HB9. I was LJBF'd for 5-6 years. Finally broke out and we slept together 6 times. Everything went well there but it wasn't the best she's had she told me. Ever since then (two months ago) we haven't slept together. I froze out for a bit, then she came back around. Over past month hanging out a lot but just making out and stuff. When I try to escalate i get LMR.

I sleep over this chick's place in her bed and when I start trying to escalate she tells me to just go to bed or tells me that I'm being forceful and to just relax and go at her pace. Am I back in LJBF or do I have to wait it out?

My game when we're in bed is terrible. A lot of the times we've been drinking so I just start letting my hands wander and she seems to hate that. What's some good moves from spoon position in bed to get things going? I just don't understand how "relaxing and going at her pace" is ever gonna lead to sex when the few times I have tried that and just held her we both fall asleep.

Help!!

You've known this girl for years. She is getting to the point that she wants some commitments out of you to where this is headed. She is tired of, pardon the pun, "give the milk away for free, and wants you to buy the cow." I can just about assure you this is what is going on. Comfort and commitment are typically what women need to hear before LMR is conquered whether a SNL wants a phone number and a promise you'll call her, or a girl wants a ring.

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Known for years but LJBF the majority of the time. While I appreciate your input I disagree but I don't blame you because maybe I failed to say full story. I offered to wife it up and we talked about it and she didn't want it.

So with that, back to the point, what is happening and how do I make it happen?

She's my best friend and as AFC as it sounds I want to be with her. Just can't keep blowing it like i have.

Thanks