I recently bought vin DeCarlos Pandoras Box and my girlfriend is a Private Dancer type (TDR) been dating her for 5 months and she is still playing games. I've been very patient with her.

We dated a month and I caught er sex texting a guy which she said was just drunken stupidy. Then becasue of facebook, I get emails from two different guys who think they're dating her. She told me they were Ex-bfs that haven't got the hint.

Just last week, one of these guys flew all the way from LA to Columbus, Ohio to try and win her back, showed up at her work unannounced with 4 dozen roses and didn't have a place to stay, and expected to stay with her. She did tell him she was dating me, and took him back to the airport. So again, he calls and leaves a msg on the answer machine saying, "Please tell me you are alone and don't have your new boyfriend in your bed." I grabbed her phone and texted this asshole and said, "Yes, my boyfriend is here in bed with me, and you need to leave me alone." He responded back as, "You promised me you were finished with him and we'd work this out. She then tells me, "I just said what I could to get him back on a plane to LA."

I don't know what to believe, but this is getting old. As said before, she is a Private Dancer (TDR) and I dont have time for Vin DeCarlo to get to that sections as its months away. What should I do? She is 29 and very attractive and has a great career, as well as I, but I am fed with this Bull Sh!t

Vlad,

Have you even had sex with this girl? Is this the kind of shit you need to be dealing with? You don't have other options with different woman?

Also don't depend of some Briggs-Meyer/Jung type casting dating material to tell you anything you don't already know.

Yes, sex with her 3 times a week since after two weeks into dating. I have other options, but tired pf giving her benifit of the doubt. Maybe I'm in denial that she is sneaking around behind my back. I have dumped her twice and she called me almost 3 times a day begging me not to give up on her. Everything would be fine for about a week and then the BS would start up again.

Just need to know if I should dump her and block her calls or how to handle the situation. I did expalin to her how I felt with all this and she said, "I've never had a man tell me his feelings," in a smart ass way. This is how a 15-yr old would act and she is 29, so I feel she should be apast this stage. So do I need to flip the F&*k out and lay down the law, ignore her for a few days, or just cut my losses and move on?

BTW, Sex and the City is her favorite TV show.

Hey Vlad,

Well Im glad your humping her, it certainly gives you many more options.

Well I can sit here and tell you that you should dump her and move on but you like her and your having sex with so easier said then done

I could advise you to talk it out but that will accomplish nothing

She pathologically seeks attention, so your not gonna eliminate that by talking it out.

If shes not having sex with other men I would continue the relationship but take her less seriously as a long run prospect. You may want to get some chicks of your own on the side, but unlike her, actually have sex with them.

Sorry not to be too helpful but this problem has no good or easy solutions.

Thanks for the feedback Detox75!

You are correct I do like her, as she has a way of getting you to believe her Bullshit.

I realize there is no easy solution to this problem. She is a brillant person in her career but plays games like a 15-yr old girl about seeking attention as she is a 2-yr resident MD. I did get all my belongins out of her place yesterday morning, after she left for work, she came home and called me 3-times wondering why I took all my stuff and what I was up to. I told her, "You need to make a decision and to either get on the team or get the fuck out of my life, and you know my number once you decided." I also said, I wasn't interested in coming over anymore. She called again and asked, "You're not going out on the town are you?" So it seems that if I pull the attention from her she goes crazy wondering what I am doing....

She admitted to me she is still in contact with the ex-bf from LA, that flew out her to Ohio on a whim once he learned of me. He is trying to talk her into changing her mind and dumping me. He knows I've been nailing her for the past 5-months, and was in bed with her when he called the other night, so I don't know what he's thinking. She told me that she told him it's over and he won't take no for an answer. You think she's playing both of us? That's what my gut tells me.

Just need to Alpha male way in handeling this, and if I'm on the right track... Keep humping her until something else better comes along, or just dump her ass and don't give her the opportunity to dump me or keep playing games, or just how to really fuck with her mind?

If shes having sex with you and not with him then hes technically the chump. However the issue is the emotional stress its causing you, and the long run prospects since you like her.

Academically the Alpha thing woul d be to keep humping her and search for better prospects but I don't think that accounts for how much of an emotional drain she is on you. It seems giving her an ultimatum is a good short term solution and will put your mind more at ease if she decides in your favor, or against it, and ends it all. The long run is still murky if she has this attention seeking pathology, because surely this problem will happen again in the future.

You obviously have enough game to do the right thing being that you attracted this hot chick, its comes down to a matter of what you are willing to tolerate. And that's something no one can answer but you.

Thanks again you have helped. I'm gonna start working on other chicks but in the meantime keep getting my rocks off with her until I find another. I agree this other guy is a chump as he knows I'm jumping up in her shit, but he claims he still loves her and would drop everything and move from LA to Ohio next week. Ha ha. It would be funny if it wasn't so pathetic.

I know thru her, he's not working so I think he's so desprate because he's looking for someone to pay his bills, and she's a dumbass if she falls for it. Yeah an attention whore who is also a compusive liar she is, you nailed that one on the head. Maybe those two deserve each other, but hey I'm getting laid anytime I want, so I just have to keep my emotions in check.

Thanks again as peace of mind is worth a million bucks!

Hey Vlad.. I'm new to this but I'm really interested in that Pandora's box .. I'm curious on exactly what the materials are and i was wondering... You think I can use your login so I can check it out online..