Its been one and a half years with this girl. Whom I believe to be the love of my life. Whom was the one and only girl out of many that I've wanted to settle down with and marry.
The first time we broke up was because I lied to her about doing drugs, and over an incident where my anger got out of control, and I ended up grabbing her jacket which scared her... She broke up with me and I begged for her back, sending 1000 texts throughout the night, crying and telling her I'd change.
She decided we'd go on a break, than got back together...

For some reason for the past few weeks, I've been realizing that she didn't seem to care what I did and gave me very dry attention... I shrugged it off, and decided to buy her a bunch of roses and take her out to breakfast...
The next day, I brought it up to her, and she basically told me she was falling out of love with me... I cried and told her I was gonna leave, and to never contact me again... She started crying and begged me to stay... She slept over my house that day and in the morning, she acted as if nothing happened... As if her saying 'I'm falling out of love with you' didn't hurt me...

Things escalated and I initiated the break up, and she didn't seem to have a problem with us breaking up... It really hurt me... There are many reasons as to why she wanted to break up such as our differences in views and all this other bullshit...and it was just confusing me, so I wont talk about it...
But one thing she said to me that really made me think that girls are fucking crazy is when she said 'I was falling out of love with you, but when you bought me those roses, it made me change my feelings'... I'm thinking 'So everything else I've done for you doesn't matter, and me buying you roses shouldn't make you love me more if you're truly in love with me...

Anyways this time, as much as it hurt that we were broken up... I broke all contact with her... I wouldn't become that pathetic begger ever again. Today is the third day, and although I get lonely at times, and wonder why she just wouldn't love me, I am coping... I am doing this to teach her a lesson that she can't just throw away a prize like me, but for these past few days... She texts me 'goodnight' and I haven't responded... It's all just confusing to me whether I should move on or not.
What should I do... I love her so much and wish we could be together again, but don't feel like she deserves me, if shes just gonna throw me away like that... I am so hurt and confused right now.

I know I can talk to other girls and fuck them... but it just doesn't feel right. I really planned on marrying this girl and traveling the world. Should I text her back, or punish her by ignoring her? And if so, for how long?
I'm afraid I would actually take her back...

she texted me goodnight on the first day and i said 'follow your heart'
the second day she said goodnight again...' no answer'
today is the third day and she said goodnight and I don't know if i should answer!

If you're interested in her still then answer. It's not rocket science.

hi seej, you sound really young. i'm going to give you some pointers that will hopefully help you out:

1. never cry in front of a woman again unless someone you love has died.
2. never beg for a woman to take you back again. it's the exact opposite of what works.
3. never buy a woman a bunch of roses again unless it is a completely random act and has nothing to do with a fight or a birthday or anything like that whatsoever.
4. never tell a woman "i love you" for the first time until after she has said it to you.
5. never do more for a woman than what she'll do for you. don't go out of your way. again, it's counterproductive.
6. never get back together with a woman who has broken up with you. this is very difficult to do in the beginning but you *must* love yourself more than any girlfriend. until you have learned to do this, you should not be in relationships to begin with. there are *always* better girls out there. always.

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Thank you Chantos
I am 19 years old...
It's really difficult for me as this is my first major break up... I know I shouldn't feel guilty for going to the gym with a girl, and posting a picture of a friend in her underwear (I do photography), but my ex makes me feel so guilty...
She texted me and told me how bad of a person I was for posting that picture up, and intentionally hurting her... But I've always wanted to post that photo and although I knew that it would hurt her, I thought it was okay cause she knew breaking up with me would hurt me but still did it.

I know I shouldn't feel bad because she broke my heart and decided to leave me, but I feel like she's making a really big mistake and she's going to eventually come back to me.
I told her "I'd be waiting" and feel really pathetic for saying that... But I never wanted this break up, and still love her.
I'm doing the best I can to move on by seeing other girls, going to the gym, working hard but I feel afraid to leave her behind and just forget about everything...
I'm beginning to think that romance is just fiction.
Many would say to just go sleep with someone else... but I can't, because it doesn't feel right...
Please...
Someone help me...

I can't even get a boner anymore and my sex drive is just gone... Everytime I watch Porn to try to masterbate, she keeps coming into my mind.

She is playing with you, my man.

She will lose interest, the moment you reply her. You are just replacement, for someone else. Woman/men will NEVER give up in a relationship like that, unless something is off.

You need to realize that. If she wants YOU back, SHE must prove it first. Meanwhile, keep it calm and enjoy your time with other girls.

Please don't listen to anything Chantos is peddling, he has no clue as to what he's talking about.

@n2thevoid
Whats wrong with what he's saying?

It's all ego based and far removed from being yourself. Focuses primarily on power differentials and fear based. It's a sure-fire way of building an adversarial relationship with your partner. Great way to stay perpetually single.

I know some people will tell you to let her go. If she comes back, she's yours...

...but...

...when you think about it, if she comes back, it's because no one else wanted her.

Everyone needs a relationship like this to fall apart so they can find out what they really want.

Everyone also needs to disregard valuable advice to discover they should've taken that advice in the first place.

So...do what you want.

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This. These advices work well for a reason. Been there. Done that. Why do these work? It's evolution.

Matriarchal civilizations failed to survive in the past. It will not take a few decades of feminism to reverse the genetic coding of several tens of thousands of years of patriarchal civilizations which brought the human race to its dominant position right now.

You have to fulfill your duty and obligation (and stick to your gender role as a man) for the team called the human race. We love women. I just don't agree with the few women who want to make all women masculine and all men feminine. Survival of the species. Do your duty for the human race.

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@Dr. Jones
I feel pathetic and not good enough... Sadly, this girl is in high demand, and there are always guys attracted to her.
She needs a relationship to fall like this to find out what she really wants...
I've been incarcerated, in rehab multiple times, being addicted to drugs, lost all my friends & family... I think I know what I want and what I don't want.

What advice do you have to give(Regardless if i take it or not, what would you do)? Have you been in this situation before?
I've been crying all day like a little bitch, and even though I said I wouldn't beg, I did and she didn't answer.
She seems to be having the time of her life on her social media, and I wonder if she even cares.
She made it clear that she's moving on, but I'm having a hard-time accepting it, and keep thinking this is just a phase and she'll come back...

Please help guys... I've been secretly doing heroin again as it's the only thing that numbs me. An older friend of mine invited me to go on a trip to LA and many other places, but I have school to go to, and although I really need the time to be free and love life, I feel like I have to finish this silly 1 year course. What would you guys do?

Drop the FUCKING heroin and enrol in a MMA or Kyokushin Karate class. Get an endorphin high naturally and pump up your testosterone so loads of women will get naturally attracted to you. Exercise through competition sports will cure your depression, get you busy and make you more attractive. Do NOT destroy yourself with heroin. There's lots of pussy to bang.

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