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| Icenberg | PostPosted: Tue Feb 10, 2015 9:24 am | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Sun Dec 21, 2014 11:22 am Posts: 16 | | I want to be in the friendzone
Met a girl six months ago but she lives like 6 hours away. We dated a little, had sex and all that. Saw each other last time in December. Planned to meet up in march, but 10 days ago she said she couldn't really see us happening as a couple, but would still be interested seeing me in march as we planned a hike up a big mountain that we both would love to do. It came as a bit of a shock to me that she dropped me like that, so instead of agreeing to go, I said "let's just drop everything now, it's no point".
A week ago I realized I made a mistake. This girl is more active with my type of interests than any of my friends, she has a huge network with hot friends in her city, and it's a capital for crazy mountain trips. I wouldn't mind still keeping contact with her as a friend. I wrote her that same day that "I'm sorry I got bitter when you rejected me. Took a few steps back and realized that I would really apreaciate staying friends. I think we have many great trips planned in the future, and would love to do them, but most of all I don't want to lose you as a friend."
She didn't reply to this. The day after I got a random snapchat pic from her and I replied with something random back, but that's the only contact we've had the last week. We used to talk every day before that.
How do I approach establishing a friendship and get her to talk to me again? Just start to send random harmless snaps? Snap something we have in comon or just write "hey" on Facebook chat to see?
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| Eddie Fews | PostPosted: Tue Feb 10, 2015 2:14 pm | |
| Offline | | Read My Book |  | Joined: Thu Jun 27, 2013 8:08 pm Posts: 5028 Website: http://www.EddieFews.com Location: New York City | | Stop dude. Just stop.
Why would you want to be friends with someone who doesn't want anything to do with you? Where the hell if your self respect? And who on Gods earth wants to be friends with someone who doesn't have any self respect?
She may contact you if you just chill and move on with your life. But every time you reach out to her you reset the clock.
Don't contact her anymore. Just wait and she'll come around eventually.
She is responding to your current state and so if you want to rebuild a friendship you have to first rebuild your state. And thats going to take you spending some quality time alone and with other quality people. Focusing on making you better first. _________________ Need Coaching? For 1 on 1 Coaching via SPAM, Phone or Instant Messenger - Email: EddieFews@Gmail.com
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| fudge_88 | PostPosted: Tue Feb 10, 2015 2:45 pm | |
| Offline | | Dedicated Member |  | Joined: Thu May 08, 2014 7:31 pm Posts: 612 Website: http://www.limitlifter.com/work-from-home-now.html Location: Planeswalker | | Read dale Carnegie's how to win friends and influence people. Then use the principles on her. If she doesn't respond... O well at least you have more tools to get other friends. _________________ I am a hunter of human excellence. I seek out those individuals who break the norms
and demonstrate to all of us what’s really possible. I learn what those few
extraordinary individuals do that’s different from everybody else, and then emulate
them.
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