When I was in college i was not smooth with the ladies for the first 3 years I was there. I read the game frequented PUA sights and looked at tones of so called fool proof ways to attract girls. I tried the trick I got in great shape I dressed well looked halfway decent tried the tricks again learned impressive skills nothing worked. I couldn't figure it out. However something happened that opened my eyes.

Third year in college I was required to take the Myers Briggs personality test for a class. I turned out to be an INFJ which is the rarest type in the world. That got me thinking maybe I should take a new approach. I be came the quiet confidant person.

I was not shy but I didn't say much. I was cool cam and collective all the time instead of courting attention I kept to myself and only spoke when I had something very intelligent and important t say. I became the intelligent mysterious cool calm and collected guy.

Immediately I started getting hit on instead of me going after girls they were coming to me. I didn't say much but when I did people knew it was important and listened. I was still polite and open and displayed confidence just didn't talk much. Girls would come up to me brush against me intentionally and smile at me. One time when I was in a store I had a girl almost begging me to let her show me around the store. Grabbing a GF was no problem. She was an exchange student so sadly we broke up after she left.

The point is the PUA tricks are not fool proof tricks if you don't have the right personality. There some set in stone rules here but take everything with a grain of salt and find what complements your natural personality that will give you the best results.

Any time anyone says they have a "fool proof" method for pick up they are lying. Period. You can do things that greatly reduces or increases your chances, but nothing is guaranteed. And some people are more suited for certain types of game etc.

When guys post on these forums "I'm just getting into game, should I do night game or day game? Should I go direct or indirect? etc. I want to scream at them "Do it all and see what works!"

Yeah I was new once. As with anything you have to become the master of failure before you can succeed (failure is an important learning tool). People worry about being losers and having their pride hurt and I can tell you if I have learned one thing in my life the only real losers are the ones that don't try.

All of those PUA tactics, are for the PUAG that created them, and they work with them be cause of them personality, the best thing that i learned it's take all of those tactics, learned them and only stay with the things that fit with your own personality, and of course like breedlove465 said, you gotta do it all, and see what works with you.

Yes the key is to not give up and to learn from mistakes. Some guys try out a certain method, it doesn't work on the first try and their brain - trying to protect them - says "NONE OF THIS WORKS" and they don't do what the OP did which is to go back to the drawing board, re-assess and MODIFY.

The secret is take action-modify-take action-modify-take action-modify-take action-modify-take action-modify-take action-modify-take action-modify-take action-modify until the results are there.

Everyone should have their own tactics at which he feels good.

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To the OP,

I'm not too different from yourself being an INTJ so I understand where you are coming from.

Though I agree there is no fool proof method because we are all individuals, not just personality types, I don't agree with the idea of just "trying everything". An introvert is unlikely to be successful in nightclubs because the environment makes them nervous.

People naturally gravitate to environments or social situations that makes them feel comfortable. I think it is more about the best way to go about it that will at least make the successes outweigh the failures.

I have no idea what INTJ means. but you just worked on what they call "inner game"

Here is a basic run down:

Myers Brigg personality test gives you one of two letters on four dimensions so there are 16 different personality types:

http://www.personalitypage.com/html/high-level.html

I am

Introverted
iNtuitive
Thinking
Judging

In regards to Myer Briggs test, most psychologist consider is mostly BS. Just be aware of that.

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Its not the PUA "tactics" that make the pick up

Its the PUA "Principles" that make a pua.

what are does principles?

Good body language

Confidence

Social calibration

Eye contact

Flirting

Kino

Leading

Threading

Good vibes/Good conversations

Teasing

AMOG

Empathy

Vulnerability

Social Proof

Leader of Men

Jealousy Plotlines

Merging sets

Wingmanship

not bullshit.

You need all that to be a PUA

You cant fake any of this shit and get far.

Is not rocket science

And i have to say, getting girls if tought properly, can be very easy.

Combine these principles with a balanced life and apply them infield, you will rock.

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For the purposes of this forum, the point I really want to make is that I think it is useful to have at least some level of basic self-awareness. Obviously cold-approaching won't be successful every time and there will always be some level of anxiety. Having awareness of a situation that makes a person feel at least reasonably comfortable that they will get a 75-80% success must surely be a good thing.

I think the second point is to be comfortable in your own skin and be proud of who you are.

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A COLD APPROACH if you are calibrated. The girl warms up immediately and instantly. Go into this shit with a warm smooth vibe, expecting the girl will feed off of this and all will be good fellas. Will you 'hook' every girl? No one on this globe does, so pay no mind to trying to do that. Spread your chill vibe around and overall the girls will dig you.

A guy has to ask himself, is he:

1) In this to fit into the boxed template of meet some woman, sex her and her only, have some kids etc.

2) In this to spread his smooth vibe to a bunch of down ass chix who want to feel his positive energy.

Any guy needs to answer these questions first and then if he fits into the second group to keep in mind that women don't mind at all and a lot of times prefer a dude who isn't ready to settle down 'yet'.

This.

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