So, if you saw my previous post, the long distance made my ex sabotage our relationship. We texted a few times, i still miss her obviously.

Then tonight we were texting, blew up, It got to the stage of ultra annoying. It was like 90% ball in her court. I dug a hole 1m deep, to fucking mile deep. Why? I don't know, trying to get it better but did not.

I was like, yeah your busy now, its a shame you wernt when we were together and you sat around all day being needs, then shes like i think you need some space from me to move on, and im like I am moving on, but remember you just dumped this on me, you have had time, your a quitter in life, it gets a bit hard so you decide ending it is the best thing. Shes like, i know your upset but i think you should have some space from me to get over me. And im like... DID YOU NOT JUST SEE MY FUCKING TEXT, JUST PROVES YOU JUST WANT TO GIVE UP ON ANYTHING JUST BECAUSE ITS NOT PERFECT, RELATIONSHIPS ARE ABOUT making compromises, but i guess you will learn. Then shes like im going to bed now night. and i tried recovering it and got nothing back.

This is a reminder for anyone who has just split up or gf goes cold and closed minded on any possibility of a relationship. DONT FUCKING MESSAGE HER, DONT BOTHER TRYING, AND DONT FUCKING MESSAGE HER!!!! It will not get you anywhere, and will not work out.

SOMEONE PUNCH ME IN THE FACE PLEASE.

Nothing wrong with this. We have all been there.

Now the slap. She doesn't care about you. She wants you to forget her because she has moved on and she wants you to do the same. You are being lucky she seems decent she won't drag you along so this will end quickly.

On to the future do yourself a favour and don't get into long distance relationship again.

let me guess, you took n2thevoid's advice, spilled your heart out to your girl, "communicated," and now she's long gone?

that guy should seriously be banned from this forum. it's too bad i didn't read that thread in time because i would absolutely have warned you not to listen to a god damn word he says. is it any coincidence that him telling you to go against everything people talk about in this forum completely backfired?? does he give one fuck that you're sad as shit now without a girlfriend?? nope.

anyways, it's far too late now from the looks of it. you should NEVER have gone back in and cuddled her, from that moment forward it was a downward spiral into beta-land, and now you're texting her mean shit when she's already moved on, making you look butthurt and desperate, and further killing any attraction between you two.

thankfully, i'm not sure any of this matters because i'm not sure how long you were gonna be able to survive in a LDR with her. if she's a full-time student without a job lined up and you're already working several hours away, i doubt this was ever gonna become anything because of logistics. but if it was something like her graduating and then moving and working in the same town as you in a few months, then you totally, totally blew it by following the advice of the other people in that thread. not your fault, just shitty advice being thrown around in this section of the forum.

when she was calling and texting and snapchatting and chasing you and apologizing to you over and over, that's when you had her. because you had gone no-contact and FROZE HER OUT (cowards like n2thevoid don't advise this, they'd rather see you get your heart torn to shreds than actually help a fellow man). after you froze her out and she'd chased for a while you should have PLAYED IT COOL and acted like nothing had happened. teased her, flirted with her, met up with her, fucked her. you NEVER should get angry like that with your girl unless she seriously crosses the line. it gives her way too much power over your emotions. plus this shit should NOT be that big a deal. it's one chick. there are billions. you shouldn't have threatened to break up with her without knowing damn well sure that's what you wanted to do. pushing and pulling works but not to that degree, threatening a breakup freaks a girl out in a major way just like it would freak you out. when she gave you an ultimatum you should have cockily laughed in her face and walked out. if she did it by text you should have texted "lol k" and gone no contact until she apologized.

instead, you followed the beta advice given to you by beta males and made her a tribute video. and what happened? she got the fuck out immediately. if you hadn't done that, if you had made her chase and chase and then given her just enough to keep her chasing... that would be the only chance in hell you had in the LDR. if that didn't work, you were fucked no matter what. but this way... this is just begging for her to bail on you.

the only thing i can say is that because this was long distance there was a MUCH less chance of it working, even if you had played things perfectly. i hope for your sake this isn't a scenario where she was moving in with you after school and already had a job lined up.

do not listen to n2thevoid ever again. pm me if you need advice. dead serious. i will be straight with you on what you need to do and if you don't have a chance i'll tell you straight up.

stop texting her altogether. if she cuts contact and you never hear from her, you were already toast. if she texts multiple times over the next week then respond eventually but be COCKY and FUNNY and CONFIDENT. do not text her more than she texts you. MAKE HER CHASE.

i agree with the other posters that you have to make sure this is all worth it for you. if she's that far away for a long time it's probably not worth it. but if you think she is, this is the best shot you have.

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You must be overconfident and cocksure, even if you haven't got a god damn thing in the world going for you. And you must fail with women until you do not fear the possibility of failure, whereupon you will succeed wildly.

You did nothing wrong, she's just not the one for you. It looks as though things were ending long before you were even made aware, so don't be hard on yourself there's nothing short of leaving the relationship earlier that you could have done. You got the right idea being vulnerable, it just take finding the right person, clearly she's not the one (at least in this point in time). Either way, you have your answer and you can begin the process of healing, reclaim that energy for yourself, and continue on with your journey and when you meet that girl who is worth your time and energy, you'll known - you won't have to come on here seeking validation. This, however, comes with learning to trust yourself, and the only way to do this is to learn listening attentively to your intuition.

My guess is what you said above was the most truthful you've been to her in a long while, to yourself more importantly. Playing it 'cool'/cocky funny etc is just more inauthentic crap. Why be with somebody if you have to ACT like someone else? This is why a lot of guys on this board keep scratching their heads as to why they can't get far in LTRs. Be yourself, you'll attract the person you're looking for, don't even worry about that it WILL happen. But using routines and techniques to try and overcompensate to some imagined deficiencies in your personality...the only person you're fooling is yourself. You'll never grow as a person.

you continue to confuse attraction psychology with relationship psychology. they are separate; each harms the other. you continue to espouse relationship psychology in scenarios where attraction psychology is called for. your advice is consistently the human equivalent of a bird not doing a mating dance and somehow expecting to reproduce.

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You must be overconfident and cocksure, even if you haven't got a god damn thing in the world going for you. And you must fail with women until you do not fear the possibility of failure, whereupon you will succeed wildly.