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PostPosted: Thu Feb 05, 2015 12:16 am 
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So i'm no pro and still have my fails when approaching women but i'm curious as to how you can get them to approach you? Like is it by looks or is it something you display? I've only ever had three girls approach me in my life but i wouldn't mind more lol Like it'd be kind of cool and make me feel pretty great if for once i was approached. So any info on that would help thanks guys.


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PostPosted: Thu Feb 05, 2015 10:15 am 
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Attractive girls get approached 1000 times a day; they have the power in that aspect; they don't need to approach random guys. This means that for a girl to make the effort approach you, she must be really attracted to you. As we all know, attraction is defined by many things: social status, wealth, aesthetics, attitude... So just be the best you can be, I guess.

Still, girls would rather be approached than approach, so it would not be wise to rely on that.

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PostPosted: Fri Feb 06, 2015 9:13 pm 
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You can be your best self and women are more likely to approach you but I wouldn't depend on that.

You are better off learning to approach women than learning how to get them to approach you.

If you really want to know how to improve your chances though,
Come off as a leader, attractive, comfortable and make eye contact with her on occasion, and maybe walk by her at some point.
The reality is I have talked to many women about this and they all have a similar answer of: when a girl approaches a guy every other girl looks at her like a slut (atleast in their mind) and they have just as much of a fear of being turned down as we do.


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So i'm no pro and still have my fails when approaching women but i'm curious as to how you can get them to approach you? Like is it by looks or is it something you display? I've only ever had three girls approach me in my life but i wouldn't mind more lol Like it'd be kind of cool and make me feel pretty great if for once i was approached. So any info on that would help thanks guys.
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So i'm no pro and still have my fails when approaching women but i'm curious as to how you can get them to approach you? Like is it by looks or is it something you display? I've only ever had three girls approach me in my life but i wouldn't mind more lol Like it'd be kind of cool and make me feel pretty great if for once i was approached. So any info on that would help thanks guys.
Unfortunately getting LOTS of women to approach you is always going to be difficult.

"Peacocking" by wearing something noticeably different will help, but even then you'll only get the odd woman approaching.

Even the tall, handsome guys will get only a HANDFUL of girls who approach them, although they will often get better IOI's and chances to approach etc. And even then, it's likely to be girls lower down on the looks scale who are just trying their hand to see if they get lucky.

Anyway you put it, you're going to HAVE to approach frequently for success.


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PostPosted: Fri Feb 20, 2015 3:59 pm 
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everyone gave really solid honest advice. i can only emphasize that as an adult social status is your biggest opportunity a genuine approach that you want. that can be anything from local celebrity to having a really good job or just being the person of honor at an event.


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I would really say, that while money, social status or good looks are important,
they are not the defining factor that will determine whether or not a woman will
be attracted to you or not.

In all the studies where women are asked what they are looking for in a guy, none of those qualities
ever reach the top list.

What gets to the top list is CONFIDENCE.

There is just something about a guy with confidence that makes women melt.

So if you want women to approach you, work on being more confident and comfortable with yourself.

In my past, when I was all tight-up and serious, I never had women approach me.

Now, women approach me all the time.

If I'm in the store, I'm loud and ask questions. If I'm in line waiting for a cinema ticket, I talk with
my friend out loud and have fun.

And almost always I have women talk to me.

Recently I stood in line to get into this club with 2 other girls, and I had my gloves on. And all of the sudden,
this woman behind me said, "Wow you look really scary with those gloves on...it's like you're a hitman or
something..."


I laughed and very casually started talking with her, taking off my gloves and giving it to her to try them on.

We really hit it off and had a drink later in the club.

So in essence, if you want to be approached by women, be approachable.

Don't be rigid, overly insecure or self-conscious.

The more relaxed and casual you can be, the more women will approach you.

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Do you daygame or nightgame? For daygame I wore a tinfoil hat... It worked.

I had about 5 different girls approach me. One I N-closed and took on an insta-date. I was in super "I don't give a fuck if you reject me" mode though. I was just in state.

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You should be approaching girls though.

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From what I experienced they rarely approach you, because they are women, they are used to guys approaching them and they have fun when they see men struggling to get them, and some of them even if they are crazy attracted to someone won't approach because they experience at least 2 times more anxiety than men do. Women also never approach as we do, they will do it softly, sometimes you won't even notice that she might be interested in you. When a woman is going to speak with you out of the blue, topics don't quite matter(they are pretty insecure), initiate conversation a lot more often than you do and seek for your approval in a lot of matters, then you know she's attracted to you.

And to answer your question, if you still want to be approached you must create yourself a image in their minds, looks don't matter to much, but first imagine yourself as the prize, they are damn lucky to be with you. With this mindset you start, then show them your uniqueness, your awkwardness, you don't give a f**k what they say or think about you, you are you and they cannot change that(you have to prove that), you don't have to be nice, you don't have to behave, you don't have to do anything for them, they have do it for you, and you'll reward good behaviour and ignore bad one, they hate the most to be ignored, and they also become easily jealous when they see you speaking with other women, it's a pattern in their mind which tells them to like the man who is surrounded by other women or who is making them laugh. Remember, you are the prize, you are the one making the choices and they are competing for your attention, don't let them have it easily, don't rush to answer messages, don't help them immediately if they ask for it, don't follow them like a puppy, it's their job not yours. They won't necessarily approach but you'll be surrounded by them and have their attention, which will make it a lot easier.


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The reason this seems so unfathomable is because when you assume something is strange, difficult, or out of reach, you are going to behave accordingly.

I get girls to approach me all the time. Not because I am super attractive, or better. But because i assume its completely fine, and I allow myself to be creative with it.

Im quite lazy when it comes to running after girls, so the less amount of output the better. For example, yesterday i was in a supermarket food court, in the canned food section. I saw a gorgeous girl at the end of the isle.

i said "psssst" like i was whispering. I put a shocked look on my face and pointed at some food, THEN i waved her to come over(i do this everywhere ie bars clubs street etc, especially if im sitting down, fuck standing, the way i see it is she will be more comfortable to join me anyway)

Any way, back to the story. She walked over to me intrested asking "whats up?" while whispering. I then whispered to her asking why she was whispering. She laughed, and i said thanks for coming over to hit on me, im Chris.

Done!

This stuff is only as weird and difficult as you make it. Sort out some principles and everything is rosey. most pua stuff is taught and fed to the individual on the basis of you are not good enough and worthy, therefore must get better. Its weak, and breeds longterm unhappiness and confusion in many guys.

Or...just wear a tinfoil hat?

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Always be giving value. Don't be an emotional leech.

But like others are saying, you have to be comfortable with approaching and then you'll see more girls approaching you. Tell yourself and believe you are an approachable attractive man that gives people value.

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