Ok,

I've been talking to this chick and she has been really stressed lately so I went out on a limb and said "I think i know whats wrong with you.. you need to get laid"

she said that she really did need to get laid.... convo continues and we end up setting up a date for tonight. Now im not going to say we are for sure going to have sex but i think it is kind of pre determined...

of course she thinks i've had sex (a long with any other girl i've talked to about it... why would i say im a virgin?????)

My problem is ... i dont want to be a 1 minute man.. so what are some things i should do to "prepare"?




thanks guys.

EDIT: last time i almost had sex i had a case of lmr... what are a couple way to fix this? thanks again

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There are condoms that can de-sensitize you if your worried about not lasting that long...

Just don't get all worked up and lose yourself and you'll be fine

Well, some say its best for a virgin to masturbate before the first time having sex. Now, I didnt do this and lasted a good while but if you think it will help you last longer, go for it. It might kinda screw up the experience on your part, seeing as how you just ejaculated, but it could help you last longer. You decide. Also, if you think you are about o bust one early, take it out and give her some oral. If she doesnt want you to take it out, think about weird shit. No lie, this helps me a bunch.

Really though, you shouldnt worry yourself with it. Just take it slow and you'll be fine.

P.S.- Why did you get LMR?

well dude, you are right for not admitting you are a virgin, contrary to what alot of chicks say, being honest can hurt your social value. I would not go into the situation with youre hopes up too high. If you get laid thats great, its definitely an option, but dont expect it. Just run the date casually. She should get the impression that you have gone on dates before. You are qualifying HER as a girlfriend. If you are worried what you should do if the situation turns sexual, its an overrated process. You have seen a porno right? It is important though, to take two steps forward, 1 step back when escalating kino. You should search the forums for more lmr tips if you need to.

I think you better give her some great head and for a long time until you feel she's wet enough and you're confident enough in the moment to fuck her. Just pretend you're in a porno, pretend you're a porn star and just get in that zone and you'll be fine.

If worst comes to worst and you do splurge early dont admit you are a virgin, just say its 'been a month' or something.

thanks for the info guys

lmr was with my ex.. i moved a little fast but it was my dick thinking, not me

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What I envision happening to you is that you'll be nervous enough if you actually get in the act that going to quickly won't be a problem for you. Especially, if you masturbate beforehand. Whomever encouraged you to foreplay, extensively, knows what they are talking about. This will actively focus her on her sensations so that when you do engage her, she'll little notice any of your short-comings. No pun intended.

Also, be apathetic to the situation and expect nothing to happen.

Dito, masturbate before you meet her, not sure if this helps or not though. Also it depends on how much fantasy there is and how good it is, on how long you last, if your not that attracted to this girl you should last longer, but if you think this girl is the most gorgeous thing ever, the sex is great and there is an element of fantasy, you might not last as long as you would have thought. Alcohol can make you last longer, but can also effect erection. Try not to get nervous as it will effect performance.

This is ridicules!

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yeah like yall said I didnt go in expecting anything

I had a great time... we went out to a large local mall and it was cool to have her as a pivot... because i was acting as if i wasnt interested in her and was flirting around with other chicks in stores... I actually got her to find me some peacocking necklaces which was pretty cool...

i was having a great time and we were kino'ing eachother all night... played the ass grab gimmick aand got a good response... It was going good and at that point the night could of ended and it would have been cool.

ended up parking at a dark park after the mall where she gave me a great massage in my truck. she asked for me to return the favor and i did.

^that is the point where I blanked, and could not think of any conversation. it was very awkward and after a few minutes of mindless B.S. talk, i did the "do you want to kiss me" routine... which is when she said "not really"


i think it ended up into some weird twist of LJBF.

but i dont care, im on day 7 of styles challenge and ive already been getting results... so im just going to move on to the next girl in line.





thanks for all the input guys

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Thats probly the best thing to do, just next her, and if she does really like you, you'll find out sooner or later.
BTW sometimes its best just to go in for the kiss rather than do the mystery thing, i think in that situation you would have had no resistance if you did, but its hard to tell just from reading your post. Dont worry about the kiss (not like u aint kissed a girl before) and if it leads to sex, it leads to sex, just go with the flow and see what happens, then that should kill the nerves abit.

well..you set yourself up. IF you have sex with this girl she will know that you are a virgin. I'm glad that it worked out for you though.

unlike most guys on this site, I believe that being a virgin isn't a bad thing when used properly.
you played the Vcard all wrong dude, she asks be like " I haven't met a girl good enough for me", being a virgin is NOT a bad thing. Being ashamed of being a virgin is.

edit: i hit tab+ enter.

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she never asked, i could tell she just kinda assumed it from previous talks.

and shes only been with 2 guys or something... but its cool

nexted!

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Well you can take my advice, but I'm only sixteen so I can't say that I have a lot of sex experience. I think you should have just kissed her. Don't rely on Mystery's method. If you felt that it was the perfect moment. I would use Mystery's method if you are unsure if the girl wants to kiss you. It seemed like the awkward stuff killed it. I think you could have been able to kiss her right after you gave her a massage. This may not be good, but you could have said something like idk,"you know what's better than massages," HB- "What?" you- BAM.

As for the virgin thing, you should have told her. You could actually then be C&F and say some shit like "but I don't know if your good enough to be my first," or something like that. Just make sure that she knows your joking around by smiling or something.

But hey she chose not to kiss you. Her loss. Nextttt bittttttcch.

Maybe its not a good idea to tell the girl that you are a virgin... That might be a big deal for her to be your first and make her not want to have sex with you.

And instead of saying straight out "Im a virgin" you can always say "Im not very experienced in this". which to me sounds a lot better.