Hey guys
Recently my relationship with my GF of 6months has hit a real rough patch. With our busy schedules we usually hang out maybe once a week over the weekend.

She says she’s been feeling pressured lately, due to work, coming over on weekend to see me (She lives 2 hours away) & health reasons but mainly due to her absent deadbeat father, who is causing her a lot of emotional stress. She decided recently to cut her father out of her life completely but is extremely emotional about it.

So now when we have been together, she’s been a totally different person: cold, moody, boring…etc. I told her I’m not going to tolerate this behaviour anymore, and that she needs to sort all this shit out for herself. She says she needs to take a few weeks to deal with this & focus on herself and take a bit of a break from me. However she says she still wants to txt me once in a while to see how i am going.

How do i be in control & go about this break? And how do i go about responding to her when she txts me? do i even respond to her? any advice?

much appreciated guys

ps. I am not contacting her at all. Im busy doing my own thing, even meeting other girls.

"I respect your need for seeking clarity in your life right now, I support you in this."

In the mean time get on with your life, she has bigger fish to fry which likely doesn't involve you at all. Let her contact you, but there's nothing wrong with checking in with her every few days/week as you see fit.

If you like her, definitely respond to her, don't be pouty or aloof. She's contacting you because she likely has a need for connection/understanding and by not responding to it you'll only create more distance between the two of you. Here's an opportunity to turn things around by giving the GIFT of space (for both of you) and compassion (offering her an ear in her moment of need).

I agree with n2's advice, here are my 2cents.... 2 hours distance, health issues and busy work schedules, mean that father stuff aside, it's going to be tough to get this relationship back on track. Whatever you decide to do or how you decide to act, if you would like to continue a relationship with her after the break, figure out a plan to mitigate the distance and other stuff. This break could easily be the slow break up so just realize that.

Hilarious. Why do you want a gf if you aren't even going to attempt to support her.