Started seeing this girl, she has told me she really likes me and is all over me, all she wants to do in the clubs is make out the whole night lol.

She's told me she's not looking for a ONS which is cool with me but she seems reluctant to progress to 3rd and 4th base SPAM. (Admittedly I've only been seeing her for a week but going on a date tonight)

When we've gone back to hers (twice now) she is happy to make out in bed, entwines her legs between mine but I can tell she doesnt want me escalating for anything more just yet,instead preferring to cuddle and spoon. Last night I was gently stroking her belly and chest near her breasts when she laughed saying it was ticklish but I think was her subtle way of preventing further escalation.

How can I get her to be more comfortable with getting intimate and progress to 3rd and 4th?

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When she says it's ticklish, blatantly blowfish her stomach and laugh at her face.

It will set the mood.

I'm completely joking BTW - don't do that.

Tony's right... sounds like she'd actually be fine with your escalation if you tried and pushed it. If she says no or stop, then STOP.

I'm assuming you are getting rejected when you just try to take off her top etc. Sometimes, you have no choice but to call her out on it. Just say something like: "What are you afraid of?" And start emphasizing how attracted you are to her and are disappointed that she is not as attracted to you.

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I would have asked 'are your boobies ticklish too?' and tickle them.

Every time she says she doesn't want to go further right now, agree with her, but don't stop unless she stops you. Then quit for a few, back off. Rinse repeat.

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Talk to her man.

I never understand why guys shut down and mentally try to come up with a way to get what they want instead of communicating to the woman they are in bed with. A woman will do anything for you if you just know how to talk to her in the moments when you have that " I want to say something" feeling in your gut.

Just ask her man.. Tell her how you feel. Let her know that cuddling is not what you want to do; its what SHE wants and there should be some form of reciprocation if she wants you to come back to her place. If she says she's not comfortable with sex yet, then you let her know that you're not comfortable being in bed with someone who arouses you sexually but won't sleep with you. So suggest that you guys just stay to outdoor activities until she feels more comfortable.

You just have to talk to these women man. Its what they want, and they respond by giving us what we want. Simple.

I find too many guys are trying to sneakily go through the back door with women. Thats why so many resent them after sex. Go straight up man. It makes for better, more open sex, and a deeper experience.

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Thanks to everyone for your replies.

I have now f-closed her...turns out it was that time of the month and she isn't comfortable with sex when she's on her period. Anyway just persisted and followed your advice, and in the end 2 days later she ended up texting me a day later really horny and banged the shit out of me.

Thanks again amigos

TAM

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