Hi, I wanna keep it simple, but its interesting and quite a long story, so be prepared.
I hang out in one cafe and I met one girl (bartender in this cafe) over there (about 2 moths ago), we started chit chatting and so on and we run at a topic that todays man are not capable of doing old fashioned date. And I said really, let me convince you? Lets try it, I dont know your name and I dont know, who you are, so meet me in front the horse on wednesday at 6 p.m. (Im living in the czech rep.) on Wenceslaw Square, I ll be the one with rose. And she checked her shifts and said ok.
So wednesday comes, I have a rose, some crazy puzzle game I came up with and a plan which includes wine in my backpack and cheese. I made my homework and prepare well.
But she didnt show up.
I was mad. But eventually I just settle down and said to myself that even worst things can happen, so I decided to walk down the square and I pick the most beatifull girl I met and give her the rose with words: " this one is for you because you look great today"
(today im proud about myself)
Ok... now this story should quit, but i doesnt
Im taking Salsa classes and this cafe is near by so I went there again (its her fault, that she didnt show up) and some interesting thing happen. She was there. So I just went in, ready to give her some thoughts about it, but she started to excuse that her boss, changed her shifts and that she didnt have my number. Convince me I said. You have a facebook message from me, because, when I found out, that I cannot make it, i persuade my collague (this collague me from my past, because I went in that cofee with my Ex) to go trough documents and find my name. So they go trough 3 years old documents to find out, who I am.
I dont have any FB message from you and im pretty certain, I said, you just kiddin me. So she was thinking that we should hang out again. And I said srry but I like myself and not a suicide type of man to go trough it again if you dont show up. But we changed numbers.
As I found out, she really send me a message on FB (it was left in "other" folder, which I rarely check) so we decided to go on a date again. So on first date we went to sexual toys muzeum, she told me that Its great and next time shes taking me to yoga classes or needlework classes. Next time we were tgthr at one romantic place (restaurant) with view on square (which was really costy to me). And we hang out to some chinese tea place, where you have a lot of privacy and we make out there ( meaning kissess
From this point everything went well, I show her my value in subtle way, I also have other options (never speaking about them), I made rapport (she likes snowboarding, winter, romantic movies, we talked about that we spent future tgthr where she is going to be hippie grampa and im going to be old fashioned Sean Connery and we start a bar on Cuba island).
Truth to be told, from that point, it just went worse. I didnt have time, she didnt have time etc. But when I didnt have time I can manage it to the next week, which she was not capable of. She was saying that she has a lot of work ( before we even speaking about that, we go tgthr on a ski)
And yesterday I went there again, I know her co workers (and i also flirt with one other girl in that cafe) and I found out that she also have multiple options (guy sitting next to me, who was really funny, kind of alpha was kind of hitting on her - and I learned a lot of stuff from him and the way he treated this girl and one other in that cafe shop). But I stayed longer, go trough some bars and came back, I though to myself ok, I have nothing to loose, everything to gain, so I started to tease her a little bit and as the night progress I lean in and whispere to her ear that her smile is killing me and she is gorgeous. I need to charge my phone and she said that she has a night shift and Im welcomed to come over to charge my phone later. I went home ( i need to work today ) but sending her text saying that "Next time I can play with you all night .... or with phone" - there is different meaning in czech language. Even though she has a hole night answer didnt come.
But here comes my question! What did I do wrong, that I was not capable to move forvard to sex?
1) Is it that she found out that I have flirt conversation with co worker?
2) Is it that she has multiple options and Im no different?
3) Is that we have almost nothing in common ( Im no skiing addict, shes younger, immature etc.)
4) Im not quite sure, whether she just want to have a boyfriend or that she wants to have just sex ( She was giving me hints to both ways)
5) I send her messages too little.
Well the answer doesnt matter. I just want to know, where i make mistake and honestly I dont know where.
CHAT