I am new to the PUA game although I am 51 yrs old. I had been talking/texting etc to a really hot woman I met from a dating website. So our first meeting was at a local casino where she was taking her daughter and some of friends for her daughters birthday. This woman at no time acted like she was really glad to see me. I felt like the whole night "yeah this is gonna be another one of those "' You are a nice guy but I do not feel any chemistry with you'" kind of dates". She was not rude but just not real focused on me or seemingly into me. Her daughter would go from telling me how great her mom was to arguing with her mom and crying about stuff. It felt really weird at times. So this woman basically just played the slots and after several hours of us having light chit chat I suggested several times that we go to a different casino cause Horseshoe was not paying shit. I did not know how to demonstrate value in this situation. I thought about the cat string theory but did not know how to make her work for my attention either. After a while I told her I was tired and that I was going home. She did tell me to text her when I got home so she can know I made it home safe. She just now text me asking if I made it. My idea is to wait about another hour and a half or two hours and text her telling her I went to Hollywood casino or Bally's casino and played the slots there. It seems less lame than just telling her I did in fact go home. I would like to see her again but I don't like feeling or acting like an AFC. Advise? suggestions?
Thanks,
TWP63

This was a bad setup to begin with. When you meet someone for the first time, you need to set the environment up so you are in control. The whole birthday party and daughter being there were barriers where you weren't allowed to build attraction. It's hard to escalate in front of the kids. You don't know if the disconnect was that she wasn't feeling you or if it was her trying to keep up appearances.

In this instance, I wouldn't text her when I got home. I wouldn't text her at all. If she really cares if you got home okay, she'll text you. If she does text or call you, you don't have to make up stories on why you didn't text her...just say that you made it in okay and then immediately tell her that you guys should meet up again and it just be the two of you. If she's not interested, she'll turn you down. If she is interested, you take control of where the two of you are going.

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like other guy said bad set up