Hi I have a freeze out dilemma.

Here's the whole story, been with a girl about 6 months now and everything was fantastic. I suggested going for a weekend trip to another country and she seemed up for it. A week later I booked it and told her we were going, she was shocked but I asked her if she didn't want to go but she said she did. We had one more normal interaction where she was cold and then she froze me out for a week and a half. I was really Beta during this time and sent her more than a few unanswered messages big mistake I realise now. After 1 and half weeks we met and she said she didnt know if she wanted to meet anymore and didn't want to go on the trip. I kept my cool even though I was hurting and said "ok".

She is not going to have all the power!

The day after I ask my hot friend to post on my time line " have a nice trip and I look forward to hearing your stories " this was my test to see if she would be jealous her reaction was almost immediate. She sent me this message

" I saw your friend is excited about your trip, maybe you could invite her, or maybe your ex-girldfriend, I couldn´t have noticed that she has been liking everything you do... anyway enjoy it"

I decided not to reply and have started to freeze her out as she also has no idea who is taking the free ticket. Is this right thing to do? Opinions appreciated:-) it's been two days so far and no contact either side

There you go, great springboard to an honest healthy conversation which is what you should have with her, as was previously mentioned. Just talk to her (in a non-needy way) about your concerns, what freaked her out so bad about the trip, etc. This is how you a healthy relationship should be. I agree also, don't game your girlfrined, just talk and fins common ground

Thanks Again guys, she wants to meet up and she's happy about it. Could anybody reccomend any good material for staying alpha in a relationship or something similar. I have no problems getting a girl, it's the keeping them that I need to improve on

ok, heres what you did wrong in the first place. you booked the trip without really confirming that with her which seemed really eager and needy. and heres what you need to do now. move on. talk to that hot friend you were talking about. stop trying to make her jealous. it may work for a day or 2 but then shell remember how needy and posessive you were when you sent those unanswered texts. and shell dump you. if it makes you any feel better. I'm moving on right now. i have a gf problem and I'm moving on. she told me she doesn't like me anymore. plain and simple. idc if she meant it or if it was just a shit test. i don't wanna hear it. I'm moving on. you should do the same. it makes you feel like a better man.

You're in over your head.

Freeze-outs and other manipulation tactics do not work long term.

Evoking each other's jealousy is the best way to a toxic relationship.

I literally cringed when I read "She is not going to have all the power!"

Gross.