thursday. We talk about running (she's on the track team). I ask her her favorite running spot. She mentions Glacier National Park. I talk about Lake Tahoe. She seems shyer (I thought she was super shy before dancing with her) in the car. We get to my place. I let her know I'll call and we should plan on hiking Thursday. I tell her I'm gonna kiss her one more time. I do, it's short and sweet. I wave goodbye and peace.

It was a lot of hand holding, dirty dancing, and putting our hands all over each other. For Thursday, I'm planning on peppering attraction game into qualification and deep rapport to establish an emotional connection on the hike. I actually DO like this girl for once. Dang. Hold up, though, gonna have to maintain my frame of not chasing and letting her work for it too. A fantastic start for spring break, riding a high right now. Peace, gangstas!

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