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Hi.
I need help with something (really? duh!). There's this girl at work that I feel very much atracted to. She works at a different part of the building. Altough, I see her everyday because of the everyday morning meetings. I talked to her once and she seemed very friendly.
The thing is, it's a group and I have this social anxiety towards her and since we're in a group it's even worse.
And I don't have much time because both of us will not work there anymore very soon.
And I think I've screwd up somehow. I have her facebook and I invited her for a cup of coffee. Through facebook... But my message was seen and ignored successfully... lol
So, what should I do, other than man up and go talk to her already? Should I go up to her and ask something like "how about that coffee"?
I need help. Altough I don't know her very much yet, I'd like to get to know her. She's hot, pretty and I like her personality. Help, please. :\
P.S: I don't have a problem to aproach in most cases, but this one managed to get through the defenses lol.
Hey man!
Your main problem is that you're stuck in the situation where you constantly feel under pressure
around approaching that woman because you're trying to force yourself into doing what you don't
truly love and enjoy. If you did love it and enjoy it, you'd do it as effortlessly as anything else that's
part of your true passion.
If you don't stop doing what you don't truly love and enjoy, you'll most likely end up getting
stuck in the pickup obsession that often leads to sexual addiction with the symptoms of one
or more personality disorders.
By the way, I don't mean to scare you in any way but just point you in the right direction of
getting out of your trouble as soon as possible.
That said, since your problem is pretty much the same as the problem of the guy who wrote
his post titled
Can't approach any girls that I've already replied to, I warmly recommend that
you now click on his post's title link and learn about my tips for both of you.
Take care.
Bruno
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