in short, i met this girl with two of her friends, ended up getting with one of her friends, the other i have gotten with before.

i realized this is a mistake because i went for the wrong girl. i added all three on facebook, continued to talk to the other two. randomly this one hits me up on facebook and starts a convo. i made sure i have the upper hand here and teased her hard. never to bend over to her will. shes been busting my balls and im wandering if this is a shit test/no interest and how to continue. i froze her out after she ignored my last facebook message, and continued to like status's and comment on her friends pages, which she she would jump the gun and comment. today she texted me asking what my plans are for this event thats going for the next week.

Here is the convo so far:

ME: wtf, did your sunbed break or summing? lol
Her: excuse me!!!!
ME: haha nah whites all gee. u can be my pasty queen XX
her:ewww im not pasty!!
Me: ok u had an asian tan. and dont blame me if im not accurate i was drunk
Her: omggggggg youre evil!!!
Me: im just teasing ya
Her: that's it im gonna go sit in one for like 2 hours if I burn and die its your fault lol
and ill haunt u
Me: ohhh deer. thats a bit weak. u can Haunt me. but ill only allow that on Halloween
Her: id haunt u errrr day
me: solid! hey shouldnt u be at work and not on facey?
HEr: im the manager I do what I want haha
ME: oh since you're the manager, you should come to the XX bay. i wanna go for a swim. this weathers too good to waste
Her: well I have to stay here til 4 haha omg I love XX bay! but im wearing black today so im not dressed for the beach lol if u wana go tomorrow I will
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Her: I'm gonna ignore u for the next million hours
Me: Fine. ill find another blonde sidekick
Her: Hahaha Awww but I'm the best blonde sidekick
Me: HA-HA you're a right cutie.so dont worry ya pretty head. i wont replace ya yet
Her: Haha oh sweet talker trying to hook up with all the girls eh lol
Me: Hey Hey, Who said im trying to hook up with u? i havent figured if yr my type yet
Her: Well I can't be your type anyway cos I'm kinda taken haha And if XX asks u I am totally 100% taken ok
he's a bit keen but I'm not and I feel really bad I said I have a bf but I don't but I'm gonna if that makes sense lol I just don't date white guys I didn't wana say that to him lol
ME: Dont think u got me figured out. there's a lot to me that you dont know. be sure to pack ur most sexiest bikini and not a black dress lol
Her: omgggg hahahah just letting u know that u cant get this so watch your heart LOL
ME: Hahaha 'cute, you think I want that '
Her: nah just making sure haha. just an inkling
Her: I don't mean to sound up myself haha but its just that I have a lot of friends that are boys and they always seem to try cross that line so that's why I just like to make sure. some guys just make me feel like an object sometimes
Her: Im not gonna lie, you're a pretty down to earth chick and i enjoy our banter.. also a bonus that I find you attractive. im a bit curious about you, coz you Interest me something further than just a hermit. If its not reciprocated then itd be unfair for me to continue talking to you when I have 'ulterior motives?
Me: aww thank u that's very kind! I like to think I am down to earth and I do really appreciate when people compliment my inside not just the outside. I really like u to! in a friendly way I could just be my embarrassing idiot self haha but I just do have some other guys that im trying to decide about haha. so are u admitting to ulterior motives?
Me: im just an easy going guy and im confident to go after what i want. i don't really wanna admit to anything. i barely know you, and Facebook banter really aint my style so you're lucky im here more times than i need to be That being said.. you more of a mini golfer or a cafe and beach walker?

little more banter and the convo died from her end. she kept liking status's and writing on posts to get my reaction, but i gave none. im sure im not being childish. any ass-kissing = the friendzone and i feel like i just wanna slam this one and get it over and done with. either shes playing hard to get or shes not. what are your opinions on the interest level and how to proceed?

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She gave a perfect opportunity to close right here. "Sounds gd meet me at Xpm."
I'm sure this is usually the case, however with all respect this isn't the case in the above exchange.

I was once just like the OP, with this roundabout type banter.

I'm sure she knows you & her friend smashed and she possibly wants or wanted a piece. U made it harder than it needed to be.
This is standard banter for 'beating around the bush' game. Inevitably things can get caught up in a back and forth that leads to this sort of a statement from the girl.

With regard to # closes or securing a 'date',

She was pretty interested IMO early in the exchange. To proceed, I'd give it a couple days, tell her you've been busy and close for a meetup or get her # & CALL her to arrange something. If she rejects move on or try again a few days later.

That part about wanting to go the next day didnt happen because a few messages later she said shes going out of town. and whilst out of town she contacted another one of my friends she barely knows wanting a meet-up. and this week she said shes busy and she is staying over at a "Friends place"

TBH, "i was well put off with the i have a few guys that im considering" im actually stil lsteaming over it. how dare tell me that shit, i got girls that im banging, but i dont seem to rub it in her face.

anyhow, today she texted me: hey XX its XX whats your plans for XX next weekend?

i ignored it, i was flat out busy.

then she hits me up on facebook

Her: Did u get my Text today?

Me: Yeh i did

Her: But u didnt answer?

Me: Sorry, Been busy with other stuff, whats up?

Her: That's ok

ME:

Am i being childish here? i actually dont wanna get burnt and used here and im genuinely busy with other stuff and other girls. did i just absolutely ruin this or shall i initiate?

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Ur in a good position IMO. Proceed as you're doing. You will have to lay it on the line at some point and meet up with her. She's obvi still interested. Stay busy, drop in with a note, tell her you're busy, get a meetup scheduled, meet her.

after that last exchange, is it wise for me to initiate the Meet-up? i would usually call. but we have purely done conversations over facebook and text. whats the best plan of attack? its the weekend, im out and about and did my own thing. im sure she did too. i feel that the wink face sent me from "im busy, talk later." To "lets fuck, im all yours"

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i think i might have to let this one slide. either shes a tool or shes just not interested and loves to play games

ME: Hey you, hows the weekend coming along? we should blow this popsicle stand and grab a drink tomorrow

Her: Heloooo sorry i just woke up. i blew the posicle lastnight and im doing it again tonight lol. tomorrow might be out.

ME: haha, u dork. im in your neighbourhood having a few with a mate. who u drinkng with?

Her: oh Yay thats cool, we could meet in town! Me n XX are home getting ready, then we are off to xx place to drink with some boys there haha

Me: Ill txt u when im in town

Her: u Better!

Her: what u upto

Me: XclubX Go Go Go

Me: where are ya? we just got to XclubX

Her: oh we not in town yet

look at her facebook, n i see that shes pt a picture of her and a lad almost kissing...

i met someone i used to see and just left town. is this a complete lost cause now? i feel like we are just playing games with each other. shall i just let her contact me from here and see?

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I would not say a thing to her for a few days; be a mystery; don't be available; if she messages don't reply for 24 hours; maybe meet up with her 1 on 1 on thursday or something; let your weekends be a mystery to her until she meets up w/ you.

Part of her nonchalant attitude is because she knows you already got with her friend so she may be trying to play the 'i'm busy' card to you to be a bit of a challenge. That, or she may genuinely be busy.
I wonder if this has a double-meaning

To be honest, i think it does. also she uploaded those photos at 4.30 in the morning. i dunno why, but i have a feel that most is to get attention or a reaction from me. im definitly not contacting her till she gets me thats my rule and ill stick by it and when she does, i wont be a sore looser. thats afc behavior and would validate the point that shes got it in the bag

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well i think i have blown the lid off this one. shes constantly contacting me and im getting sick of her bringing her boyfriend up every 5 minutes we chat so i had to put her in her place.

Me: what you making me for dinner huh
her: nothing
Me: that is Lame. ill have to find another replacement
Her: haha yes I think you might cos this one is taken
ME: that's just too bad for you
Her: haha not even I wouldn't have it any other way
ME: keep telling yourself that sweetheart
Her: u r such a dick like seriously. I could let loose right now but ill hold my tongue
her: let me give you a tip. you dont have to keep talking about your bf's Because im not dr.phil. Surely you have other things going on other than lads? remember what i said about show-off's?
HER: hahah! your flirty gay little messages just piss me off to be honest so take it how u want shorty!
ME: Ok
Her: maybe you need to go see dr phil yourself
ME: yeah cheers for the heads up
Her: likewise. BTW I got like the best bf ever ever ever ever
ME: yeah best of luck to him. hes landed himself a right headcase
Her: haha jeez that's not very nice
ME: anyways XX, its clear our banter is at two very different places. im a bit busy right now with other shit. ill cu around
Her: haha nah you prob wont
ME: i aint bothered either way. cracks me up how u gotta bring up the BF everytime tho. if he was that great, you wont be trying to justify it every 5 mins
Her: I have to say it because you keep being all flirty and annoying to me like you have no respect that im with someone! and if I wana shout how happy I am with him from the rooftops that's my god given right! So you calling me stuck up shows that your just jealous and bitter. Short man syndrome
ME: short man? im comfortable with myself tho? i dont see any need to justify that to you. i used to think you were a cool girl, but this name calling and shit is so immature. yeah im actually laughing my head off at how insecure and stupid you are. no wander you have to goto the lengths to pick fights with people you barely know and brag about Bf's. i have girls that i screw but you dont see me writing novels about them. trust me im happy that i dodged this bullet
Her: Ew Threatening to spread false rumours about me cos I rejected you
ME: oh trust me i aint threatening. did you actually think i wanted to get with you after getting with xx?
you're disgusting. take some of that make up off so you might not look like one of the wayne brothers from white chicks
Her: Now who's the bully eh. It didn't have to get this far if you could have just been a little bit respectful of me in the first place
Me:i did respect you. you just dont know how to handle the banter and act all juvenile. lemme break this to ya. not every guy that says hi to you or gives a little compliment wants to fuck you. im definitly not on that list trust me

more bs from her and i finally deleted and blocked her ass on facebook. im not too fussed with anything that happens with her from now. moving forward, id like a bit of constructive criticism on how to handle this sorta situation

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Your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your character, and your character becomes your destiny.

Looking back at it, in my view it all unraveled and the future of the interactions were set in stone when you didn't close after she said You maintained a meandering text conversation and she may have said to herself 'fuck this.'

Moving forward with other girls, always be closing. Don't engage in lengthy text convos until you've had sex with the girl.

U got this boss.

i think thats my biggest weakness there -wanting to chat up girls over text.

thanks pal.

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Your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your character, and your character becomes your destiny.