With texting, a new definition of value is created. Throughout history and politics, power has been defined as the ability to influence or direct the behavior of others. Now, power is defined as someone waiting on you for a text message response.

There’s always a palpable power struggle during a texting conversation. Every time you send a text message, there is always a possibility that you will be ignored.

No matter how important you think your text is, the receivers can just put their phones in their pockets and disregard your existence. This kind of thing can’t happen in real life. Someone can’t ignore you when you’re face-to-face.

So, because we (unfortunately) live in a world in which vulnerability is weakness and a lack of power, sending a text means you just lost a little bit of power. Whoever receives your text has your vulnerability in his or her hands and therefore has the power.

The more time that passes without a response, the more power the receiver has. It’s just the science of texting.

What’s worse is that you won’t even realize you’re being ignored until hours later when you still haven’t received a answer. Your anxiety will have just been building upon itself for hours until it crumbles into a feeling of abandonment and shame. You’ll be on edge until you get — or don’t get — an answer.

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Use text to schedule meetups. If a girl isn't invested enough in you to engage in a little (TINY, BRIEF) text convo before the scheduling of said meetup, move on to other girls.

You're stating a problem without even giving a solution.

I'm going to guess you prefer Mail-by-Pigeon

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Just a series of thoughts that I had. Stated with the goal of starting a discussion on the subject. My new game plan is to always call and never text

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I prefer a quick text exchange to make meet up plans. Calling lately doesn't work out too well for me. I'm a really energetic guy and while face to face convos go really well, phone convos don't as it's harder for me to tell when to jump in and say something. Though I'll admit, some girls are easier to talk to over the phone than others

I somewhat agree, not for all the same reasons. I do think texting should be limited until maybe after sex. In this day and age its quite hard, as SPAM is such a cockblock in many ways.

I've tried the calling method, didnt work for me personally, always say they'll meet or seem interested. The only thing that worked for me was the initial interaction. I have a feeling something about the interraction stuck in her mind. Basically what i'm saying first impressions count.

Think about when you meet someone, you have initial impression and they change slightly as you get to know someone. Depending how you play your cards better or worse

That's why texting sort of plays on that first interaction...it lets her continue her fantasy of you that you set during the rl interaction. Calling can fuck it up because it is a different medium. When she meets you in RL, be on point as you were when you got her # and all is good.

Hey guys, Although I'm a college student, I'm an old fashioned guy. I do not like texting, do not have any social media sites, ect.

So anyway, if I N-close a girl, is it okay to call her? (We're talking about the college HB's)

Even if I get a few "No that is a horrible idea" I may give it a try anyway but I just wanted to get your input.

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It's whatever you're most comfortable with

Anxiety is not a good enough reason to avoid texting (it's not a good enough reason for anything). Excessive or compulsive texting is always a bad idea, but if you're doing it for the right reasons -- to keep the energy flowing, and to have fun -- it is an excellent tool.

Alot of young guys dont even have the balls to call anymore so it would work in your favor.

A lot of girls get sucked into this frame where they think whoever is investing less in the interaction is displaying more social value. By calling, you break out of that frame, it's like saying "I don't give a fuck about social norms, I thought you were cute when we met and I liked you, and I'm taking action."

Once you show her it's ok to invest, she might stop playing the game we all know too well-- whoever takes longer to answer the text is cooler.

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Stop being "perfect." It's time to evolve.

thats how a low value man would view texting. you need to text if you want to text, and if she ignores you its probably no big deal. texts can be opened and forgotten or lost or not received. you need to text with confidence, with assurance. just as if your having a fun conversation with her. honestly, when i know a girls just ignoring me. i move on. nothing wrong with that at all.

No joke I had a HB throw away any chance of meeting with me because I called her.

Her loss but what kind of loser can't stomach a phone call? Haha Next/

calling kinda comes off as needy in some situations. its all texting now. its weird and needy to call