Never posted on relationships before and i hope to never do it again lmfao

so i fucked up and let this girl get my heart....and she ended up breaking it multiple times in 1 month....basically we were talking and having alot of fun, finding out we had ALOT in common and just enjoyign the time talking to each other...THen one day she told me she was going out with this guy....at the time i didn't see him as a threat because i was taking up alot of her time (through texting cause she was home for Christmas break....so a week later she came back here and we spent everyday together, but told me her (now boyfriend) was coming to see her that weekend....long story short, it pissed me off and she end up losing her virginity to this dude (because she just wanted to get it over with) and now she doesn't like sex and lost all feelings for the dude........

anyway it's been a while since i felt this way about a girl so i was there to pick up the remains (im so fucking stupid) and ended up spending even more time with her the next week (last week) Tuesday she told me she doesn't want a relationship but she likes the way i touch her and hug her and the way we hang out together, and she wanted me to wait for her. i really care about this girl to the point i let her use my xbox in her dorm just so she wouldn't be bored....anyway we went out again that firday and she told me the exact opposite....saying she wants us to be friends (still doing the touching and hugging and flirting) but she wants me to talk to other girls....BUT since then things have been different she hasn't been the same as has really been pissing me off recently...also i noticed she's been texting that dude again

no way in hell i want a relationship with this girl anymore BUT i don't want to lose her to some other guy, how can i get her back? to actually caring? To liking me and seeing me as a serious option for a relationship?


P.s i am talking to other girls, infact one stays in her dorm......

Also i know the best thing is to just leave and forget about her....BUT can you give me another option?

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie

I think you need to decide what you want.

Re-read that quote...

Your dangerously close to violating the forum rules.

Was just about to write that, detox.

I've moved this to general questions...

Please read the relationship sub-forum rules. This is not your girlfriend, and you're asking how to make her your girlfriend.

oh im sorry i thought relationships were a part on here that helps you w meaning i want her to see me as a romantic option not just a friend


and im sorry i thought "relationships" was for people you actually love and stuff

and the other forums were for girls you're just trying to have sex with..............oh and thanks for the help..........

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie

One thing I notice earlier in my game was that when I was with a girl that I valued higher than an average girl. I placed her on a pedestal and completely got out of my game mindset.. Make sure you are always in your game with any girl you are with.

Starkz

#1. Stop caring.

#2. She's telling you how to fuck her.
She's saying stop being needy, push my sexual buttons and you'll win the prize.

You be the prize.

Press further with touching, tell her all the dirty things you would do to her.

If she says 'We shouldn't be doing this!' Agree but don't stop. (If she says stop or pushes you away, then fucking STOP.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

1)She is basically saying that your escalation was too slow and that she got bored of waiting for you to make a move.
2) WUT?? The xbox?? Never let a girl touch any of your consoles/computers...
Ever considered a threesome?

If she wants to destroy her sexual life with that dude it's none of your business. If she's intelligent enough she'll try to find someone better and you better show her your skills by then!
1) Is she your gf? No. So it shouldn't be your business who she fucks as its none of her business who you fuck.
2)Get her back? You never had her! If you want her to care about you, you have to show her that you are valuable to her!
3) You better decide what you want to do with her quickly, cause believe me she'll move faster than you.
Remember what I said about the threesome?

Thanks......good advice

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie

But for real... you can be a really nice guy, but the thing you have to remember is that you are the man. You make the moves. She complies you make decisions

This is gold.

Hey dude this is almost spooky you helped me out quite sometime with a similar situation.

Anyway I think your feelings for this girl are majorly blurring your vison. Think about it if you didn't fall so hard for this girl you'd probably know exactly what to do. Anyway I'm guessing you want her as a gf (correct me if I'm wrong) so I'm gonna break it down step by step for you. Something I wish someone would have done for me when my vison was clouded would have saved me a from a severe oneitis.

Step 1) you over pursused so back off no contact get busy meeting other women you have to get your mind off her.

Step 2) when she does call don't waste time with pointless banter. If she doesn't bring up getting together within the 1st 2-3 texts say so I assume you wanna get together? If she gives a wishy washy response say well I gotta run it was great hearing from you keep in touch and get off the phone.

Step 3) she does want to meet up, but won't make definite plans ie: she's coming to your place tuesday 8pm for drinks. There's too much room for her to flake say ok we'll do it another time give me a call when your schedule's a little more definite and get off the phone.

Step 4) you've gone out had a good time. Hit her up a week later to set up another date no text, calls, fb in between NOTHING!! The phone is to be used to set up dates nothing else!!

Step 5) repeat step 4 eventually as you show your masculine qualities she's gonna develop stronger feelings for you and is not gonna want to wait an entire week to see you she's gonna start texting or calling the next day. When she does take that opportunity to set up a date because that's what she wants, and is hoping you will take a hint.

Trouble shooting: looks like you've already got the ljbf so what you do from here when you're talking to her whether it be on the phone or in person if she suggests anything other than what you want ie: I'm not ready fro a relationship, but I wanna be friends. Or I just wanna be friends. You say this exactly I think you're a great girl I like you, but I'm not interested in friendship I'm only interested in you romantically. If you only wanna be friends then its best that I see people that are looking for the same things as me, but if you change your mind give me a call. Then you walk away and never look back. You showing the alpha quality of walking away and not settling for less than what you want will cause her interest to sky rocket in you and she'll hit you up. At which point follow the above steps.

I can't in good concious type this out and take credit for it I learned this from Corey Wayne's book, and everything I just told you I used to get my ex back, and I got her back follow what I said and you'll be golden!

Thanks Guys, this is amazing advice.....Imma try to do what you all said, I got this really nice looking girl's number today, HUge ass!!!

but foreal thanks, i think my sights are blinded from how i THINK i feel about this girl....just rarely found a girl i actually enjoy talking to before her.

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie

She is very, very clearly telling you she wants to be FWBs.... which frankly is much better than GF, IMO.
I honestly can't see the problem. At all. This is literally the perfect position to be in. I have to very carefully frame and maneuver things to GET myself into this position with most girls.

She's telling you, "I want you to fuck me, and we'll see where things go from there".

Also, be very glad she lost her virginity. It's much easier to sleep with a girl after this. Much easier. Basically, all you need to do is be alone with her, and get her horny. It doesn't matter if she intellectually thinks she doesn't like sex. Once she's turned on, her body is telling her otherwise.

Haywood is right. This is really fucking awful advice.
She just told him "I want to explore things physically, but don't want commitment"
So you say
"Oh, yeah!? Well I ONLY want a girlfriend. You commit to me right now, or I'm gonna leave!"
That will almost never work. Alpha doesn't matter. "Alpha" is nearly a non-factor in attraction. Some of the traits matter, but none of those are even in play, here.

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RSDTyler

I misread the fwb part, but I didn't say that nor did I imply that. If a woman is not willing to give you what you want you walk away. You never settle for less than what you want, and if op can't handle an fwb no comitment relationship with her knowing she's gonna be sleeping with other guys because he has feelings for her then for his own well being he's better to walk away, but leave the door open by saying that. Now I misread his post which is my fault, but you misunderstood what I said girl says let's just be friends you say no I'm not interested in friendship, but give me a call if you change your mind. You're not demanding a comitment from her on the spot you're saying if someday down the road she sees you as more than just friends maybe you can pursue a romantic future together, but until then its better I see ppl that are looking for the same things as me.