A friend told that when it comes to girls with boyfriends, you have 2 options.

1. Aggressively pursue them like you did not know otherwise, and show that you don't care, or are better than her current boyfriend.

2. Ignore them, give them minimal attention, and simply wait for a break up.

If you get caught in the middle ground between those two, or respect the fact that she has boyfriend, then you end up on the friend-zone.

anyone care to elaborate?

Find one without a boyfriend.

If you get her to cheat or leave the guy - what do you think she's gonna do to you when she gets bored? Once a cheater...

Yeah, if you're looking for girlfriend material then move along. As far as someone on the side...

You are obviously grown enough to make your own decisions but if she's got a boyfriend I'd respect her choice despite how you may feel about it. Getting in between two people can get very messy.

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So let her join your friendzone. I'm friendzoned with about a half a dozen hotties. They're married, or have kids, or have a serious bf, or they're a lesbian (not kidding here), so I just build attraction, but don't take action. Then I build rapport. Next thing you know, these girls are constantly looking at you when you walk past, playfully flirting to get your attention, and they feel safe with it because they know you're not going to do anything. BUT, if you really work at becoming a real friend for them, they can turn into awesome wing girls. And every single girl who sees a half dozen other girls holding your arm, laughing at your jokes, going out to eat with you, etc., is going to start to wonder about you.

I'm perhaps in the minority in this viewpoint, but I'm all about having a rich social circle with both guys and girls. It really helps you out in a lot of different ways (and not just in your dating life, either!). Incident to this viewpoint of mine, I've found it's often easier to ask 2 or 3 girl friends out rather than one. And if you walk into a bar with three girls down to help you game other girls, it's like shooting fish in a barrel at that point... especially if that girl is a lesbian with a really good eye for quality...

I usually take the morally good route and go for someone who isn't in a relationship.
But hey, if you want to be a home wrecker, just go along with the mindset that she's attracted to you anyway. She then has a good possibility of falling into that frame.

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Find someone on the side without a boyfriend...

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Karma is a bitch. That's all I'm gonna say.

You start hooking up with girls with boyfriends and you're gonna walk in on your sweet girlfriend you meet one day... blowing some local rapper, about to take a shot to the face.

Don't be a dick.

So, all you guys who are saying to find a girl without a boyfriend... I have a couple of questions for you.

So, I have this FB, right? She comes over once a week, usually just gives me head, and then I kick her out. It's been going on like that for about 4 months. Then one day she comes over, gives me head, and then informs me that she now has a boyfriend, but that she's still cool with coming over to see me.

So now, since she has a boyfriend, do you feel I am morally obligated to stop letting her suck my knob?

Or is your viewpoint that I was there first so I get "dibs"?

Frankly, I think both of those views suck. Women aren't property. You don't get to treat her as though you're sticking a sofa out onto a Chicago curb after you've shoveled the snow out of your spot. Nor are you required to back off whenever a girl you are with finds another guy interesting. I mean, could you imagine if you were dating a girl for a year and a guy walks up and she takes a momentary liking to him? Would you just back off and let him have her because obviously she's more interested in him right now? See? That's nonsense too!

The bottom line is girls will go after what they think they want at the time. And in case you haven't noticed, many hot girls will bounce from relationship to relationship like a junky. They're never even single for 24 hours. IMHO, you do not mess with long deep steady relationships. However, backing off a girl just because she has a bf is stupid. You don't know how serious they are, you don't know how she feels about him. And you may not be around in a few weeks when they break up. In fact, she may never break up with him at all, ever, unless she has an option set up on the side. And there's no harm in having that option be you.

I laughed all the way through.

You're not a bro.

If a girl was SIMPLE blowing me and then getting kicked out of my crib right after that means I don't give two shits about her. And if I don't give TWO SHITS about her I should stop messing with her period, boyfriend or not. But especially if she came up with a boyfriend.

I couldn't do that shit to another dude. Have some guys girl at my place sucking dick and then getting thrown out. But i'm just a bro like that. Maybe you're not. You think about self first, which is cool.. Nice guys do finish last, but to me thats just next level shit.

You're talking about a girl you're shitting on, not some girl you're actually interested in.

I just don't deal with women of that quality anymore anyway so I can't really relate. In my younger days sure(not that I'm that old lol), but not anymore.

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Personally, if I don't care about her and am "throwing her out" that doesn't mean I'd keep having her around if she's looking for somewhere to get some love and attention. I don't say it, but my girls know I have other's without me saying. I don't make any promises, and they understand that they are free to see others. Now, if they find someone and she happens to be the girl I'm chucking out the door after a blow job, well I'll leave it at that. I'm not interested in her, it's pointless for me to keep pursuing or having her slurp me off every other day.
I'm a gentleman, screw it. If this is the game you play then go for it. I'm not saying it's wrong, I'm giving you my two cents.

This is actually a perfect example, I'm talking to a chick, she's cute but she isn't someone I'd take seriously. She recently got a boyfriend and I was like "yeah, yeah, boyfriend" . K . Keep plowing, but in the end...I'm not really interested, I'm possibly just messing shit up for them for no reason. I friend zoned her. Keep her in the bank. In reality, girl will always have dudes hitting them up. Don't be surprised when it happens to you, or get mad.

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You're absolutely right, Mr Assertive.

Getting back into the game this time, I kind of went off the RSD deep end for a bit, was trying out Julien's stuff. It really didn't work for me. I mean, it got me some girls, but it wasn't what I needed or where I wanted to go with my game. That's why I've given up on that stuff and went back to other materials that gave me more positive and holistic results.

And when I started with this girl, I told her 3 days before we started hooking up that I mostly just wanted NSA bj's and she told me she liked giving them and was cool with it, and she started coming over. That's been our relationship. In fact, I even converted her to polyamory and although she wasn't cool with it at first, she changed her mind after awhile. She also really likes the "home movies" that she makes with me, so I guess I'm also a unique guy for her that gives her an experience that she finds appealing. And I assume her bf probably knows about me because she and I have discussed the polyamory thing in reasonable depth. My other gf definitely knows about her as well. So it's not exactly shady game that I'm running here.

As for kicking her out afterwards, I work 12 hour days and keep a pretty tight schedule, and she works two jobs. Anything besides fun just really wouldn't be in the cards for us, so the relationship is what it is and I make the best of it.

And hell yes, I kick her out promptly afterwards. You see, I work until at least 10pm, often until 2am. She gets up for work at 5am. So there's no way that I'm going to be letting her hang out, and start her next day on 2 hours of sleep or something like that. "Hey.. you have work tomorrow, you've gotta go get some sleep...". I don't want some girl making a mess and having a miserable day afterwards just because she decided to come see me the night before...